This might sound very stupid, and that’s because it is. My friend who I’ll call Kyle, and I have been friends for a while now. We are both guys in our mid 20s, and while I like spending time with him, he does have one annoying bit that he does constantly, which is calling people “good boy”. For example, if he drops a pen on the ground and I give it back to him, he will call me a good boy for picking it up for him. Similarly, when he asks for something from me and I do it, he will again call me a good boy. I rolled my eyes at this at first, but it has truly gotten frustrating over time. I sometimes tell him to shut the fuck up, and when I do, he does for a while, only to start again a while later.
Two days ago, we were hanging out at a friend’s place as a group, including Kyle and his gf, who I’ll call Mia. Now, Kyle, Mia, myself, and another friend were a bit more separate from the main group to help Mia go over some questions, as she has a driver’s test at the end of the month. We were trying to be helpful, but at the same time, talking amongst each other, so we were a bit distracted. That’s why Mia wanted Kyle to sit down next to her and go over the questions with her. The first time she asked, it went over his head, but the second time, she was a bit firmer when she asked, and so Kyle went over and sat down. Seeing this, I couldn’t help myself and said, “Yeah, sit down like a good boy”. From just looking at him I could see that he was angry. He didn’t say anything except grumble to himself, but was also colder to me throughout the day.
I talked to the friend who was there about how he did the same thing all the time, but the one time someone did it to him, he couldn’t take it. He told me that I was being kind of an asshole because he had never done it to me in front of a partner before, which is fair enough I guess, and now that I think about it, it probably wasn’t that I said it, but that Mia started laughing when I did. Still, I don’t think I’m an asshole for it, but again, I am biased towards myself, so I might be wrong. What do you think, AITA?
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This might sound very stupid, and that’s because it is. My friend who I’ll call Kyle, and I have been friends for a while now. We are both guys in our mid 20s, and while I like spending time with him, he does have one annoying bit that he does constantly, which is calling people “good boy”. For example, if he drops a pen on the ground and I give it back to him, he will call me a good boy for picking it up for him. Similarly, when he asks for something from me and I do it, he will again call me a good boy. I rolled my eyes at this at first, but it has truly gotten frustrating over time. I sometimes tell him to shut the fuck up, and when I do, he does for a while, only to start again a while later.
Two days ago, we were hanging out at a friend’s place as a group, including Kyle and his gf, who I’ll call Mia. Now, Kyle, Mia, myself, and another friend were a bit more separate from the main group to help Mia go over some questions, as she has a driver’s test at the end of the month. We were trying to be helpful, but at the same time, talking amongst each other, so we were a bit distracted. That’s why Mia wanted Kyle to sit down next to her and go over the questions with her. The first time she asked, it went over his head, but the second time, she was a bit firmer when she asked, and so Kyle went over and sat down. Seeing this, I couldn’t help myself and said, “Yeah, sit down like a good boy”. From just looking at him I could see that he was angry. He didn’t say anything except grumble to himself, but was also colder to me throughout the day.
I talked to the friend who was there about how he did the same thing all the time, but the one time someone did it to him, he couldn’t take it. He told me that I was being kind of an asshole because he had never done it to me in front of a partner before, which is fair enough I guess, and now that I think about it, it probably wasn’t that I said it, but that Mia started laughing when I did. Still, I don’t think I’m an asshole for it, but again, I am biased towards myself, so I might be wrong. What do you think, AITA?
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> I called Kyle a “good boy” in front of his gf, which is something that he does constantly, but has never done it while I was with a partner, so I might have crossed a line there.
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lol NTA the guy can’t take a joke
If you can’t take it don’t dish it🤷🏽♀️ you’re def NTA
he 100 percent deserved that. NTA
NTA. He’s a hypocrit. Dish it out, and prepear to get the same medicine.
NTA; does he do it around other people who aren’t considered your partner? Is it the actual first time using the phrase at him? Kinda funny how all this time he didn’t care about the impact of the joke until it was his turn to be the at the receiving end of it regardless of the audience 💀
NTA.
He dishes it out constantly but can’t handle it when the tables turn? That’s classic “can joke but can’t take a joke” behavior.
If calling people “good boy” is his go-to bit, then he should expect it might come back at him eventually — especially when he does it often enough for it to get annoying.
Also, it wasn’t even cruel — just mirroring what he does. That Mia laughed is probably what stung most, but that’s not on you.
If he doesn’t want to be teased, maybe… stop teasing others?
ESH Him A LOT more than you because he has consistently ignored being asked to stop. Sounds like he can dish it out but can’t take it. Being talked down to like a dog is humiliating for anyone on the receiving end, he just got a stronger taste of that humiliation.
NTA
NTA. Don’t apologize and he’ll stop calling u a good boy lol
NTA
He’s a very naughty boy.
He gives it but cant take it, typical.
You asked him to stop, and he didnt. He deserved every bit of that
Nta
lol right? if you dish it out, gotta be ready to take it. classic Kyle 😂
NTA. Maybe he should sit down like a good boy more often.
NTA Kyle can’t complain about his own annoying, belittling phrase being used against him. He can’t complain it was in a situation where it would be grating or humiliating to hear for him, because he intends it to get under people’s skin when he says it to others himself.
Tell him if he didn’t like it he needs to cut it out completely himself. If he continues to say it you will consider it fair game to say it to him when he doesn’t want to hear it and he can just suck it up like he expects you to. One or the other.
NTA. Maybe now he’ll stop doing it.