This happened today and I wanna know if I am AH.
EDIT; I said “convent store” when I mean’t convenience store. Sorry for any confusion!
So today I decided I wanted to go on a walk and I asked my mom and she offered for me to walk the convent store instead. So I agreed and grabbed my wallet. I then walked to the convent store and with my money bought myself a monster and a small bag of chips.
I did not have a lot of money and was saving the rest for a upcoming trip so I didn’t want to spend too much. So I bought sister a polar pop (It’s a fountain drink you get a circle k) and I check out. My sister’s polar pop ended being free since I used my membership. Although with that being said I couldn’t buy her anything else because I had 2 dollars left.
So I go home and give her drink and I go in my room. Fast forward a couple hours I am snacking on my chips and she comes in. She asks what am I eating and I tell her, she asks for one and leaves.
So fast forward another 3 hours and my mom calls me pissed. She says “Your sister is upset right now and has every right to be. You should have got her chips, if you couldn’t afford you should’ve have bought yours. You can buy it at school or with a friend but not here, here we share things. You know every time she has money she shares.” Even though I got her a drink. I also never asked for her to buy me anything those 2 times. Second every time I go anywhere I have to buy her something. Like I did share my chips with her? I think my mom and sister are overreacting but AITA?
(Little bit of context my mom has always taken my sister side and favorited her because she is special needs and “lonely”. She is introverted.)
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This happened today and I wanna know if I am AH.
So today I decided I wanted to go on a walk and I asked my mom and she offered for me to walk the convent store instead. So I agreed and grabbed my wallet. I then walked to the convent store and with my money bought myself a monster and a small bag of chips.
I did not have a lot of money and was saving the rest for a upcoming trip so I didn’t want to spend too much. So I bought sister a polar pop (It’s a fountain drink you get a circle k) and I check out. My sister’s polar pop ended being free since I used my membership. Although with that being said I couldn’t buy her anything else because I had 2 dollars left.
So I go home and give her drink and I go in my room. Fast forward a couple hours I am snacking on my chips and she comes in. She asks what am I eating and I tell her, she asks for one and leaves.
So fast forward another 3 hours and my mom calls me pissed. She says “Your sister is upset right now and has every right to be. You should have got her chips, if you couldn’t afford you should’ve have bought yours. You can buy it at school or with a friend but not here, here we share things. You know every time she has money she shares.” Even though I got her a drink. I also never asked for her to buy me anything those 2 times. Second every time I go anywhere I have to buy her something. Like I did share my chips with her? I think my mom and sister are overreacting but AITA?
(Little bit of context my mom has always taken my sister side and favorited her because she is special needs and “lonely”. She is introverted.)
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lol no you do not have to buy your sister chips.
it was nice that you got her a drink, which you did not have to do at all either
NTA, this feels like an incredibly minor inconvenience to your sister. Unless you did something like intentionally buy her favorite flavor.
Your mom is being absolutely absurd and unfair.
NTA. Like you went out of your way to get her something and you did share your chips with her. It sounds pretty entitled that you have to get her chips even though you didn’t really have a lot of money.
SHE WAS A ABUSIVE TO THE STAFFFFF
NTA Did you tell your mom you bought her a drink & shared your chips?
Is there something wrong with your sister?
Convent store??? What’s a convent store? A place to buy a nun for the day? Can you please clarify for all of us what a convent store is?
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> convent store
Like at a nunnery?
It’s your money to spend as you like. When I encountered a similar situation in my teenage years with my younger sister complaining I wasn’t sharing my snacks with her, that I paid for myself from money I earned. The way I handled it was purchase what I wanted and hid it in my room. We had separate rooms and had a rule that you knock at the door and wait to be told to come in so I always had time to hide anything I was munching on. I believe it’s a good thing to learn to share but it is also a good thing to learn that you are not entitled to have something just because your sister has something she bought with her own money.
NTA. You literally gave her a chip when she asked, you got her a drink of her own, and it’s your money. You did in fact share, just because it wasn’t to the extent your sister/mom were apparently expecting doesn’t mean you are wrong.
NTA. “Mom I shared twice. I got her a drink and shared a chip when she asked. Buying her the snacks she wants is either your or her job since you’re both adults. However I’m fine getting snacks for her if I’m at the store as long as either you or she gives me the money to do so. I’m very disappointed both of you expect me, the minor, to fund her snacks. That’s unreasonable and won’t be happening.” They’re both out of line.
Your mom is being ridiculous. Your sister is 18 and old enough to buy her own stuff. My teen daughters buy one another drinks all the time and I as a mother always offer to give them money so they’re not spending all of theirs. If your mom expected you to share for the house, she could have gave you money.
NTA. You were nice enough to get her a drink. It sounds to me like your mom or a therapist needs to teach her to regulate her emotions.