For context: MIL and FIL are divorced for 15 years, both happily remarried.
I’ve been NC with MIL for 1,5 years, husband has been VVVVVVLC.
So enjoy this nice little message that my husband received Sunday night. She likes to message him at night, we assume because she’s been drinking.
(Everything in parentheses is commentary from me)
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You’ve been brainwashed into believing that I’m evil.
You were turned against [SFIL] and me.
You were told that we’re bad people.
That’s why, at your wedding, your father’s wife was introduced as your mother. (she wasn’t)
Your father cheated on me repeatedly during our 20 years of marriage.
I fought for that marriage until it broke me.
And you!!
You accuse me of making your life hard because of my “wrong perspective.”
Thank you for that!!!
Thanks to you, my life has been completely shattered.
I no longer have a family.
But at least now, I’m no longer afraid to die.
I used to fear death because I wanted to become a grandmother,
because I was proud of my son.
[SFIL] loved you like his own son. (SFIL is NC with all three (!!) of his own kids)
He would have loved to become a grandfather too!!!
We accept that you are throwing us out of your life,
that your circle is against us.
My birthday is coming up, and I would like to celebrate it.
Last year, for my birthday, I would have preferred no fake “birthday greetings” from you, thank you very much!!!!!!!
Your father would have loved to see me dead. Even now. (FIL doesn’t even think about her)
He has destroyed me on the inside,
but I kept fighting!!
You and your wife wanted to destroy [SFIL] and me as well,
to throw me away like trash, like your father did.
Why??
Your wife meddled in things she didn’t even understand! (no clue what she’s referring to here)
And you just stood there grinning.
But whatever.
You’re happy now.
You have your family.
My father would have been so proud if you had at least visited his grave!!! (MIL was NC with her father for years, only started speaking to him shortly before he passed. Then she was the grieving daughter, of course)
You chose your path —
to cast [SFIL] and me completely out of your life.
Maybe narcissism plays a role in your circle, maybe not. (Obviously I’m the narcissist in her mind)
[NAME], you do what you believe is right.
You’ve accused me, blamed me,
and ultimately thrown [SFIL] out of your life too.
Just know this:
OUR DOOR WILL ALWAYS BE OPEN TO YOU!!!