So I’ve never posted here before…my dad has asked me to have a conversation about my request to change his shirt before friends came over yesterday. I, 20F, live with my family in our home. My dad, 45M, has a large collection of political merchandise for a certain individual.
I’d like to preface this by saying in no way do I insinuate or every ask him to change his beliefs. Yesterday I hosted a watch party for a TV show that was released and it was my first time having my friends over. Most of my friends are queer in one way or another, or queer as well as a POC. I asked my dad to change out of his MAGA shirt before they came over and told him it was okay if he didn’t want to, that my friends would be respectful but I wanted to make sure it was a welcoming environment for the first time here especially since we are in a small rural town.
After a long ranting session about how its his house and he should be able to wear whatever he wants, I agreed, but said that he had offered anything I needed to make this a good first visit and that was the one thing I asked of him- but that if he didnt want to change my friends wouldn’t make it a big deal.
He approached me today asking to have a conversation about this and my mom already warned me that he was extremely upset about yesterday. SO reddit, am I the asshole? Should I apologize, or is there any points I should bring up? I understand his point but it has been very discouraging to the point where I dont really want to bring friends over anymore. He has a history of making jokes and starring conversations in distasteful situations.
Thank you!
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OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole:
> 1) The action I took was asking my dad to change out of his political affiliated shirt 2) I might have been the asshole because it is his house and he is entitled to wear what he wants here
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