So, I had planned to take a break from all social media for about a week, and I made a general statement on my status via WhatsApp. My tutor, a 62-year-old woman, had responded with a simple, “Enjoy!” I said that I would, and that was that. I went for an interview a few days after that, and I had to reactivate my WhatsApp just in case they contacted me. During that time, I was very open about my depression on my status (I usually just post it there because I hate having to explain myself over and over again). A few days after… I had posted a random pic of myself. The tutor was to reply, “Weren’t you supposed to disappear for a week?” I explained the situation and she then responded EXACTLY like this, “Ihu… but in the act of disappearing… you coulda stay quiet 🙂” She never uses emojis at all, and idk, the more I read it, the more it didn’t sit right with me. I asked a friend what she thought of it, and she said she was hurt, and the lady wasn’t even talking to her. I just sent her a very respectful message and told her I’d block her because I didn’t appreciate it (imo, once people can do it once, they’re liable to do it again and again). And I blocked her.
She then used money to directly message my number and make fun of me, claiming that I’m obviously messed up in the head and a whole bunch of other bs. She also said she wouldn’t dwell on it because it wasn’t worth her time.
She ended up lying about the entire thing to my hb who told me about it. Another girl that I had met during the tutoring told me that I was just being petty, and she blocked me.
(A bit more lore: The tutor also used to constantly disrespect my mother [Mom had stated her opinion in a message to the tutor and was branded as disrespectful for it] TO MY FACE. It got to the point that I had to put her in her place.)
AITA?
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So, I had planned to take a break from all social media for about a week, and I made a general statement on my status via WhatsApp. My tutor, a 62-year-old woman, had responded with a simple, “Enjoy!” I said that I would, and that was that. I went for an interview a few days after that, and I had to reactivate my WhatsApp just in case they contacted me. During that time, I was very open about my depression on my status (I usually just post it there because I hate having to explain myself over and over again). A few days after… I had posted a random pic of myself. The tutor was to reply, “Weren’t you supposed to disappear for a week?” I explained the situation and she then responded EXACTLY like this, “Ihu… but in the act of disappearing… you coulda stay quiet 🙂” She never uses emojis at all, and idk, the more I read it, the more it didn’t sit right with me. I asked a friend what she thought of it, and she said she was hurt, and the lady wasn’t even talking to her. I just sent her a very respectful message and told her I’d block her because I didn’t appreciate it (imo, once people can do it once, they’re liable to do it again and again). And I blocked her.
She then used money to directly message my number and make fun of me, claiming that I’m obviously messed up in the head and a whole bunch of other bs. She also said she wouldn’t dwell on it because it wasn’t worth her time.
She ended up lying about the entire thing to my hb who told me about it. Another girl that I had met during the tutoring told me that I was just being petty, and she blocked me.
(A bit more lore: The tutor also used to constantly disrespect my mother [Mom had stated her opinion in a message to the tutor and was branded as disrespectful for it] TO MY FACE. It got to the point that I had to put her in her place.)
AITA?
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I may not understand WhatsApp or why you’d bare your soul on it all week if the reason you’d left it activated was for employers to contact you–but NTA. It sounds like she’s just a loon who has no further reason to be in your life.
NTA. Keep her blocked. She’s the one who is messed up.
If you are depressed, and haven’t seen a doctor, see one. Don’t post anything that you wouldn’t want a future employer to see.
NTA. She paid you money to say your not worth her time? But your worth her money?
Block and move on. Good luck with the job search!
NTA
Why was this woman even in your contact list?
NTA. If she works for a company, please report her. She shouldn’t be harassing her students. It’s unprofessional.