I bought breakfast at a cafe. I would say I am reasonably regular, like they would recognise me. I ordered the same thing I always do, a veggie breakfast. They always put the eggs on the plate and never on the toast. I always have to move them and sometimes I break them. I like it better when the eggs are already on the toast. I asked them today when I ordered if they could put the eggs on the toast. The owner acted like I was being really fussy and said I could put them on myself. Then I could hear her talking to the chef “sometimes it gets a bit much.” I got my breakfast and the eggs were on the toast but I would never ask again based on her reaction. It kind of made me feel embarrassed and like I don’t want to go there any more for a while, which is disappointing because I like their breakfast. Was I the AH for asking for the eggs on the toast?
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I bought breakfast at a cafe. I would say I am reasonably regular, like they would recognise me. I ordered the same thing I always do, a veggie breakfast. They always put the eggs on the plate and never on the toast. I always have to move them and sometimes I break them. I like it better when the eggs are already on the toast. I asked them today when I ordered if they could put the eggs on the toast. The owner acted like I was being really fussy and said I could put them on myself. Then I could hear her talking to the chef “sometimes it gets a bit much.” I got my breakfast and the eggs were on the toast but I would never ask again based on her reaction. It kind of made me feel embarrassed and like I don’t want to go there any more for a while, which is disappointing because I like their breakfast. Was I the AH for asking for the eggs on the toast?
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> I asked for my eggs on toast because I prefer it that way so I don’t accidentally break my eggs when I move them but I may be the AH bc thd owner thought it was a fussy request.
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NTA for something so minor that makes your experience all the better. Personally, I wouldn’t return if “that’s a bit too much” for them to handle.
Need more context. Have you been pretty picky before? For just this interaction, NTA.
Nah some people who work in service just act like the worlds out to get them ( I work in service and a lot of my colleagues are like this. I think if someone’s polite and the request is free/ easy why not?)
NTA this is such a minor request they were rude
This is weird. It shouldnt have been such a big deal for them to do it, but just gently put the eggs on the toast yourself.
Maybe they were just having a bad day and annoyed by something else. But no, NTA.
NTA unless the are extreme high volume place and kitchen is an assembly line like a McDonalds.. If high volume place, special orders can slow up the other food prep. But even then the chef should not have complained, should of just said ok or I can’t do that.
Eggs on your toast or not on the toast should not be a big problem, I am surprised they batted an eye.
NAH for asking but maybe it messes up the timing of their plating. If one of the items is normally cooked before the other they may have to now adjust because they need to time them more closely together. Or now they have to be more careful since you want it on the toast.
NTA
this ‘ask’ is minuscule (IMO) of things to request. For him to whine & complain loudly enough that you could hear was rude. Hopefully you can find a new spot
NTA. That’s really a very basic request and any place with decent service would do it for you. And talking about you like that to the kitchen and loud enough for others to hear…
Girl, I used to be a server so I’m a very generous tipper and so for me to say this it has to be egregious: I wouldn’t tip somebody like that. A big fat zero OR I’d walk out and the tip line would say ” don’t talk crap about regulars who make very minor requests”
Find a breakfast place where eggs on toast isn’t “a bit much”
Not ok.
NTA, my boyfriend works in the kitchen of a breakfast spot and I just asked him if it was an unreasonable request and he said no way and they were being ridiculous to make a thing of it.
NTA. It’s hardly an unreasonable request. That would be the day I found a different local café.
NTA maybe someone or something annoyed them earlier and they took it out on you. That is such a minor request it’s ridiculous they would make a fuss over it.
NTA. They’re professionals. They should be happy to accommodate you. Don’t stay away. Go back with the usual smile on your face and ask for your eggs on your toast. If they forget, give them a smile and say, “Excuse me. I’d like my eggs on the toast.”
If I was treated like I was fussy for such an easy request and I overheard the owner and chef talking negatively about me, I’d never go back. I’d figure it was made real clear that place doesn’t want my business. NTA
NTA. If such a trivial request ruins the servers day they are in the wrong job.
Where I went to college there was a place run by the culinary arts students that I went to for breakfast most days because they had a really great veggie scramble. I use to ask them to mix my home fries with the scramble, and they never even batted an eye. The first time I asked I said “if it’s not too much hassle, could you…” the guy taking my order laughed a little and said something like, it’s made to order so order it how you want it…
First world problems. Give your head a wobble.
NTA. Once I went to a coffee shop, ordered my preferred drink – ice latte with almond milk and sugar free English toffee syrup. After I was done, the person behind me in line started going off how he doesn’t like fake milk and he only wants “real” coffee, none of that “gross gel stuff” – like he was going off for a solid minute and in coffee line times, that’s basically 20 minutes. The barista agreed with him and also hated on my drink. I decided to never go there again. I am type one diabetic and can’t drink milk because it makes my body hurt.
NTA. Restaurants are in the hospitality business, and for the cook there is absolutely no difference between sliding cooked eggs onto a plate or onto a slice of toast.
FFS if someone asking for one of the easiest and most basic things is “a bit much” they’re in the wrong line of work. You’re not asking them to pick the arugula leaves out of a mixed salad, you simply,y wants eggs on a slightly different part of the plate. NTA
I feel like breakfast is the MOST customizable meal — you get to say crispy bacon or not crispy, eggs cooked a zillion ways, the type of bread for toast, etc. Your ask was not unreasonable; they were oddly rude about a regular customer. NTA
NTA, this is the least inconvenient dish mod ever. The cooks have spatulas to move the eggs from the flattop or pan, you have a fork and knife. Not nearly as easy.
NTA. Eggs on toast can make the toast soggy and harder to put butter on!
Maybe asking for “toast on the side” next time will help these fussy little dudes understand how easy it is to accommodate this request.
NTA. I’d go in again and ask for my eggs on toast, and add ‘If that’s a bit much for you, I can have breakfast somewhere else. Just let me know if you’ve got all the business you want.”
100% ask for your eggs on your toast. It’s good practice advocating for yourself, I sense you need it.
NTA. I’m paying you 100% for the meal, so you need to make 100% of my meal the way I ordered it. And this is such an easy request?
Is it a fried egg? If so, it’s a lot easier for the chef to place the egg on the toast using a spatula than the eater using a fork and knife.
Not only are you NTA, you are morally superior for eating your eggs on toast.
no you are not
NTA
My dude, the second I’d have heard the OWNER say “Do it yourself”, I would have turned around and left, never to return. Find a place that appreciates your patronage
NTA that is a common and completely normal request in breakfast service. It’s really not something you should feel embarrassed about, sounds like that person is an asshat. The person was probably having a bad day and responded poorly but that’s bad business. I personally would take a break from the place, if you can’t pretend to be nice to your customers I don’t want to be a customer there. I’m an anxious person, I’m going to feel like shit every time I order there now even if I have no special requests.
NTA but wouldn’t the eggs make the toast soggy?
NTA
Keep asking for your eggs to be on the toast.
NTA I thought the restaurant knowing the way you like things and doing it that way is a big reason people become regulars.
NTA. Not a big request.
But if you never go back, they won’t know and won’t miss you. It’s not gonna hurt their business, if that’s what you’re going for.
NTA. You can also cook at home and not have to pay a premium for the service. I bet they also felt entitled to a tip after that pisspoor service.
NTA. Sure you could do it yourself, but it was a simple request they could easily fulfill and it’s not like you were berating them for not doing it before. You were asking for a small modification which restaurants should be used to.