So this has happend before, it I forget how it usually starts but it ends up going to privacy and stuff, I (16F) simply wanted to settle a conversation on how my dad cant barge into my room when ever he pleases and do what he pleases, i simply asked him not to do that, and then mention i could maybe be changing or not have any cloths on, he said he didnt care and he would still do it, he also said he can go shit on my bed if he wanted to as a joke, I told him to do research on privacy and he got mad and countinued on with how its his house, I understand that yes but I want to know that he wont barge in at any given time, I may of freaked out a little and said some mean things, i dunno what to do :/
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So this has happend before, it I forget how it usually starts but it ends up going to privacy and stuff, I (16F) simply wanted to settle a conversation on how my dad cant barge into my room when ever he pleases and do what he pleases, i simply asked him not to do that, and then mention i could maybe be changing or not have any cloths on, he said he didnt care and he would still do it, he also said he can go shit on my bed if he wanted to as a joke, I told him to do research on privacy and he got mad and countinued on with how its his house, I understand that yes but I want to know that he wont barge in at any given time, I may of freaked out a little and said some mean things, i dunno what to do :/
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Do you have a lock on your door? Is your dad an ass or is he giving predatory vibes? Where is your mom?
NTA for wanting privacy it’s a normal boundary at your age. Maybe next time try calmly explaining that it’s about respect, not rebellion. Your dad might joke, but your feelings are valid.
Oh I’m so sorry! This is not okay and I’m sorry you’re having to go through this.
I would do some research and provide it to him as well as involving another adult that he won’t bulldoze over.
Meanwhile, start changing in the bathroom where the door locks.
NTA! You’re a 16 year old girl and your dad should absolutely knock before entering your room! Tell him his behavior is creepy! Ask him doesn’t he mind the fact that he may see his daughter naked? Why does he not mind that? Tell him it’s weird and none of your other female friends have dads who barge in their room unannounced. I’m not accusing your dad of anything but watch him. He knows this is inappropriate. I’m more concerned with why he continues to do it!
NTA.
I’d buy a security camera. He might go through your stuff when you’re not home. You’ve a right to privacy. You’re 16, not 6.
You’re a 16 year old girl. You’re entitled to some basic privacy. I’m a mum to a 13 year old boy. I would never enter his bomb site of a bedroom without knocking first (unless it was an emergency). NTA. Your dad is overstepping massively. Get a doorstop and wedge it under your door. Simple fix. And if he loses his shit over this simple act speak to another trusted adult.
With your age (and changing body) I find it extremely concerning he will not respect your need to privacy.
NTA. There comes a time when children need and deserve privacy. Certainly, by16, you’re should have some.
NTA and he’s 100% wrong. He is using his position of power and authority to be a bully. What to do? I guess it depends on what your options are. Maybe jam a chair against your door so he can’t just barge in? Maybe find another place to live? Anyway if he doesn’t treat you with respect, he will lose you. You’re not going to be a kid forever, and when you’re independent you’re not going to want to be around him if this is the way he is.
NTA–your dad’s comments go past normal parental behavior. I mean, there are “normal” parents who don’t allow their kids an ideal amount of privacy, but telling you he could shit on your bed? That’s creepy and weird, even before getting to his refusal to respect that you might want to change clothes without him in the room. Is your mom around? Are her feelings similar to his, or does he disrespect her boundaries too? Take care of yourself as best you can, and enlist whatever family help you can muster.