(I made this new account because my sister knows about my other one, and I don’t want to cause more conflict)
I 27 female, got married to my husband 29 male 8 months ago. At the wedding, my sister’s now husband proposed to her, completely stealing the show, with all of my guests fawning over her huge diamond ring. She justified it by saying that it was a great time to do it because the whole family was there, but her husband’s family was not there, so that doesn’t really make sense to me, but I also found out that she was not surprised by him, but she was also planning it. Anyways, her wedding was yesterday, and I had just found out that I am pregnant a few days before. While we ate dinner, I stood up and clinked my glass to tell everyone the news. I kept telling myself that what I did was just because it was great timing with my family around, but I now think it maybe was spite due to her taking over my big day. She is very angry because I “stole the spotlight” at her wedding, but when I explained that I had felt the same way she told me it was different because my pregnancy took more attention than the proposal.
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Original copy of post’s text by /u/Afraid-Factor-607: (I made this new account because my sister knows about my other one, and I don’t want to cause more conflict)
I 27 female, got married to my husband 29 male 8 months ago. At the wedding, my sister’s now husband proposed to her, completely stealing the show, with all of my guests fawning over her huge diamond ring. She justified it by saying that it was a great time to do it because the whole family was there, but her husband’s family was not there, so that doesn’t really make sense to me, but I also found out that she was not surprised by him, but she was also planning it. Anyways, her wedding was yesterday, and I had just found out that I am pregnant a few days before. While we ate dinner, I stood up and clinked my glass to tell everyone the news. I kept telling myself that what I did was just because it was great timing with my family around, but I now think it maybe was spite due to her taking over my big day. She is very angry because I “stole the spotlight” at her wedding, but when I explained that I had felt the same way she told me it was different because my pregnancy took more attention than the proposal.
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Oh look, your parents raised two selfcentered assholes !
Congrats to them both on raising equally stupid assholes!
YTA
ESH
you both suck. She’ll probably announce her pregnancy at the baby ahower next.
Is it law here that this exact story gets posted every two weeks?
I don’t think you was an asshole.
Lmao NTA but YTA at the same time you just did to your sister what she did to you at your wedding (stole the spotlight).
Wow what an original story….never seen this one
YTA
ESH. You’re both AHs
That’s world class pettiness right there, I love it
Nah I think that’s pretty fair. She purposefully planned to be engaged at your wedding with out even asking you if it was ok. She does not care about you. Karma always comes back 10x worse, so I am glad your pregnancy stole the show. bonus points in you really did stand up and clink the glass that’s awesome.
Stay away from her and protect your baby + mental health.
YTA. It was her day & you chose to try to make it about yourself. Self centered & egotistical to believe your pregnancy is that important to your family that your sister should step aside on her day for your glorified cream pie.
You made a new account because this is fake
As a woman kinda but also you two have a fight going trying to put shine the other. I’d say you could have waited but congrats! 🎊👏 To both of you.
Loved being pregnant and hope you married a man not a baby like alot of these guys now.
Well I was going to say of course you were, but I see this was more pay back. Not really that mature (two wrongs don’t make a right) BUT very understandable. I would take a step back from your sister. This competition is not healthy. Don’t give her more opportunities to make something about her. As an example, I would not invite her to the baby shower. Go live your life drama free.
NTA
Yes. You are a total asshole for doing that.
This feels fake lol but if it’s real…NTA. If it was okay to do at your wedding, it’s okay to do at hers. AHs never learn unless they face consequences, she faced consequences.
ESH. You both sound like entitled, insufferable brats.
Spite or not…she F’d AAFO! Boohoo to the entitled baby. NTA
Yikes! Spoiled ass adults in the wild. I could never do either of these things to my brothers, so both are the assholes here.
You’re both petty, childish assholes.
Petty but yeah i guess you both suck
NTA, to compensate for the many statements you were. IN reality, you and your sister are both ignorant AHs
I think you got even and your sister deserved it. I may be down voted for my opinion, but, it is just one opinion in a sea of many. Why is / was it ok for her to do what she did but it is not ok for you to do the same? Petty, yes, so own it. Maybe in the future you both will be more considerate? Maybe not. You could ask for a truce and make a family agreement that any big announcements will be made at the end of family events so not to take away attention from any person being celebrated or the event being overshadowed by personal news.
You were being spiteful but then she was a jerk too. In a better world you would have been a bigger person but we are all human.
