So basically my friend got pregnant with this 27 year old and she keep saying “it fine cus love is all you need to take care of a child” while I do agree love is a step to take care of a child for me being in poverty was really traumatizing.
She currently has no job or high school diploma, so basically she relying on this man she hasn’t even known for a year to take care of both of their needs. Other thing to add is the baby daddy is also affiliated with a group of people that are no good. (Not going into detail or say the full word cus I don’t know if that allow to be said on here) Honestly I am more scared for her baby because this seems like a recipe for abuse or trauma. So AITA?
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NTA
From what you wrote, your feelings aren’t coming from jealousy or judgment, but from genuine worry about her safety, stability, and the baby’s future. The age gap, lack of financial stability, and his questionable associations are all valid red flags, especially if she’s relying entirely on him without having known him long.
That said, how you express that concern will matter a lot. If you come at her with “this is a terrible idea,” she’s likely to get defensive and shut you out. If you frame it as “I care about you and I’m worried about what might happen,” she might be more open to hearing you.
NTA for being concerned for your friend.
I’m less worried about the age and more worried about her trapping herself and her child with an unsavory individual. Sure, she thinks its love and she might even think his potential controlling ways (since control ends up being a big pain point down the road when one person is the sole breadwinner), but over time she’s just gonna feel stuck. Sadly, some people just need to learn the hard way and her child will end up getting caught in the cross-fire of her relationship with this individual.
NTA but I don’t see how this is your problem. And as a parent I can confirm what we already know, love does not feed, cloth, insure, or house a child 🤣🤣
Can you feed a baby with love? Can you clothe a baby with love? Keep a house over it’s head? Give it medicine when it’s sick?
All you need is love is such stupid bullshit. Poor thing gotten taken advantage of by an older man
Nts