This is not normal…. My bf is not like this at all and we have a newborn as well. I think he needs to bond with the baby himself, maybe try some formula/pumping so he can actively participate in taking care of the baby. The more he spends bonding I feel like he would not feel this way. Have him do skin to skin with the baby etc
To be fair.. a bassinet in your room for 6 months is ridiculous. My daughter went to her own room after 10 weeks. Sleep improved so much for both parties!!
What do you mean you agreed to not breast feed? So what if she raises him to find comfort in his mother??!! Who is this boy and why did you have a baby with him??!!
OP is 15?!? Is there any place you can go with your son that’s safe? You sound very mature, and you’re right, your husband IS jealous of your baby.
More worrying is that he’s controlling AF, doesn’t want you to breastfeed, doesn’t want the baby sleeping in the same room as you both (presumably for sex), AND is already saying he doesn’t want his one-week old son to be a “mama’s boy.” 🤦🏻♀️
It’s giving: “real men don’t cry” vibes. You know, even if they are literally a BABY.
OP, you need to get out of this situation right now. A woman’s shelter, a family member (preferably far away), because this is not love, this is control.
This is disturbing. No way in fucking hell I would trust this man to be alone with that baby.. I would have been packing up my shit to leave before this conversation was even over.
That boy needs to go. He’s worried about 6 weeks because he wants sex. He has no right to complain about how you feed him. He’s got major issues that I can almost guarantee will make him a shit father. Coparenting is going to be better than whatever this is.
I wonder if her name is Kaylen and his is Jason. There’s a show called Unexpected that has a couple exactly like this. It was rough to watch their season and see his abuse towards her.
Gonna say the same thing I said over there – I have to wonder how much of this may be sex motivated, tbh. He wants the baby out of the bedroom at 6 weeks…. the timeframe most doctors say is the earliest, safe window to try being sexually active. This could be why he views OP wanting to keep the baby in the bedroom longer as selfish, he’s putting his physical needs first. He dislikes breastfeeding – is this due to his idea of how it may impact her body?
I really don’t think he’s jealous of the baby, not really. He doesn’t care about the baby, his child is just an obstacle. imo This is the classic, shitty, post-partum partner who’s focused on nothing but getting sex from a partner who is busy, drained and still healing.
The way he’s acting just seems oddly manipulative imo.
I’m just gonna say it. I’ve been getting real ticked off with children deciding to have kids, people with bad partners deciding to have kids, and also parents not allowing or encouraging abortion for their kids who get pregnant.
Now OOP gets to suffer. So does the kid.
This might not be correct to say because your body your choice. But a 15 year old should not be a mother! Kids shouldn’t be having kids!
Literally every comment on every one of her posts is telling her to run away and she simply will not listen I am BAFFLED and BEMUSED?! Why continue asking for advice if you just won’t take it? GIRL HE IS A PREDATOR AND EVERY ADULT IN YOUR LIFE HAS FAILED YOU IMMENSELY.
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this is really recent and I found it very concerning, so I thought OP could use some extra support and this is a nice community.
This is not normal…. My bf is not like this at all and we have a newborn as well. I think he needs to bond with the baby himself, maybe try some formula/pumping so he can actively participate in taking care of the baby. The more he spends bonding I feel like he would not feel this way. Have him do skin to skin with the baby etc
To be fair.. a bassinet in your room for 6 months is ridiculous. My daughter went to her own room after 10 weeks. Sleep improved so much for both parties!!
looking at her other posts, she’s 15, her boyfriend is 18, and he seemingly babytrapped her. all the background information makes this very worrying.
wishing and praying this is rage bait. This is absolutely horrendous and I hate to do the classic redditor thing but omg leave his fucking ass
This man ain’t fit to be a father. Should’ve used a condom or pulled out.
What do you mean you agreed to not breast feed? So what if she raises him to find comfort in his mother??!! Who is this boy and why did you have a baby with him??!!
Future not looking good, he’s this nuts now!
OP is 15?!? Is there any place you can go with your son that’s safe? You sound very mature, and you’re right, your husband IS jealous of your baby.
More worrying is that he’s controlling AF, doesn’t want you to breastfeed, doesn’t want the baby sleeping in the same room as you both (presumably for sex), AND is already saying he doesn’t want his one-week old son to be a “mama’s boy.” 🤦🏻♀️
It’s giving: “real men don’t cry” vibes. You know, even if they are literally a BABY.
OP, you need to get out of this situation right now. A woman’s shelter, a family member (preferably far away), because this is not love, this is control.
This is disturbing. No way in fucking hell I would trust this man to be alone with that baby.. I would have been packing up my shit to leave before this conversation was even over.
That boy needs to go. He’s worried about 6 weeks because he wants sex. He has no right to complain about how you feed him. He’s got major issues that I can almost guarantee will make him a shit father. Coparenting is going to be better than whatever this is.
God this is heartbreaking 😫
Ahahaha no. What a loser
Lost me at ‘i told you not to breastfeed’. That dude needs another man in his life to sit him down and tell him what his role is here. Gross.
He doesn’t know anything about babies. Babies need comfort, keep him near you (the baby not the boyfriend).
I wonder if her name is Kaylen and his is Jason. There’s a show called Unexpected that has a couple exactly like this. It was rough to watch their season and see his abuse towards her.
Wow. You are not over reacting.
Gonna say the same thing I said over there – I have to wonder how much of this may be sex motivated, tbh. He wants the baby out of the bedroom at 6 weeks…. the timeframe most doctors say is the earliest, safe window to try being sexually active. This could be why he views OP wanting to keep the baby in the bedroom longer as selfish, he’s putting his physical needs first. He dislikes breastfeeding – is this due to his idea of how it may impact her body?
I really don’t think he’s jealous of the baby, not really. He doesn’t care about the baby, his child is just an obstacle. imo This is the classic, shitty, post-partum partner who’s focused on nothing but getting sex from a partner who is busy, drained and still healing.
The way he’s acting just seems oddly manipulative imo.
This man raped you, is jealous of the baby and has a very high chance of killing you and the child. GET OUT FAST!
He’s a disgusting loser.. get out now
Run
Why do you have all these conversations on text not in person lol
I’m just gonna say it. I’ve been getting real ticked off with children deciding to have kids, people with bad partners deciding to have kids, and also parents not allowing or encouraging abortion for their kids who get pregnant.
Now OOP gets to suffer. So does the kid.
This might not be correct to say because your body your choice. But a 15 year old should not be a mother! Kids shouldn’t be having kids!
Literally every comment on every one of her posts is telling her to run away and she simply will not listen I am BAFFLED and BEMUSED?! Why continue asking for advice if you just won’t take it? GIRL HE IS A PREDATOR AND EVERY ADULT IN YOUR LIFE HAS FAILED YOU IMMENSELY.