AITA for breaking someone’s fingers?

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AITA a few years ago I was out dancing with some friends and a guy kept grabbing my butt.

I told him 3 times to stop. We kept moving away from him, but he kept following. The last time I told him he’d regret it if he touched me again.

He grabbed my butt again and I grabbed his fingers and yanked downwards. I was intending to make him fall forwards so he’d be embarrassed (and the floor was gross!), but instead I felt his fingers snap. He fell to the floor screaming and holding his hand.

So, AITA? My husband thinks he deserved everything he got, but I still have horrible flashbacks to the feeling of his fingers breaking.

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    AITA a few years ago I was out dancing with some friends and a guy kept grabbing my butt.

    I told him 3 times to stop. We kept moving away from him, but he kept following. The last time I told him he’d regret it if he touched me again.

    He grabbed my butt again and I grabbed his fingers and yanked downwards. I was intending to make him fall forwards so he’d be embarrassed (and the floor was gross!), but instead I felt his fingers snap. He fell to the floor screaming and holding his hand.

    So, AITA? My husband thinks he deserved everything he got, but I still have horrible flashbacks to the feeling of his fingers breaking.

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  3. wildflowerb Avatar

    NTA. You were sexually assaulted, you warned him 3 times and he continued. You didn’t mean to break his fingers but honestly, I’m glad you did. He had it coming. I hope it hurt enough that he never does it again. Good on you! Don’t feel bad for it 🙂

  4. No_Outcome2321 Avatar

    NTA. You told him to stop. He didn’t stop. He fucked around and found out. Maybe next time he will stop and think about the time he got his fingers broken on accident and stop harassing people.

  5. snchills Avatar

    NTA He’s lucky you didn’t knee him in the balls. If his hand hadn’t been on your butt, your hand wouldn’t have broken his fingers. Think of it this way, you may have saved some other poor girl the same treatment because hopefully now he wont ever do it again.

  6. Novel_Pin_6784 Avatar

    NTA. Props to you for doing it, too!

  7. ChicagoWhiteSox35 Avatar

    NTA. I bet he will think twice about grabbing people now.

  8. GarlickyEyes Avatar

    NTA, you were repeatedly groped and defended yourself.

  9. Apprehensive-Toe6933 Avatar

    You were being sexually assaulted and you were proactive in making damn sure he knew you weren’t gonna stand for it. Good for you! Though traumatic for you, you saved yourself for being advanced on in potentially more serious manner. NTA

  10. kathop8 Avatar

    NTA in fact, you’re a bit of a hero to the rest of us!

  11. ObscureObesity Avatar

    Self defense, nta. I wish I would read more stories like this. Men need to be retaught their place. Still psychological holdings though, maybe some ptsd or stress induced trauma. EMDR therapy is noteworthy for that kind of trauma. Might be worth looking into for processing and healing purposes.

  12. PhilosopherBrave8635 Avatar

    NTA, this is the definition of fafo

  13. SturtsDesertPea Avatar

    NTA. He fucked around and found out

  14. ScarletNotThatOne Avatar

    NTA because you were intending to just make him fall. Which would have been fine! The fact that his fingers broke, well, that was an accident. Which he’s responsible for, because he committed the crime that led to the accident.

    Gross, though!

  15. jd-rabbit Avatar

    I had to laugh about this. get you some of that. Good job, lady.
    I’d buy you and your husband a drink just for the floor show

  16. Little_Kitchen8313 Avatar

    NTA – I understand you regret doing something so out of character and you obviously didn’t mean to break his fingers. However, you were defending yourself against repeated SA so F that guy. Hopefully he’s learned to keep his hands to himself.

  17. MailFar6917 Avatar

    LOL! Honey, you could have shot him in the face and I still wouldn’ think YTA.

  18. Asleep-Banana-4950 Avatar

    would it have been better if your husband had broken his fingers (or his face)?

  19. i_am_lizard Avatar

    You told him NO 3 times, you did not give him consent, you even warned him.

    NTA

  20. NatoliiSB Avatar

    NTA…

    It’s self-defense against Sexual Assault.

    The fact that you regret it just means you have a conscience.