Recently I broke up with my ex partner. It was a fairly mutal breakup and I had no problem with it. Afterwards, a week or so ago, I had started a new job. My manager, who is mutual friends with both of us, had told me about what my ex had posted on their Instagram story. It was a full rundown essentially saying that I was suffering with depression and that dating me is a lost cause. After hearing that, I had messaged my ex telling them that they are a shitty human for putting that on show. Now a lot of the people close to me are cutting me off for being angry at the Instagram story. Am I the asshole?
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Recently I broke up with my ex partner. It was a fairly mutal breakup and I had no problem with it. Afterwards, a week or so ago, I had started a new job. My manager, who is mutual friends with both of us, had told me about what my ex had posted on their Instagram story. It was a full rundown essentially saying that I was suffering with depression and that dating me is a lost cause. After hearing that, I had messaged my ex telling them that they are a shitty human for putting that on show. Now a lot of the people close to me are cutting me off for being angry at the Instagram story. Am I the asshole?
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> The action I took was being verbally angry in DMs with my ex over the actions, they responded with angry dm’s back that I don’t deserve privacy over my mental health because of how serious my depression is. I feel like I may be the asshole over my actions because my ex partner took those actions in my best interest, however I still don’t think their actions are particularly fair
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You are clearly not the asshole
I don’t think you are, personally. Like if someone says you’re a “loss cause” because of depression is pretty childish. If someone has depression, saying something like that about them is not going to help and probably make it worse
NTA and saying in your explanation it was in your best interest is confusing. He violated Ypur privacy.
NTA.
You obviously keep private things like that private. Obviously. That was not his to share, and it’s fucking disrespectful even if it were.
The social media bit of this just makes this pathetic. Unless you cheated or were abusive or something, there is literally no instance where there needs to be a damn public service announcement about the behind-the-scenes of an intimate relationship between TWO people.
Btw, they’re not cutting you off because of this (unless you acted scary or disproportionately angry and didn’t mention it). They’re cutting you off because they like him more and you’ve made it undeniniable that they have to “pick a side” now instead of hanging in between seeing where the pieces land. This is not a bad thing, you did nothing wrong. But they are simply flocking where their allegiance lies. Good riddance.
Good, moral people are never surrounded by bad, immoral people.
NTA, and if so called “friends” are dropping you over this, they were never your people to start.
NTA. That’s not “sharing their truth”, that’s airing your medical info to humiliate you. Doesn’t matter if you just broke up, that’s a violation
NTA. It was not done in your best interest. It’s no one business why you broke up, let alone anything about your mental health. Helping you get into therapy is for your benefit. Blasting you on social is demeaning.
Anyone that is distancing themselves from you are showing their true colors and you don’t need that either.
If you are suffering from depression, please consider going into therapy and medication if you have not done so already. You don’t need to struggle in this world alone.
Point out that if he’d been able to give you an orgasm you wouldn’t have been so depressed.
NTA.
If I were to ever see someone disclosing information on the mental or physical health struggles of someone, without some kind of indication that they’re sharing on behalf of the person who is struggling, I know the person posting is trash. A million times more so if that person is an ex. It’s beyond me why this isn’t the first thought of those close to you as well.