The ick usually triggers the breakup honestly. So by the time the breakup happens, I’m basically over it. Icks lately have been either a) realized there was an obvious pleasure gap in the bedroom with no apparent desire on his end to close it or b) unhealthy amounts of obsession/lovebombing way too early to be genuine.
No, it was the reverse. I felt like a huge sense of freedom, like a weight had been lifted off of my shoulders, and that I had a fresh start and a huge surge in energy.
Then I started online dating and began to grieve because it is so awful lol
Lots of ups and downs out of an LTR with the former love of my life. Initially I got the ick and I felt liberated then every luteal phase I cried my eyes out- repeated this cycle for about 8 months. I’m finally starting to feel better lol
For me the ick caused the breakup. Then once I’m out I feel no ick just relief. I grieve and over time I just stop thinking about them and they are literally akin to a stranger to me. No ick, no anger no feelings no living in my head. It’s good. If you still have the ick, you might not be over it.
The ick is there from the first red flag and slowly grows and grows for months and maybe years even after the breakup to bring the clarity of “thank god I didn’t get stuck with that goon”. It’s wonderful
Yeah it was heartbreaking at first. Tore me up. Felt real physical pain because he broke up with me over an out of the blue text. As time goes on I saw the real him. He was awful and didn’t deserve my time. Now I feel total ick when he comes up! Easy breakup really considering it was almost a decade long. The first couple weeks were hard then he just was himself and made it so easy to move on.
I waited so long to get rid of him all I had was relief. i was so jagged from the relationship i was the reason the dating pool sucked for a few years. not that i was trying to date, but no matter how honest i was about only trying to fuck i was, people still got their hopes up.
My last breakup (we were together for 3 years) was rough. I cried nearly every single day for 4 months straight! Then suddenly, one day, I woke up and was like “huh….anyways” and never cried over him again.
Our relationship wasn’t horribly toxic, but it definitely wasn’t amazing. I’m not sure why I cried so much when I knew the relationship was draining. But I’m much better now, in an amazing relationship and definitely happier in life 🙂
Horribly. To the point everyone was tired of my lamenting, longing and depression. I was inconsolable. One day I realized what was done to me mentally – the mental and financial abuse. then I looked at it with new eyes. Now its the ick. It took a hot minute once I could see I couldn’t unsee it.
I did. It was something he did, breaking a promise to me, and being a dick about returning my kitchen items which he knew I loved but he had grown accustomed to. Sorry, bruh, you dumped me because I glowed you up and helped you pursue your ambitions. You don’t get to keep my shizz. He also made like 2x what I did, so I didn’t feel much sympathy.
ETA: I felt the ick because he was demonstrating that the person I loved didn’t exist and he was really just an AH who was afraid of confrontation.
No. I felt really guilty for a few years for “ruining his life” until I saw him at a party with his new wife, and saw the situation from an outside perspective for a second.
There I was, in a blue dress and flower crown, carrying myself like all the springs in the world had blossomed into me. And there he was, in his ever so boring demeanor, looking ridiculous in his cargo shorts, DIY suspenders, scarlet shirt, grey tennis socks in sandals, and maroon fedora.
At that moment I knew that I had done the right thing in breaking up with him.
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The ick usually triggers the breakup honestly. So by the time the breakup happens, I’m basically over it. Icks lately have been either a) realized there was an obvious pleasure gap in the bedroom with no apparent desire on his end to close it or b) unhealthy amounts of obsession/lovebombing way too early to be genuine.
No, it was the reverse. I felt like a huge sense of freedom, like a weight had been lifted off of my shoulders, and that I had a fresh start and a huge surge in energy.
Then I started online dating and began to grieve because it is so awful lol
Lots of ups and downs out of an LTR with the former love of my life. Initially I got the ick and I felt liberated then every luteal phase I cried my eyes out- repeated this cycle for about 8 months. I’m finally starting to feel better lol
No. I still love him so much it’s ridiculous 😭😭😭
For me the ick caused the breakup. Then once I’m out I feel no ick just relief. I grieve and over time I just stop thinking about them and they are literally akin to a stranger to me. No ick, no anger no feelings no living in my head. It’s good. If you still have the ick, you might not be over it.
The ick is there from the first red flag and slowly grows and grows for months and maybe years even after the breakup to bring the clarity of “thank god I didn’t get stuck with that goon”. It’s wonderful
Yeah it was heartbreaking at first. Tore me up. Felt real physical pain because he broke up with me over an out of the blue text. As time goes on I saw the real him. He was awful and didn’t deserve my time. Now I feel total ick when he comes up! Easy breakup really considering it was almost a decade long. The first couple weeks were hard then he just was himself and made it so easy to move on.
I waited so long to get rid of him all I had was relief. i was so jagged from the relationship i was the reason the dating pool sucked for a few years. not that i was trying to date, but no matter how honest i was about only trying to fuck i was, people still got their hopes up.
My last breakup (we were together for 3 years) was rough. I cried nearly every single day for 4 months straight! Then suddenly, one day, I woke up and was like “huh….anyways” and never cried over him again.
Our relationship wasn’t horribly toxic, but it definitely wasn’t amazing. I’m not sure why I cried so much when I knew the relationship was draining. But I’m much better now, in an amazing relationship and definitely happier in life 🙂
I saw a video somewhere that Hell is the devil laughing at you, showing you videos of yourself crying over the losers you dated 😅
Horribly. To the point everyone was tired of my lamenting, longing and depression. I was inconsolable. One day I realized what was done to me mentally – the mental and financial abuse. then I looked at it with new eyes. Now its the ick. It took a hot minute once I could see I couldn’t unsee it.
I did. It was something he did, breaking a promise to me, and being a dick about returning my kitchen items which he knew I loved but he had grown accustomed to. Sorry, bruh, you dumped me because I glowed you up and helped you pursue your ambitions. You don’t get to keep my shizz. He also made like 2x what I did, so I didn’t feel much sympathy.
ETA: I felt the ick because he was demonstrating that the person I loved didn’t exist and he was really just an AH who was afraid of confrontation.
The withdrawal symptoms had worn out and you became normal again.
No. I felt really guilty for a few years for “ruining his life” until I saw him at a party with his new wife, and saw the situation from an outside perspective for a second.
There I was, in a blue dress and flower crown, carrying myself like all the springs in the world had blossomed into me. And there he was, in his ever so boring demeanor, looking ridiculous in his cargo shorts, DIY suspenders, scarlet shirt, grey tennis socks in sandals, and maroon fedora.
At that moment I knew that I had done the right thing in breaking up with him.
It took like 3 years