Location: Kentucky
I have been a single mother for 3 months now. I do everything for my baby. My sperm donor hasn’t reached out to me at ALL since she’s been born. Yesterday, I get a knock on the door from a police officer with protection order papers. He put a PROTECTION ORDER ON ME and LIED in his statement! Lying and saying im harassing him, lying and saying I “denied” him a paternity test, lied and said he’s been trying to be a father and I wont let him, these are all lies! He hasn’t tried not once to contact me and now he’s trying to get TEMPORARY CUSTODY of my daughter whom he doesn’t even know!! This man has been in the mental hospital, he is an alcoholic, there’s absolutely no way they are going to take my baby from a good and loving home and just give her to him, right?!?! The thought of her ever being with him makes me physically feel sick. This is MY baby. He’s done nothing for her at ALL. Left me alone during my pregnancy.
Any advice? I’m getting an attorney. Obviously, there’s no way this could work out in his favor. What can I do about his lies? I forgot to mention I bought a house 2 hours away from here and im supposed to move in 2 weeks. Help.
Edit to add: he put in the paperwork that he’s “seeking protection for my daughter” like what? I’ve been trying to protect her from YOU!! This is insane and infuriating.
Comments
If this ends up in court, the language you use matters. Referring to him as a sperm donor or saying “this is my baby” can reflect badly on you, even if you feel anger is justified. Family court is focused on the child’s best interests, and unless there’s clear evidence he’s unfit, both parents usually have a right to be involved.
Getting a lawyer is the right move. Make sure you have documentation to show his lack of involvement. Also, since you’re planning to move, check with your attorney about how that could affect things now that legal action has been filed.
Keep it focused on facts, not emotion. Courts respond to stability and cooperation, not personal grievances. Let your attorney handle the rest.