Sis just found out the rule of “don’t start none, won’t be none”.
NTA. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander.
Girl, don’t act like you didn’t plan this. Of course, you did it out of spite. That being said, NTA, because your sister started this shit. But be aware it won’t end, and she will pay it back tit for tat.
this belongs in traumatize them back
Nta or esh. Her wedding was fair game after what she did to yours. So either you both suck or no one does.
Yes
Well, she deserves it, of course.
But, frankly, any good news at a wedding that has to do with family should be welcomed by the bride and groom. Because, rather than a star-centered Prince and Princess day, weddings are for family.
Supposedly. At least that’s how it used to be. Now they seem to be personal brand marketing.
And yeah, of course this story is fake AF.
NTA what’s good for the goose is good for the gander.
YTA
Sounds like you both need to grow up. Your future kid deserves a better mom and emotional environment than this kind of crap.
YTA
Just because she did it to you doesn’t mean you have to go to that lower level and do it to her.
Both of you are AH’s.
NTA. But total spite. Well done!
Yes
I think you should talk with your sister about it. Maybe start the conversation by telling her that you completely understand will respect her say if the answer is no. She is really the only one that can give you the greenlight for this.
Ew
Nta. OP’S sister did it too, not even asking about her permission to propose. She was even a bigger ah as she was planning ahead of the wedding with her fiancee to steal the attention from Op. I would say: what is good for a gander, it is good for a goose as well. If sister did not care to ruin Op’s wedding, why would OP care? That was petty revenge and a good one. Sister has tasted her own medicine.
ESH. Good job!
ESH. Attention isn’t worth acting like this is it? You both look dumb.
Yes you should continue your petty passive-aggressive behavior with your family members.
Satan laughs maniacally in Hell
ESH.
You had the opportunity to be the better person, and deliberately chose not to be.
I’ll be waiting for 50 years for the Reddit post, when one of you decides to announce at the other one’s funeral that they too, are dying. Only a much slower, more painful death. A worse death.
Also, you found out a few days before? Most people wait at least three months to tell anyone other than immediate family because that is when the chances of miscarriage greatly reduce.
Probs fake but I live for this type of petty.
Yes. You are
You should both get over yourselves and congratulate each other
Nta
I wouldn’t tell your kid this story in the future, it just sounds like you did it to spite her, not that you wanted a kid
ESH – You are both AHs
Two wrongs don’t make a right.
If she hadn’t done what she did then you would be wrong, but as it stands I think you were just filling her lead that announcing big milestones at weddings is allowed! Well done you!
Haven’t seen this one in a few days. You forgot the part where everyone is now blowing up your phone and how your family is split with half saying you are justified and half saying you are an asshole.
Yes. It was her day. You made it about you.
Family events can be so much drama… especially when everyone’s trying to outshine each other. I mean, you’re not wrong for wanting a moment of your own after she basically stole the show at her wedding, NTA
You’re both assholes. She shouldn’t have planned the proposal during your wedding and you shouldn’t have announced your pregnancy at her wedding.
NTA
She deserved it. Welcome to Petty Lane.
We decided to keep it a secret until after a coworkers wedding we attended with many others from my office.
My wife was experiencing some morning sickness that evening, probably because of the loud music and lots of people in a confined space. We were sitting in the lobby until she felt better when a few coworkers saw us and asked if everything was okay.
They kinda picked up on our silence since. it was the first trimester, we were blowing them off not wanting to announce our pregnancy at a wedding!. We asked them to please not say anything inside to the newlyweds whom we all worked together with.
When they returned from the honeymoon, I broke the news to them and apologized for brushing them off that night as it was their night!! and was not going to overshadow it. He appreciated me for saying that.
Gloriously petty. Nta.
Turnabout is fair play.
Tit for tat. Did your sister really expect after her scene steal at your wedding that you would not bide your time until you had an opportunity to retaliate? If so, she is really stupid!
What goes around, Comes Around!
ESH especially your parents for raising such pathetic attention whor3s…
Nta, its was a great time to announce it and she already set it up that way. Make sure you don’t plan anything in the future because she will 100% announce her pregnancy at your baby shower/gender reveal
Cool story ChatGPT
What a shitty family you guys are.
Now she knows how you felt.
YTA
YES
Yeah you both did what you did to steal the other person’s limelight. What she did was wrong but you one upping it to get back at her was equally wrong
ESH
You are both petty and childish. It’s not a competition.
As they say “ Turn about is fair play” I would say you two are about even.
