Throwaway account because I don’t want this connected to my main.
I (20F) recently found out that I’m pregnant. My boyfriend (27M) and I have been together for two years. The pregnancy wasn’t planned at all, but we were also not taking the steps to peevent it. With that said we are happy and ready to start this next chapter together. We announced my pregnancy to my family at a small dinner last weekend.
This is where my sister (29F) comes in, who is extremely religious. She’s the kind of person who’s at church every Sunday, pretty much only reads the Bible and makes TikToks about passages. She constantly preaches about living a “pure” life and following God and sometimes will force it into conversation.
When I shared the news most of my family was supportive and really happy for my boyfriend and I. Everyone except her. She immediately went cold and launched into this huge preachy lecture about how disappointed she was in me. She went on about how she expected better of men how I was living in sin, and how “God will judge.” Pretty much she was making me feel horrible for not being married while being pregnant.
I tried to keep my cool, but she wouldn’t stop. She kept ranting on and on. She clearly could tell it was bothering me. Eventually I had enough and I snapped. I figured this was a perfect time to get payback for her shaming me.
I went on about how it was hypocritical to was call me sinful when she was the one who was a fake, sinful disgrace. She too had a baby out of wedlock, and unlike me instead of keeping it she aborted it to make sure nobody else knew.
The whole room went completely silent. My sister got upset and excused herself from the table and left the house. My mom immediately started yelling at me for bringing up the past and ruining what should have been a happy evening. I honestly don’t feel bad though. My sister has been putting on this holier than thou act for years, preaching morality while hiding something she’s too ashamed to admit. I never planned to out her secret but she pushed me with her hypocrisy, and I lost it. AITA?
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NTA. I personally can’t stand people who go as far as your sister does when it comes to religion. She knew she was pressing a button of yours, and you had every right to throw her teachings right back in her face. Bravo 👏👏👏
People who live in glass houses …..
NTA.
She shouldn’t have been a judgmental twat. You reap what you sow, isn’t that Biblical? lol
I mean… Yeah, kinda.
ESH?
(Edit after reading what I typed: NTA… She got down on her hands and knees and begged for it.)
She shouldn’t have tied into you, especially with her own related issues. Certainly not very Christian of her.
Your mom doesn’t have much room to talk, letting her get away with it. Mom is the elder here and she should have put a stop to it.
At the same time… Damn… You blew up your sister. You took the nuclear option. But people in glass houses really shouldn’t throw stones.
Ok, nah, changing my answer.
AI and I haven’t even read it yet
Sometimes standing up for yourself means setting boundaries, but exposing someone’s painful secret in public can turn justified anger into unnecessary harm.
She’s missing the whole ‘love’ side of Christianity.
She’s fake, hypocritical a disgrace.
Hopefully you all make amends eventually. But, her bad.
Where was your mom when your sister was actually ruining what should have been a happy evening? NTA and your mom should be ashamed of herself. She should have kept quiet like she did when your sister was going on her hypocritical rant.
Going by the title, I was leaning towards YTA… But after reading that…. naw, your sister had that shit straight coming.
NTA.
ESH
NTA! kudos!!! Shoved her hypocrisy right into her face!
marriage was created so men didnt throw woman out if he was denied sex .its a business agreement. Initially, it was a contractual agreement between families to build alliances, secure inheritance, and promote social stability.
FAFO.
You didn’t ruin the evening. You’re disgraceful and sinful sister did 🤭
Do you think she is making an AITA post?
No
You’re NTA
Your mom said you ruined what should have been a happy event? Not your asshole sister?
What’s that saying about glass houses and stones? Huh, I believe it is a bible passage, but I’m just an ignorant heathen. Edit: NTA
YTA for publicly revealing someone’s private medical information. Especially out of spite.
I’d distance myself from all of them. Never let someone make you snap because then they can say YOU are the problem because after all ‘look how she’s behaving. After one insult, maybe you misunderstood. After 2, you know you haven’t. Stand up and say ‘thank you for dinner but I am not comfortable with where this conversation is going’. Then leave with or without boyfriend. What was your boyfriend doing all this time?
Just wondering why you weren’t practicing safe sex? Was that a choice, and if you got pregnant you got pregnant?
NTA
I would bring it up every time she says something to try and shame someone.” How’s God going to judge you about what you did? You liked a child, the worst sin ever. Pack your bags as you have a one-way ticket and it’s not to heaven.”
NTA. Glass houses and all that. If she wouldn’t have been such a hypocrite, her secret would have been safe; but, she had to be a mean, judgmental AH, so she brought it on herself. And your mother should have stepped in and not remained silent when your sister was so disrespectful to you. It isn’t anyone’s place to judge others.
