Went over to someone’s house one time for a playdate with my son, the person who invited me then left and sat in another room with her man the entire time I was there. Leaving me alone to supervise and play with all the children. Am I the asshole for thinking that was incredibly rude? I never went back for a “play date” after that… Was I wrong for expecting a little social time with the other parent?
For additional info: this is my sister-in-law, the children were my nieces. My feelings felt hurt because I was excited to come over and spend some quality time/bond with her. I was a lonely mom with a 1 year old. I felt like I was treated as a free babysitter. I only take my kids over now for family functions.
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Went over to someone’s house one time for a playdate with my son, the person who invited me then left and sat in another room with her man the entire time I was there. Leaving me alone to supervise and play with all the children. Am I the asshole for thinking that was incredibly rude? I never went back for a “play date” after that… Was I wrong for expecting a little social time with the other parent?
For additional info: this is my sister-in-law, the children were my nieces. My feelings felt hurt because I was excited to come over and spend some quality time/bond with her. I was a lonely mom with a 1 year old. I felt like I was treated as a free babysitter. I only take my kids over now for family functions.
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OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole:
> 1. I don’t bring my children over anymore for “play dates”, strictly only family functions now. And 2. She often asks or implies that the kids should hangout more. But I don’t want to do that if it’s just me alone with the children.
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That’s…awkward. And yes, I would be offended. You aren’t a free babysitter but that’s exactly how she treated you. Rude as hell.
NTA.
NTA for being offended, you are reading this exactly right.
NTA that’s annoying and rude. Did you tell her how you feel?
NTA
If the kids are toddler age or younger, they should have been in the same room as all the rest of the parents. Kids don’t need 100% of the attention at all times but if they’re younger than like 5 they need supervision and that shouldn’t fall to just one adult.
NTA you have every right to be offended, they treated you like a babysitter!
NTA. This is rude and at that point you’re just babysitting.
NTA. You were excited to hang out with her, and she straight-up ditched you to supervise all the kids alone? That’s not a playdate, that’s a bait-and-switch. And the fact that it was your SIL makes it worse, like she assumed you’d just be cool with free labor because family. Good on you for not going back.