NTA. Tit for tat.
I was ready to come on here and say YTA but nope, not this time. I’m not even going to say ESH either.
Your sister’s now husband, by proposing to your sister at your wedding set the tone. You simply matched their energy and you replied using the very words she used against you when she got engaged.
Nope – NTA here.
YOU ARE NOT I don’t know why everyone keeps saying that you’re both entitled she is 100% in the wrong and honestly if I were you, I would’ve done the exact same thing. Is it right now but some people need to learn through consequences and her consequence of doing that to you at your wedding, is you doing that to her at hers?
ESH.
It’s okay to let your sister be happy.
YTAH- fake story, new account 🙄
You deserve each other. ESH
NTA if she didn’t start it you wouldn’t have had to end it.
YTA
Yes you are. Selfish. What about me! Attitude
NTAH
She started it. You ended it
Someone needs to really commit to it and have their water break at a wedding and the bride gets mad.
Both are the AH
No need to read the story. Title is enough. YTA
You and your sister are both huge assholes.
You’re both assholes!!!
BRAH!!! I’m glad you did it! And it’s even better that you’re using the same”explanation” she did. Great timing!
ESH. She’s ta for stealing your show and yea for stealing hers. You’re both off. She’s selfish and you’re petty. An eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind.
Nope what you did was exactly what needed to be done
I didn’t even read the full story. Regardless of the blah blah blah, the title says it all.
YTA. The end.
It was her special day, and you tried to take attention from her. Shame on you!!!!
Generally that is an asshole move but, in this case pay back is a bitch. NTA.
I LOVE it!
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it. If anything, I think it’ll make you stand out a bit more.
Congratulations, you won! You’re definitely the BIGGEST AH.
ESH – You guys are insufferable. Your sister was awful to purposefully stealing your spotlight on your wedding and you did the same at her wedding. I don’t buy your “Oops … I did not even notice … I just thought the timing was nice” narrative. You are just as awful as your sister.
NTA. I get revenge. She was a bitch. You were a bitch back. The world is back in balance. I wouldn’t try to justify it in a civil manner – “yeah she was a spotlight stealing bitch at my wedding so I thought, what goes around comes around!” about sums it up.
And I believe this story – so many folks say oh it’s just the same – well in a nation of 330+Million people, guess what, there’s going to be some repetition. At some point of course we’ll get a new fresh extension on the genre because ‘Murica, along the lines of, “AITA my sister’s boyfriend proposed to her on my wedding day, so I sh0t them”.
A lot of karma looking for harvesting.
Yeah, YTA. You acted out of spite.
I don’t see how none of these families don’t have a rule where an event like this belongs to the bride. It’s THEIR fucking day, and not something to be carjacked for another couple. It seems like a really basic thing.
Yes (& I came to this conclusion from the title alone)
You’re both assholes
LOL! Good for you! She knew exactly what she was doing by upstaging YOU at YOUR wedding so now she knows how it feels. She got what she deserved, after all it’s big news & your family is “all together”. NTA
Indeed you are. And, you KNOW you are, but you want SOMEONE to validate YOU because you centered YOURSELF on your SISTER’S DAY!
NTA – FAFO
u/bot-sleuth-bot
And your family isn’t blowing up your phone about this?
NTA. It would be ESH, but your sister can’t change the goalposts just because it’s her wedding. It’s pretty obvious that there was some spite in it for you, but I don’t blame you one bit. These be the consequences of your sis being inconsiderate.
Well, yes and no…
You could have been the bigger person
But!
Do on to others as they do on to you…so I mean. Not really. You sister had no reason to complain.
It is absolutely not different. Was it petty? yes but also and NTA
Yta, you don’t make big announcements at someone else’s event. You didn’t pay for the event. Its not yours to make announcements at.
Yeah, what you did was absolutely an AH move, but I would have done the same thing. “The whole family is here, sis!” lololololol Good job, and congratulations! ESH.
Oh wow 😮 your sister sounds like an entitled brat. It is no different. Congratulations on the pregnancy NTA
ESH
I mean it was spiteful and petty but that’s not to say she didn’t deserve it
Yes. Undoubtedly.
These comments are hilarious 👏🏾
Even if it’s a fake story, finally some justice lol l. AH move sure but they deserved it lol.
u/bot-sleuth-bot
Who gives a s$7t. Your family deserves each other
YTA
It’s her day, not yours. You made it about you. YTA