Newly divorced! Trying to make friends but I really don’t want anyone hitting on me or thinking there is a possibility for more. How can I be clear that I’m trying to make friends, but I’m not interested in anything more! I don’t know if it’s the glow up or that I’m alone and happy, but more and more people keep making moves and showing interest. I am social dancing but the regulars have a mutual understanding that we are not trying to hook up! I’ve had a lot of guys ask if I was married and ask for my number. I typically add them on Facebook instead…unless they don’t have one. But I want it to be clear, I don’t want them to feel rejected….but I don’t want more than friendship now or ever. Sure I want to marry again, and would even be happy if I met the right guy tomorrow….but even then I’m not ready to date and don’t want to! Even if I love everything about the guy, I don’t want it if God’s not leading both of us! After learning what my marriage really was, I don’t want it if God’s not in it !!! But as I make genuine friendships that are platonic, I don’t want to lead anyone on or have them hold on to hope when it isn’t there! I would love any advice.
Possible things to say when asked if I’m married:
*Recently divorced, but not available.
*Not pursuing romantic relationships, but trying to make friends and connect with my community.
*Happy to be single and not looking.
• I’m just here to____ (dance, make friends, enjoy ___, etc.)
Are these clear but not rude or over dramatic?
If asked for my number, can I say” yes if it is for developing a friendship or communication for events, but just know I’m not wanting any other kind of relationship ”?