TLDR: i’m having trouble accepting the lack of communication between us right now, the distance is only temporary but im not sure we’ll ever eachother irl after this shitshow.
I (21F) have been in a long distance with my (22M) partner since May of this year. For context, this is both our first relationships. We had known eachother for about a month before we decided to make things official.We had only been officially together for about 5 weeks before he had to go for the entire summer until the end of August so the relationship was still in the early stages. He planned this trip with his friend last year way before we met and he really wanted to do it get out of his shell as he is a really shy and sensitive guy irl. Our relationship was great in person, he was such a sweet guy and never made me feel anxious or question our relationship in any way.We always made time to see eachother even though we were both in final year of uni and had so much work to do. We’d find any excuse to meet up, even if it was just for 5 minutes to talk.
Everything was going fine up until about a month ago and then he kept sending dry responses back to my texts and eventually just ended up leaving me on delivered for days at a time and never texted or communicated first. I sent him a text about this 3 weeks ago and I am still on delivered. The day after I sent him my text he removed me from his snapchat private story which I thought was really odd. I didn’t say anything bad, I just asked why is he ignoring me and that I understand he has other priorities right now but it would be nice for some communication at least.He also doesn’t like/ view anything I post anymore even though he used to before. It’s like he’s trying to pretend that he isn’t online even though I can see when he’s active lol.
I really miss talking to him and hearing from him, i’m really upset about this whole situation and I feel like i’m being punished even though I did nothing wrong. I’m just delusionally hoping that he’ll respond / want to meet up when he gets home but i’m not so sure anymore. I know I shouldn’t be trying to defend his shitty behaviour in any way but it’s just hard for me to accept that he’s acting like this right now. I know I haven’t exact painted him as the best person, but please refrain from dog piling on him / shit talking. Any advice is greatly appreciated x