AITA a few years ago I was out dancing with some friends and a guy kept grabbing my butt.
I told him 3 times to stop. We kept moving away from him, but he kept following. The last time I told him he’d regret it if he touched me again.
He grabbed my butt again and I grabbed his fingers and yanked downwards. I was intending to make him fall forwards so he’d be embarrassed (and the floor was gross!), but instead I felt his fingers snap. He fell to the floor screaming and holding his hand.
So, AITA? My husband thinks he deserved everything he got, but I still have horrible flashbacks to the feeling of his fingers breaking.
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AITA a few years ago I was out dancing with some friends and a guy kept grabbing my butt.
I told him 3 times to stop. We kept moving away from him, but he kept following. The last time I told him he’d regret it if he touched me again.
He grabbed my butt again and I grabbed his fingers and yanked downwards. I was intending to make him fall forwards so he’d be embarrassed (and the floor was gross!), but instead I felt his fingers snap. He fell to the floor screaming and holding his hand.
So, AITA? My husband thinks he deserved everything he got, but I still have horrible flashbacks to the feeling of his fingers breaking.
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NTA. You were sexually assaulted, you warned him 3 times and he continued. You didn’t mean to break his fingers but honestly, I’m glad you did. He had it coming. I hope it hurt enough that he never does it again. Good on you! Don’t feel bad for it 🙂
NTA. You told him to stop. He didn’t stop. He fucked around and found out. Maybe next time he will stop and think about the time he got his fingers broken on accident and stop harassing people.
NTA He’s lucky you didn’t knee him in the balls. If his hand hadn’t been on your butt, your hand wouldn’t have broken his fingers. Think of it this way, you may have saved some other poor girl the same treatment because hopefully now he wont ever do it again.
NTA. Props to you for doing it, too!
NTA. I bet he will think twice about grabbing people now.
NTA, you were repeatedly groped and defended yourself.
You were being sexually assaulted and you were proactive in making damn sure he knew you weren’t gonna stand for it. Good for you! Though traumatic for you, you saved yourself for being advanced on in potentially more serious manner. NTA
NTA in fact, you’re a bit of a hero to the rest of us!
Self defense, nta. I wish I would read more stories like this. Men need to be retaught their place. Still psychological holdings though, maybe some ptsd or stress induced trauma. EMDR therapy is noteworthy for that kind of trauma. Might be worth looking into for processing and healing purposes.
NTA, this is the definition of fafo
NTA. He fucked around and found out
NTA because you were intending to just make him fall. Which would have been fine! The fact that his fingers broke, well, that was an accident. Which he’s responsible for, because he committed the crime that led to the accident.
Gross, though!
I had to laugh about this. get you some of that. Good job, lady.
I’d buy you and your husband a drink just for the floor show
NTA – I understand you regret doing something so out of character and you obviously didn’t mean to break his fingers. However, you were defending yourself against repeated SA so F that guy. Hopefully he’s learned to keep his hands to himself.
LOL! Honey, you could have shot him in the face and I still wouldn’ think YTA.
would it have been better if your husband had broken his fingers (or his face)?
You told him NO 3 times, you did not give him consent, you even warned him.
NTA
NTA…
It’s self-defense against Sexual Assault.
The fact that you regret it just means you have a conscience.