Ok so I have a quick update for some commonly asked questions so it’s not a real update but just some more info for those who were asking. My step sister is 31 now and I’m 26 my step father and stepsister have a good relationship. My stepfather and his ex wife are still friendly and it wasn’t a bad divorce they still care about each other but their love just faded out. My mom and step father started seeing each other 8 months after his and his ex wives divorce. No I didn’t do this as a f you to my step sister that’s cruel and I genuinely didn’t think she’d have any reaction to this news. No me and her are not close but I have no ill will towards her. Yes I do see my step father as a father figure this may be weird to some as he came into my life later but that’s just how it turns out. Yes I do have a good relationship his my step brother I just wasn’t talking about him much during this post because he wasn’t very important to the story. Yes I did invite my step sister to the wedding it didn’t matter if we’re close or not she’s my step sister and I wanted her at my big day. No I absolutely will not be eloping to stop drama this is my wedding and I will have it as planned no matter what happens since this is my day. Yes I do care about her feelings and tried to talk to her about everything before snapping myself, which as I have stated I don’t feel good about. For the people asking no I sadly can’t give you both sides of the story as i am not my step sister and will not be asking her to add her side as I cannot see any way that would turn out well. I’ll try to give an actual update in a few days after I talk to my step dad about what’s going on because I haven’t told him yet because I didn’t know how to bring something like this up.
AITA for asking my step dad to walk me down the aisle before my step sister gets married – Update
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Updateme
You do this you will ruin the relationship between your stepdad and his daughter. But neither he nor you care so go ahead I guess. If you really gave a damn you’d ask your mom to walk you, especially seeing the anguish this caused her. It might be dumb or immature or whatever, but she feels the way she feels and now you know it. Actually you knew it all along because you explained the family dynamic in your previous post but you went ahead and asked him anyway before you consulted her how she felt about it. So I’m taking all your wide eyed protestations of “I don’t understand how this happened” with a massive grain of salt.
People like you are… exhausting. Ask YOUR mother instead of trying to streal the father of someone else. He did not raise you you met him while being a grown woman. You are fu*** weird.
Best of luck with the situation. I think your step sister is selfish, no one owns somebody and can’t expect her dad to only walk her, what if her brothers future wife wants him to walk her, will she say no to that too?!
I understand she feels like you’ve taken her dad but she was an adult when they split. She needs therapy and family counselling with your dad and her mum. It’s been ten years and she’s still acting entitled and selfish.
I hope your step dad gets to walk you, if not, ask your mum maybe.
Too many times I have read on this app where fathers neglect their kid for their step children because they want to please their new wife. I hope that this is not the case.
You need to do full disclosure with your stepdad and let him make the choice. Maybe he can talk some sense into her.
But as bitter, venomous and resentful as she is towards you, I’d reconsider inviting her to the wedding – she’d very likely do something to sabotage it, especially after your quip about her not finding anyone who wants to marry her.
OP, you should not invite stepsister. If she comes, she’ll make a scene and ruin the day.
If you’re old enough to make decisions like getting married then your ‘re old enough to answer this dumb*** question but cool fake update on your fake story bro 🤣
“Walking down the aisle” is not a limited resource.
NTA
UpdateMe
Your attitude still says you don’t give a cr*p. I imagine you say they’ve got a good relationship because you can’t say otherwise, because why would he have a good relationship with you and not his bio-daughter. You’re not going to say if you’ve caused any issues. I’m guessing there’s resentment that you don’t/won’t acknowledge.
Also why not ask your mum to walk you, I doubt your SD would have been upset!
Updateme
Why would you even have this idea? Nobody walks down the isle except the bride and groom, with their escorts.
If you’re not getting married, nobody should be walking you down the isle.