So my friends husband was having a party and she was gonna order a cake from Walmart. I told her I could make one. So I did. I came over I made the entire cake from scratch. Made the icing from scratch really spent a lot of time into this cake. At one point I did hand her the piping bag and asked if she wanted to try it. And she piped about 4 circles on the cake.
Today was the party, she told everyone she made the cake from scratch. She told her husband over and over that she made it from scratch. I finally told her towards the end of the party not in front of anyone but she said the cake was so good we should sell them! I said girl you did not make it and laughed and she argued that we made it together and that I “helped” her. She got pissed and I left.
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So my friends husband was having a party and she was gonna order a cake from Walmart. I told her I could make one. So I did. I came over I made the entire cake from scratch. Made the icing from starch really spent a lot of time into this cake. At one point I did hand her the piping bag and asked if she wanted to try it. And she piped about 4 circles on the cake.
Today was the party, she told everyone she made the cake from scratch. She told her husband over and over that she made it from scratch. I finally told her towards the end of the party not in front of anyone but she said the cake was so good we should sell them! I said girl you did not make it and laughed and she argued that we made it together and that I “helped” her. She got pissed and I left.
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NTA.
You clearly made the cake from scratch and put in the majority of the work. Saying she made it herself while minimizing your contribution is dishonest and dismissive of your effort. Offering her a chance to help with the piping does not make it a joint effort, it was still your cake.
Calling her out privately was the right move. She is in the wrong for taking credit for something you did almost entirely on your own. You are not the asshole for standing up for your work.
NTA- Next time there’s an event you should ask her to bake a cake for it, and this time she can do it herself since all you did was “help” last time. Say you’ll apologize only if she beats you in a baking competition lmao
NTA. She’s a credit stealing AH. At least now you know not to give her another chance to steal your work. I hope her husband asks her to make another cake just like the previous.
Hint: She is not your friend.
How rude! NTA.
Why is your friend so disconnected from reality?
Info. Is there a chance she thought claiming she baked it was an obvious joke to everyone and is just annoyed you didn’t get it?
Nice cake! NTA
NTA Lies eventually backfires, and in this case, she’s probably lost a friend. She’s at the very least lost your trust, and I rekon eventually someone will ask her to make them a cake and she won’t be able to. She will have negative consequences. I’m not sure if it’ll make up for missing out on receving the positive reaction to your cake. I’d be telling everyone on the downlow that I made the cake and then get one of them to ask her to make a cake and watch her reaction.
I’m 100% sure that someone will ask her to make it again since she won’t shut up about it.
Don’t help her then and that’s it.
Lesson learned.
Don’t help again and / or not be her friend.
In good news, you never have to do this wench another favor, ever again. When she asks–and she will–“Nope. I’m not in the habit of doing things for people who steal credit for my work.” NTA
You can’t be an AH for standing up for yourself. You put in 100% of the work so you deserve 100% of the credit. Im willing to bet your friend was one of those AH in school that when put in group projects did the barest of minimum work required.
NTA. We’ll see how well this goes when people ask her to make a cake because this one was so good and she’s unable to recreate it.
She’s sketch. Talking about let’s sell them. Girl bye
NTA
NTA that cake was beautiful. She should have given credit where credit was due. Don’t do anything like this for her again. She cannot appreciate you
She’s not your friend. No real friend would do that.
NTA I feel like I saw this cake before. Did you post this cake on the baking subreddit? It’s pretty awesome looking!
NTA. Beautiful cake, you did a great job! Does she normally lie like that? Lying directly in front of the person who made it is wild.
Tell her to make it again then without the recipe. She is an idiot. NTA.
Lol thats honestly such weirdo behavior, NTA! People are so shameless !!
Her ego is more important to her than your friendship. Say bye and you have the best life without her
Bizarre behavior from your friend I am surprised you didn’t say anything to correct her in front of people. Idk if you can really reason with someone like this. At least her husband probably knows she didn’t really make it by herself as usually a husband would know her skill level with this sort of thing … anyway she should’ve been praising you and telling people about what you did for her.. seems obvious here
NTA but her husband 100% knows she didn’t make that cake lol
NTA. And you have amazing restraint to wait to speak to her privately. My petty ass would not have been able to resist openly mocking her the second I heard her bragging.
NTA