This woman starts out saying that she is in a very unhealthy place, she is really underweight and having trouble gaining weight because of other health problems, and she was on birth control but it failed. She said she doesn’t think she can keep this pregnancy because she’s so sick and wants advice on abortion. So we have several women saying they will adopt the baby, just ignoring the fact that she is physically unwell and a pregnancy will probably make her much worse, if she can even carry to term at all. I looked at one of the women’s profile and she recently rehomed a dog because she couldn’t afford it anymore. But you can afford an adoption and a whole ass newborn baby?! I honestly think these women have no intentions at all of adopting and just want to pressure this woman into keeping her pregnancy, thinking someone out there will surely step up. Another woman who commented about adopting was asked why she hasn’t adopted a baby from foster care already, and she said that wasn’t her path right now. What?! So you only want this one woman’s baby that you don’t even know? Other women were saying that abortion severely screws up women mentally for years and years and we don’t even know all the negative effects it can have on a woman….except that we do. Most woman are relieved and happy with their decision. The research shows that in the long term over 90% of woman are happy with their abortion. It’s just infuriating that these women think that a clump of cells and what would jesus think is more important than this whole fucking woman with a whole life and family that loves her. There were also several women supporting her, offering a shoulder to lean on, and giving advice of places to go and ordering the abortion pill online since she’s not far along.
Also the woman made a comment that if she did decide to go through with pregnancy and went through 9 months of hell she sure as shit isn’t giving up her baby, because it wasn’t about not wanting a baby in first place, it was about her poor health.
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People are jerks.
People really ARE jerks sometimes.
call each and every one of these meddling Melissas out publicly (if you have the bandwidth).
But before you do, please take the time to do some Googling and privately message this woman about where she can go and who she can contact.
She needs help, not lectures, and it sounds like these other b*tches are NOT interested in helping her.
Talk is cheap. I’ll bet if it came down to it, those women wouldn’t take the baby
Sick people. Lacking empathy. Though empathy is just a new-age term that does a lot of damage, right? 🙄 /s anyway. There are jerks everywhere. You’re on the right side, OP.
A woman’s life is worth more than nothing which is what an embryo is unless the woman and no one else decides it’s something more than that.
I never once had an ounce of depression about my abortion. You know when I did have horrific mental health struggles? The whole first trimester with my son. You know when else? Right now, while pregnant with a baby we very much wanted. I have HG and have spent a month bed bound feeling the sickest I’ve ever felt in my life. I’ve gotten to a really really low place. On top of that my income was suddenly cut in half. I’ve barely been able to see my older child because I just been too sick. I’ve been able to push through (barely) because we really really want this baby. I can no imagine being forced to carry a baby you didn’t want and then having a complication like this. I think I’d probably consider unaliving myself.
I hope she’s getting equal or more support for abortion as well. This is her choice, and it doesn’t sound like time for a pregnancy.
I’m sorry she’s getting such grief from the folks in her group. She’s SICK. Her health could be endangered by carrying a pregnancy, but those forced birthers don’t care about HER health.
Grr.
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People love to think of women as just baby carrying vessels and not actual human beings.
It’s none of their business. Adoption in the USA is human trafficking.
Tell them that kids gonna end up in foster care under their tax dollars that usually shuts those types up
Could you please share that even if one is sick in a way that is dismissed by pro life doctors, even being pregnant at all even if it doesn’t last can contribute to becoming seriously chronically ill and disabled? I feel like this poor lady needs to hear some understanding of how dangerous her situation is, and that getting an abortion is extremely reasonable and in her situation, smart.
What’s depressing is ruining your body and gaining weight for a child you don’t want, then being judged by others if you give it up.
I would be very careful about posting something like that to Facebook. If she went ahead and had the abortion, you can just imagine the types of post she would get and they would be ones that you couldn’t post to reddit.
I had an abortion. My cell clump would be 18 this year….
Yeah, i dont care though.
I have NEVER been depressed or sad about my abortion. I celebrated after it was done. The only time i cried was when i found out i was pregnant because i didnt fucking want it and the closest clinic was far as fuck cuz i lived in the south.
Dont care.
YEET
ETA…
When i got the positive pregnancy test the Dr. and nurse congratulated me. I just looked at them and said “Im getting it sucked out of me. Im not happy about being pregnant.” Their fucking faces… ugh.
Not every pregnancy is a good thing, and maybe they should find out what the fuck before acting like its so happy for the person.
The abortion per say did not make me depressed, i had one, i got over it, it made me fat Lol) , i gained 60 pounds i think and then some.., when i worked so hard to get it off so i was glad to get it out of me. I know i wouldnt have felt any motherly bond with it, think it might have something to do with my adhd, i feel epathetic and disassociated alot with many things, except romantic relationships, that is🤔.
I also was afraid and still am afraid of the birthing process, but my mom basically forced me to get an abortion🤔, by saying she would sell the house and make me move in with my dad, which she all gaslightes me to this day and claims she doesnt rememebr , and THAT does actually bother me that she didnt let ME decide…, if i wasnt so afraid of giving birth i would have rather just given it up for adoption, well, i was sort of a wreck at this time no idea if i was coming or going, idk… 😐
Just really bothers me that my parents decided this for me, i was 27 at the time, not 16. Also i think my mom made it sound like my disabilities were inherited, not exactly sure tho but mine arent at all, i just felt like this was all another way she was trying to control me. I thought about it after and i dont think i would have even passed anything on🤔 except maybe for my adhd since everyone else in my family does have it including me, but all my other disabilities like eye and vision problems were from being premature, and even that was only because of an infected prenatal vitamin shot my mom had. If it didnt get infected she would have easily carried me to full term and i wouldn’t have had these problems to begin with, thus any baby I had wouldnt have gotten then thing i got..
Also it bothered me that my mom ‘suggested’ i also get my tubes tied after it, not that i wouldnt have done it ANYWAYS🤔, i knew i never wanted kids since i was young, but let me decide that for myself.
Sooo… Lol basically i guess im just depressed over the fact my mom pushes stuff on me on me because she’s toxic🤔 and its still working at 40.
WTF? Facebook is allowing that kind of comment?
Abortion doesn’t screw people up if it’s what that person wants, but how other people around you act on response to it definitely will
I used to really love this particular billboard in Cleveland for Preterm, an abortion and family planning nonprofit, for this reason. It was powerful to drive past—it simply said, “I’m grateful for my abortion.”
Which is the sentiment most women have after their abortions. Sometimes that gratefulness is tinged with sadness or anger or a little regret, but by and large the abortion narrative that gets buried is that a women becomes pregnant, has an abortion, and is relieved she did so. It’s so important for young women to know that narrative.