I’m sure there are plenty of people who take issue with anyone having active sex lives regardless of gender, but wow… when a woman says she has an active sex life, it’s like that statement has its own gravity.
It’s amazing how many people feel the need to point out the ideas that men and women experience sex differently, that it’s easier for women to have sex than it is for men to have sex, and that women who have or have had multiple partners likely experienced some sort of abuse that altered them emotionally and/or physically. To be clear, I’m not saying that any of this is true or untrue. What I am saying is that I don’t really know how responsible it is for us to make those sorts of declarations, us being total randos online who base our analysis and diagnosis on likely less than a few minutes’ worth of reading.
It seems like the professional statisticians, therapists, and physicians just suddenly come out of the woodwork when a woman talks about having a less than puritan sexual lifestyle, and those same professionals seem to remain in the woodwork far more frequently when it’s a man describing that same less than puritan sexual lifestyle.
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I’ve never heard of either of these opinions.
This post is best suited for the unpopular opinions of the 1980s sub.
Yes it’s entirely possible that any person has decided they like sex, or have a fetish, or whatever it is they enjoy and then proceed to partake in said extracurricular activities.
Well done I say. Life is short.
I agree that there’s a double standard with sexuality when it comes to men and women, but I can’t say that most of the people I’ve seen doing slut shaming suggested it’s because of abuse. I’m not sure who the professionals you’re talking about are either but if they’re exposing what you’re saying, they probably have their own biases and slant.
tldr – every man and woman and non-binary person should be able to fuck as little or as much as they want
Anyone who assumes this is insane.
>It seems like the professional statisticians, therapists, and physicians just suddenly come out of the woodwork when a woman talks about having a less than puritan sexual lifestyle
……where. name them, link the data. I have literally never seen this said. In fact I’ve seen the extremes said–that a fear of or avoidance of sex as well as being hypersexual are both indicators of abuse. Nobody says that occasionally having consenting sex is an indication of abuse.
>It’s amazing how many people feel the need to point out the ideas that men and women experience sex differently, that it’s easier for women to have sex than it is for men to have sex
I mean sure if youre only getting your info from 4chan/redditor incels maybe?
Does there not exist a “Quick, I need Therapy, I am having a moment” Reddit? There really should be
So so so so true – in fact I would say the opposite is more true –
From what I’ve seen and the hundreds and hundreds of women I know – sexual abuse is actually more common with women who don’t like sex or have sexual challenges/ hardships.
The more open and free a woman is with her sexuality, the more comfortable? Usually means two things. She had good relationship with dad growing up and her sexual boundaries were respected – ( as long as with men who respect her)
I do think with women into extreme sex stuff- like stripping , sex work in general – it’s not indicative of direct sexual abuse – but I think it’s indicative more of a father figure who was sexually inappropriate with them and didn’t respect her boundaries growing up. Women who grew up with men who openly sexually objectified women , mom or her or who didn’t respect that woman’s sexual boundaries as a child. ( if anything ) women into positions of power sexually usually didn’t have any as a kid.
I think the biggest indicator of sexual trauma growing up is having major sex issues – not liking sex or feeling comfortable with it and the other big one is having sex with men who don’t respect you or like you. That’s a bigger sign than being sexually uninhibited.
I think those views are rooted in the very outdated ideas that women do not enjoy sex and that they should be saving themselves for that special man. For people who still hold such views, when they see a woman behaving outside of what they consider the norm they assume there has to be some underlying reason. If women don’t enjoy sex and she’s had an active sex life obviously (they assume) it’s not because she enjoys sex or is doing it as her duty to her husband, so she must have been abused, etc.
So you’re not aware that puritan views are more common in people with past abuse then
Making generalizations is bad- that’s not really an unpopular opinion.
Who the hell is saying that
I find that i hear more about sexual repression being a sign of past sexual abuse. Anecdotally, it’s certainly more true in my own case.
Nah downvote sorry. Not unpopular at all. If you’re seeing too much content that is making you think this then get off the internet a bit.
lol wut
It’s a bit gross, but not illegal I guess.
in what context are statisticians, therapists and physicians coming out of the wood works to discuss any random woman’s sexual history? How often are women just broadly discussing their sexual history in public forums?
as much as I understand the notion of the double standard with sex between men and women, I think a lot of women get in their own heads about what other people are thinking about their sexual history
and like yeah, sure there will be men who will throw every insult in the book act a sexually active women, but all they end up doing is exposing themselves as the type of men to avoid
but I think it gives you no value to care about what random people think of your sexual history
And today there was a post buy a guy asking why women don’t make the first move. Hmmm I wonder.