I just married my husband a year ago. I knew his mother didn’t like me since day one. But not long after I found out, she didn’t like any woman he has ever been with. She treats me terrible when I’m around and says mean things to me, but only does it when no one is watching or when everyone leaves the room. Tells me I’m a problem. What do I do? He never sees her treat me bad but he’s heard her say terrible things about me. He just tells me that’s my mama and a lot of times he puts her first and picks her first. It’s very frustrating and it ruins our relationship. I feel like if she wasn’t around him we would be Amazing together. She causes a lot of issues and blames me for them. She definitely plays the victim card. I’m the bad guy. He won’t defend me because it’s my problem with her not him. SMFH. What do I do?? It sometimes feels like they are married. They demand him to call once a week and text a couple times to keep in touch. He doesn’t keep that promise and they are pissed and they believe it to be my fault. But he has practically told them it is. She’s very controlling and wants him to do everything her way, especially with his career.
Please what do I do😞??
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OP, avoid being alone with her, if it looks that you are about to be left alone with her then remove yourself also.
If she tells you that you are the problem, look at her and smile sweetly and state from what I have been told, it is you that has the problem with any woman your son has been with! MIL is pushing your buttons because you don’t respond, calmly match her energy!
MIL has to blame you for DH not ringing because the alternative is she has to face the reality that he doesn’t want to ring her. I would not encourage him to call her. If she wants to blame you, then calmly say perhaps if you weren’t so controlling and overbearing maybe he would but that is your problem MIL, not mine!
Doesn’t sound like he wants to change.
Do you really want to live your life like this?
Have a good long think about how your life looks and how you’d like it to look. Make sure you’re using contraception while you think things through
Mamas boys rarely see the enmeshed relationship they have with their mamas.
It’s a husband issue at this point. If he sees no problem then you’ve got to make the choice to go to war with him because of her, or you walk away with your dignity!