i (17F) received $750 worth of gift cards to this store (sells groceries, clothes etc), i was gifted this from a cancer charity after i was diagnosed at 16 last year. for context i currently live with my parents and sister, a few weeks ago my parents flew to another city to see my older siblings. (found out the day before they left that they were leaving and they didn’t know how long they’d be)
during this time i looked after my sister as she’s autistic, i spent around $200 of my own money on groceries as we were waiting for 1 of the vouchers ($200) to come in. it ended up getting delayed and only came once my parents were back, my dad ended up using the voucher for groceries.
after this i asked him if he could transfer me $200 as that’s roughly what I spent on groceries when they were away. he said no that im just trying to get money from him even after my sister confirmed that I did spend around $200 of my own money on groceries for her and I. he didn’t believe her and said he will transfer $100 max unless I can show receipts, the issue is like a week after they came back i had to go up to a bigger city for treatment and my dad emptied my sisters backpack will should’ve had the receipts.
i guess i feel pretty disappointed as im trying really hard to save up for a car or motorbike or even an electric bike to get around. (i used to ride my normal bike to school or walk but it’s gotten pretty hard to do that since chemo).
maybe aita though cause i haven’t paid for my own groceries or rent since i got sick. (i don’t eat much, only 1 meal once every 2 days). i really want to get a part time job to save but im not medically cleared.
i guess i was planning to possibly sell the vouchers or something as i really do just want some transportation.
am I just being selfish? and were the vouchers for my parents to spend cause they provide groceries?
i would love any outside perspectives especially from parents. regardless if they’re negative or posting.
thank you for reading!!
TLDR: aita for asking for $200 after my parents spent $750 worth of vouches that i was going to sell?
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i (17F) received $750 worth of gift cards to this store (sells groceries, clothes etc), i was gifted this from a cancer charity after i was diagnosed at 16 last year. for context i currently live with my parents and sister, a few weeks ago my parents flew to another city to see my older siblings. (found out the day before they left that they were leaving and they didn’t know how long they’d be)
during this time i looked after my sister as she’s autistic, i spent around $200 of my own money on groceries as we were waiting for 1 of the vouchers ($200) to come in. it ended up getting delayed and only came once my parents were back, my dad ended up using the voucher for groceries.
after this i asked him if he could transfer me $200 as that’s roughly what I spent on groceries when they were away. he said no that im just trying to get money from him even after my sister confirmed that I did spend around $200 of my own money on groceries for her and I. he didn’t believe her and said he will transfer $100 max unless I can show receipts, the issue is like a week after they came back i had to go up to a bigger city for treatment and my dad emptied my sisters backpack will should’ve had the receipts.
i guess i feel pretty disappointed as im trying really hard to save up for a car or motorbike or even an electric bike to get around. (i used to ride my normal bike to school or walk but it’s gotten pretty hard to do that since chemo).
maybe aita though cause i haven’t paid for my own groceries or rent since i got sick. (i don’t eat much, only 1 meal once every 2 days). i really want to get a part time job to save but im not medically cleared.
i guess i was planning to possibly sell the vouchers or something as i really do just want some transportation.
am I just being selfish? and were the vouchers for my parents to spend cause they provide groceries?
i would love any outside perspectives especially from parents. regardless if they’re negative or posting.
thank you for reading!!
TLDR: aita for asking for $200 after my parents spent $750 worth of vouches that i was going to sell?
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> i (17F) asked my dad (65M) for $200 after I spent $200 of my own money on groceries for my sister and i and he spent $750 worth of vouchers i was gifted from a cancer charity.
his response to me asking was that i was just trying to get money from him and he made me feel like I was an asshole for even asking.
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You’re not an adult why are they trying to charge you for something they legally have to provide?
Nta. You are still technically a child and under your parents care. You should not have to buy groceries or even babysit your autistic sister for extended periods of time. If your parents can afford to fly out to visit family, then they can afford to support you properly
You are 17.
You have cancer.
In no way should you be paying rent or groceries. That is the responsibility of your parents.
I’m really sorry you’re dealing with this — especially on top of everything else. Honestly, you’re not the asshole here. The gift cards were meant for you, and it’s frustrating that they were used without your consent, especially after you stepped up and paid out of pocket to take care of things in their absence.
That said, one tough reality is that sometimes the people closest to us don’t show up in the ways we hope — and it hurts. But at the end of the day, you’re the one who has to look out for you. As hard as it is, it might be best to chalk this up as a painful learning moment about your situation and focus on moving forward.
If transportation is your goal, I’d suggest leaning into online platforms where you can sell unwanted gift cards securely. It’s not ideal, but it can help you get closer to what you really need — something that gives you independence and makes your life a bit easier while you recover.
You’ve already shown how capable and responsible you are — don’t let this discourage you. Just keep moving toward your goals, even if it’s one small step at a time. You’ve got this.