My sister doesn’t stop herself from trouble because she is trouble, but she always wants someone to be her hero which was me but not anymore.
For context, my sister had a house for 7 years with her boyfriend and kids. She was struggling because she lost her job and her boyfriend wasn’t working. But she was not paying her bills so they were pilling up, she ended up losing her house and had to live with our mom for some months. She then got an apartment, I even helped her pay the first month and told her to be cautious this time. At the time she only had 2 kids, my sister would talk about more kids but I told her not to think about that since she’s not financially stable. Did she listen? No, she was now pregnant with her 3rd child and I knew that wouldn’t work but its her life. I did tell her I wont help her if she keeps doing that to herself, was the last time we spoke honestly.
The apartment only has two rooms so the kids sleep together, my sister did find a job at wendys but was fired after 3 months over a fight with a customer. Her boyfriend left to go to his baby mother house, never seen after that.
Anyways my sister and I rarely talk, I felt like she was hiding from everyone and she was. I checked on her a few times but that was it. She finally decided to call me, I thought it was going to be something about what her boyfriend did. She told me she was 4 months pregnant and wants me to help with the baby shower and be there since her boyfriend wasn’t going. I wasn’t happy for her and I know its harsh but its the truth, the only thing I asked was why. I told her to ask our aunt because Im not going or planning it.
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My sister doesn’t stop herself from trouble because she is trouble, but she always wants someone to be her hero which was me but not anymore.
For context, my sister had a house for 7 years with her boyfriend and kids. She was struggling because she lost her job and her boyfriend wasn’t working. But she was not paying her bills so they were pilling up, she ended up losing her house and had to live with our mom for some months. She then got an apartment, I even helped her pay the first month and told her to be cautious this time. At the time she only had 2 kids, my sister would talk about more kids but I told her not to think about that since she’s not financially stable. Did she listen? No, she was now pregnant with her 3rd child and I knew that wouldn’t work but its her life. I did tell her I wont help her if she keeps doing that to herself, was the last time we spoke honestly.
The apartment only has two rooms so the kids sleep together, my sister did find a job at wendys but was fired after 3 months over a fight with a customer. Her boyfriend left to go to his baby mother house, never seen after that.
Anyways my sister and I rarely talk, I felt like she was hiding from everyone and she was. I checked on her a few times but that was it. She finally decided to call me, I thought it was going to be something about what her boyfriend did. She told me she was 4 months pregnant and wants me to help with the baby shower and be there since her boyfriend wasn’t going. I wasn’t happy for her and I know its harsh but its the truth, the only thing I asked was why. I told her to ask our aunt because Im not going or planning it.
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NTA at all – you don’t want to enable her poor decisions, and rightfully so. Having more kids when she can hardly keep the others and herself afloat isn’t fair to any of the kids. Sad.
NTA at all. Sis is stuck in a self-destructive loop and you’re smart not to enable it. Another kid when she can’t even keep a Wendy’s job? Nah. Tough love is still love.