My ex and I split up recently and I came back to get my things. I noticed that my KitchenAid mixer was missing. It is a $300 mixer that my brother had bought me when I first started my baking business, so it has sentimental value to me. That and my brother lives in a different country, so I rarely see him and as weird as it sounds, it’s like having a piece of my brother with me. I had asked my ex about it a few times and he said he thinks he’s seen it at his mom’s and would get it back for me.
Since he has been pretty short with me as of late and tells me I nag and talk too much, I decided to stop asking him. I realized I had his mom’s number and called her directly to ask about my mixer. She sounded weird and said she’d return it the next morning, but I still haven’t seen it. My ex lives in a different state that is 4 hours from me, so I’m trying to get all my things before I go back home soon after selling off all the furniture.
I find it odd that she would take my mixer without asking me, especially since we’re not close and my ex has mentioned several times that his family prefers him single (without me). They also happened to take my two sofas that I bought and another end table when they moved into apartments, and haven’t paid for them. My ex said he would pay for them, but I hate when he picks up their slack. I guess if we were together, then what’s mine is his, but they knew we were broken up. I know they probably think I’m making a big deal out of it and atp I’m not sure if I am or not anymore. AITA?
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My ex and I split up recently and I came back to get my things. I noticed that my KitchenAid mixer was missing. It is a $300 mixer that my brother had bought me when I first started my baking business, so it has sentimental value to me. That and my brother lives in a different country, so I rarely see him and as weird as it sounds, it’s like having a piece of my brother with me. I had asked my ex about it a few times and he said he thinks he’s seen it at his mom’s and would get it back for me.
Since he has been pretty short with me as of late and tells me I nag and talk too much, I decided to stop asking him. I realized I had his mom’s number and called her directly to ask about my mixer. She sounded weird and said she’d return it the next morning, but I still haven’t seen it. My ex lives in a different state that is 4 hours from me, so I’m trying to get all my things before I go back home in a few days after selling off all the furniture.
I find it odd that she would take my mixer without asking me, especially since we’re not close and my ex has mentioned several times that his family prefers him single (without me). They also happened to take my two sofas that I bought and another end table when they moved into apartments, and haven’t paid for them. I guess if we were together, then what’s mine is his, but they knew we were broken up. I know they probably think I’m making a big deal out of it and atp I’m not sure if I am or not anymore. AITA?
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No, they stole off you and hoped you wouldn’t do anything about it. Tell them you will go to small claims court (if you have one where you are) if they don’t return your property or pay you for it. NTA
NTA. Give them ultimatum that if you don’t get your stuff back on a certain date, you’ll file a report of theft to the police.
You’re definitely not the asshole. The mixer (and furniture) are yours, and his mom had no right to take them, especially after the breakup. You’ve been polite about asking, which is more than fair. You’re not overreacting, make sure you get your stuff back or at least get compensated.
NTA. What they did is called theft. Your ex’s mother may have been told she could take it. Make it clear this was never the case. Even if inconvenient if you are leaving in a few days you may need to just swing by their place and collect it yourself. It is unlikely this woman will go out of her way to accommodate you in any way. You may also need to make it clear you will have no choice but to file a report for theft against your ex for all your missing belongings if they are not returned. Mummy might not like you but she likely won’t let her precious baby boy suffer the indignity.
Time to call the police.-
NTA, they simply just stole from you and they will probably not be returning your stuff. They probably saw stuff they wanted and assumed you won’t do anything about it.
You tell her and your ex you get it back immediately Within 2 hours or you’re calling the cops and Reporting it as stolen
She knew exactly what she was doing. Don’t chalk it off to anything other than nefarious.
Oh Hell, no! Your KitchenAid??? This means WAR! Anyone coming for my KitchenAid is not making it out intact.
NTA.
Call and give one warning, and a deadline, you get your mixer and payment for your couches, or you will file a police report, then follow through. You’re being walked on by those people.
If you have receipts & proof the sofas & mixer is yours take her to a small claims court. NTA