So im 25M in a relationship with a 28F, we were on vacation and i saw she followed some new dude, she left her phone in the car and i checked, the dude commented her story on IG “good cameraman”, she was in a bikini, i immediatly confronted her, she told me “why i was controling her” and that this guy is just an old friend from her and her brother and that he has a new IG account and that he was there when she did take this photo (she was then on vacation with her brother without me). They did have some small conversation on IG but nothing special i couldnt see everything. What to do now? I said sorry for controling her but i said she needs to tell me about guy friends. We also broke up last week for a few days because she saw i following a new girl on IG. I do feel bad for checking her phone.
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Doesn’t seem like that much of a big deal. I would personally break it off though.
i mean if she can control and stalk your ig activities, then so can you..fair is fair
Yeahhh if she’s getting on you about following a girl then it should be the same vice versa. Yall should definitely sit down and talk about it. Set boundaries and tell her honestly how you feel. I know it could be hard sometimes for men to open up about stuff like that but if you genuinely see a future with her then you shouldn’t be afraid to do it. If she down plays your feelings then…you should think about the relationship more.
My boyfriend and I talked about something similar before we decided to make it official.
seems like u both have issues trusting each other on social media, maybe start there.
You guys are closer to 30 than 18.
Neither of you understand boundaries or control.
Control is yourself cant do this, you can’t do that, a boundary is your limit, what you find acceptable and unacceptable, and after expressing this, if they choose to continue, you break up.
In this case, break up, this is exhausting.
Well, I would end things if someone invaded my privacy. But whatever.
Seems you’re both immature and insecure and maybe just need to stay broken up.
Lmao such a toxic relationship. Following people on ig and you both break up with each other.. sounds real healthy.
You’re both 25 & 28, and still stalking each others instagrams and having fake break ups. If you don’t trust each other, what’s the point of even dating.
Social media is really not that serious. I’m having a hard time understanding how a follow leads to a break up.
I think the big issue here is that you don’t trust each other. I would absolutely never be in a relationship where a guy didn’t trust me.
For me, if someone snoops on my phone I will break up with them. I need trust in a relationship.
Now.. if someone came to me and said “babe I’m feeling a bit insecure” then that’s different. I’d reassure them and likely would hand over my phone on the spot just to ease their mind. But to be sneaky and snoop because you don’t trust me is a huge deal breaker.
Hang on a second. “Good cameraman?” The guy was there with her and her brother on vacation?
First of all, THIS guy took the picture. He was complimenting himself in a cheeky way. And her, a 28F taking a vacation with her brother? Not as likely. What is MUCH more plausible is that she went on that trip with this guy and was cheating on you while she was there. She said it was a vacation with her brother, but that was a lie.
What evidence do you have that the brother was even with her that whole time? Any pics of him?
This whole thing stinks to high heaven to me.
You both would be happier without Instagram. And probably each other.
So she broke up with you for following a new girl on IG but just insists that you accept her bullshit excuse about some new guy commenting on her bikini post?
Nah man it’s your turn to dump her. And keep it permanent this time.
Very insecure couple. Social media sounds real toxic for y’all. You need to either trust her or not.
Make up with her long enough to get a make up blowjob and then cut your losses she’s lying her and her brother are both in on her fucking that dude and lying to you about it
Sounds to me like y’all deserve each other.
You’re both behaving like children
You both sound too immature to be in a relationship together.
My spouse can follow whoever they want, as can I. We both trust that we want to be with each other and if not we would talk about it.
Ditch the hypocrite.
Sounds like y’all should break up. Sounds very immature and controlling on both sides. I wish someone would be monitoring who the heck I’m following on social media
So let me get this straight… you followed someone on social media without telling her so she dumped u last week… and ur back together and she does the exact same thing and u wanna dump her?
Did yall just not even bother having a conversation about controlling eachother online ? Orrrr did u agree to be more open and honest w eachother?
Cause the way I see it- u were being sneaky enough that her gut reaction was to not trust u and to leave. Now ur gonna do the same shit to her after she got back w you?
Like im not saying anyones MORE guilty than the other- but yall legit sound like dramatic teenagers.
A 28 year old shouldnt be so insecure shes gotta dump u when u start following a woman on social media. If u were innocent in YOUR following a woman online, but freak out when SHE follows a man online- all I see is an admission of guilt that maybe u werent as innocent when you did the same thing, and are now projecting that guilt onto her as if shes doing what you did (which may be accurate)
This seems like a completely normal, respectful and healthy relationship. Surely nothing will go wrong
Break up lol. You two are clearly toxic.
This is where you jump on and comment under him “damn right”.
The guy is obviously hitting on her but she doesn’t seem to be returning the energy. Take some pride in having a hot girlfriend. If you’re going to act jealous like this and not trust her, may as well break it off now.