Hello, writing on behalf of a friend. She had been seeing a muslim arab man for a while now. My friend is non muslim/arab and not entirely familiar with their customs. He provided excuses as to why she couldn’t meet his family and friends. A few months ago she found out he recently got married to someone from his home country and was also sleeping with someone outside of their relationship. She confronted the other woman he was sleeping with but not the wife. And for whatever reason she still maintained a relationship with this man. She claims that they remained just friends after finding all this out. Over the past weeks they have being having arguments. She explained to me that she has been feeling used and emotionally manipulated by him for some time now. She started to distance herself from him but now she questions whether she should inform his wife. I believe she should have said something when she found out. She has a difficult past which is why I think she stuck around for this man. But I think she’s beginning to understand her role in this messy situation and wants to move on from it but she’s also hurt and is starting to process that. Anyways, she’s looking on advise on whether she should say something to the wife and how to go about it since she is not from the same culture or speak the same language.
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She should not.
I think the best thing she should do is walk away from the situation. Don’t exactly know why she decided to continue to be friends or see this man after finding out he was sleeping with another woman and being married. But it’s best to just walk away from it and not try to add on anymore drama by telling the wife.
Always tell the wife. If she chooses to stay, that’s her choice.
Would the wife consent to a relationship with a cheating man?
She isn’t at the moment.
Let it go
If you were the wife, would you want to know?