I recently got a part-time job at a liquor store that is close to where I live. I work two jobs now. My goal is to have money saved just in case if anything bad happens because a lot of people including myself feels like the economy is not doing well. I ended up telling my mother and brother about me working there and they got so angry at me and said how reckless I am being and that I am risking my life. I do know that there is a risk everywhere. However, where I work it is in the suburbs. It is not in a bad part of town. There is not a super late night shift up. I get off at 9:00 p.m. every night. There are security cameras everywhere. There’s even a button that I press that’s behind the desk in case if anything happens. Also there is a police station close by. Even after expressing these things to my family, they blew up on me saying that I am being selfish and that I am not acting right. My mother says that she feels like that I stabbed her in the back due to her lending me money and knowing I am working a potentially dangerous job. She said that she would never put people that loved her in a position to where they would worry all the time. I am not going to just randomly quit because I know it is not fair to those people. I have been working there for almost 2 months. Many customers that come through are regulars. They’re really nice people. They’re just wanting to buy their booze and leave. I am aware that there is a small possibility of something happening but that is literally everywhere. To me it sounds so manipulative and draining, but I want to hear what other people think. AITA for refusing to randomly quit due to the worries from her?
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I recently got a part-time job at a liquor store that is close to where I live. I work two jobs now. My goal is to have money saved just in case if anything bad happens because a lot of people including myself feels like the economy is not doing well. I ended up telling my mother and brother about me working there and they got so angry at me and said how reckless I am being and that I am risking my life. I do know that there is a risk everywhere. However, where I work it is in the suburbs. It is not in a bad part of town. There is not a super late night shift up. I get off at 9:00 p.m. every night. There are security cameras everywhere. There’s even a button that I press that’s behind the desk in case if anything happens. Also there is a police station close by. Even after expressing these things to my family, they blew up on me saying that I am being selfish and that I am not acting right. My mother says that she feels like that I stabbed her in the back due to her lending me money and knowing I am working a potentially dangerous job. She said that she would never put people that loved her in a position to where they would worry all the time. I am not going to just randomly quit because I know it is not fair to those people. I have been working there for almost 2 months. Many customers that come through are regulars. They’re really nice people. They’re just wanting to buy their booze and leave. I am aware that there is a small possibility of something happening but that is literally everywhere. To me it sounds so manipulative and draining, but I want to hear what other people think. AITA for refusing to randomly quit due to the worries from her?
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> 1) me working at a liquor store against my mom’s wishes. 2) it might make me the asshole for refusing to quit to ease her worries and to not put my part time employer in a bind.
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NTA It’s not up to them to decide what job is ok for you to have. If you think you’re safe enough that’s fine
Your family are upset because you have a job? Because it’s in a shop? Because they disapprove of alcohol?
What exactly is their issue?
NTA, it’s your life and you have full autonomy over it. Others can’t make you do anything.
NTA – but since they only got concerned because you told them you worked there you can get rid of the drama by telling them you’re working somewhere else.
NTA. Your mom needs to chill. You’re not out here selling meth. You’re working a legal job in the suburbs with security, cameras, and police nearby. She’s acting like you joined a cartel
Nta- I’m assuming that you are a fully grown adult because you work at a liquor store correct? Momma is definitely being overprotective if that’s the case.
Danger can be anywhere at any job, more dangerous to get in a car everyday statistically so do they not get in a vehicle or drive??? Nta
Nta. Live your life, keep your job, do you!
I understand mommy’s fear, but she can’t lock you up so that nothing would ever happen to you. You just need to be careful ❤️
I don’t have enough information to answer this. Are crime stats available? Talk to someone at the police department and see how much of a risk it really is?
NTA. I’ve been at my job for almost a year and didn’t realize it was dangerous till last weekend. We work with DV victims and some dudes don’t like it that we are helping them. Considering how many women die in abusive relationships, yeah it’s dangerous. But I refuse to quit. And my family would never ask me to.
NTA Tell them that liquor stores are no longer robbed as often, as people have stopped using cash.
Exactly how are you endangering your life? Walking down the sidewalk can endanger your life because who know if a car won’t jump the curb & hit you? What if you walk down the sidewalk & slip on ice & break your skull? Slip in the tub? Bad things happen. You can’t live your life indoors with bubble wrap cushioning!
NTA
NTA. Wow, your mother is the delusional queen of drama!!!! WTH? You are not acting right? What, by being financially responsible by working for an emergency fund? Smh. She has no right to dictate where you work or pull this emotional manipulation!
Stay put. Yes, statistically, you have a better chance than the average bear you might get robbed. Ditto every clerk in a convenience store, liquor store, and check cashing center in the country, not to mention banks. There is a negligible chance of getting shot. This is why these positions pay well. But it is just that, negligible.
Tell the ‘rents they need to retake their stats classes.
NTA
I’m confused… do
Your family watch a lot of crime shows or horror movies or something? Cause this is an extreme reaction to a simple enough situation. It’s not like you work until 3am or something. You aren’t joining a gang or becoming a career criminal… and you aren’t working as a police officer, fire fighter or joining the military. Working in a liquor store doesn’t immediately equate danger.
NTA but I don’t understand what exactly the danger is.
Is this in a liquor store? NTA
Your mom should pay you back if she is so worried about it