You are NOT the AH!!!!
Both of you are the asshole. Either one of you could’ve taken the other one aside and settled it privately. It didn’t need to be as shaming contest.
Okay. ‘The pregnancy wasn’t planned, but we were also not taking steps to prevent it ‘…. Translates to we were trying to get pregnant every time we had sex.
Everyone is getting their dose of FAFO
ESH. You for having a baby at 20, and no ring on your finger. Your sister for being a typical, religious hypocrite. You mother for choosing sides.
Yet the evening wasn’t ruined when your sister went on a tirade? Guess we know who the golden goose is… OP, why do you still hang around with a family that clearly doesn’t respect you? Also, NTA.
NTA. Typical hypocritical religious asshole.
This is so obviously made up garbage. We get it, evil judgmental Christianity.
I’m very read this one before…
You’re good…. She pushed your buttons too much and found out what happens. That’s on her.
NTA. You’re not the one who ruined the evening, your sister was. She can dish it out but can’t take it when it’s thrown back at her.
“The pregnancy was not planned”..”did not take steps to prevent it.”
Narrator: the pregnancy was planned.
NTA Ain’t no love like Christian love? Your sister is a hypocrite and my least favorite kind of person. You should have told her that she needs to reread her Bible because she forgot the part that says let he who is without sin cast the first stone.
as a religious person, part of being religious is being a kind person and respecting others choices. she chose not to respect your choices and you chose not to respect hers. nta.
God I HATE HATE HATE people like your sister. She got what she deserved. Yeah like the person said before…people who live in glass houses…do NOT feel bad. You are perfectly fine and wonderful! Congrats on the pregnancy and I hope you all have a wonderful and amazing and beautiful life!! Sending hugs and love my friend!! ❤️👶❤️
How exactly did you ruin the evening? People were happy for you, your sister tried to dump on you and you exposed her. Why are you being blamed for the outcome?
Hey, your sister threw the Grenade. Shouldn’t have been shocked when it exploded.
NTA: some of the most high and mighty people have the most secrets.
YTA , having an abortion is a traumatic thing and when u get one u don’t want others to know expecially if u wanted it but knew u couldnt keep it bc of many reasons hers probably being religious ones, and yes ur sisters an arse too but ignore her , be the bigger person. But u weren’t. U stooped lower than her level.
NTA. Your sister and mom ruined the evening.
NTA and wow I would withdraw from the mother for verbally attacking and blaming OP. She is a hypocrite just like her older daughter. Disgusting behavior and she doesn’t deserve to be involved with the baby.
NTA. Her hypocrisy deserved to be called out.
NTA, she experienced the law of FAFO.
She was asking for it!! U pretty much check mated her…she’ll think twice before she wants to publicly shame u again!! Way to go for standing up for yourself! And congrats on ur pregnancy 🤰! Wish u a happy and health baby a tiny family! Sometimes the family we choose is thicker than blood. NTA
YTA, this has been stolen from another user. This post was made a few years ago.
NTA! She fucked around and found out! She also threw the first rock and her house was made of glass. She deserved it. Your mom is TA for coming at YOU when you weren’t the one to start making things sour. Bet she’ll think twice before opening her mouth
Not the asshole. Her situation should have bolstered compassion for you, but it seems it just made her feel guilty because you’re keeping yours and she probably carries a lot of guilt for not doing the same, especially if she’s super religious. Regardless, her reaction was gross and your mother is in the wrong for blaming you as well. How did she allow your sister to ruin your announcement and berate you but get angry at your reaction? That’s abusive behavior on her part as well in my opinion.
NTA. She can dish it but not take it. Too bad.
NTA
Well well well … seems her ticket is marked hell bound according to her bible .
Fake
Yes you’re the AH. U thought you ate, but u didn’t. You’re a snitch. Why would you put that girls personal business out like that? No one need to know she had that done, but everyone will know that you had a baby outta wedlock(which who cares). Your relationship with her will never be the same. I’m sure you don’t care though. And why the hell was a 26 yr old man dating an 18 yr old? Weird!
I’d love to hear your mom’s explanation on how your sister wasn’t ruining the happy evening, but you were. Please explain mom, in a way that doesn’t prove you have a favorite. Good luck.
NTA
NTA, your sister needed to learn her place. Her hypocrisy is disgusting.
You’re not the a-hole. She has no right to do any of that especially in front of other people.
NTA but I just read a thing about why men don’t tell women their problems and this is it. They’ll totally bring up past stuff to slap in your face. Only in this case, it was both! It’s crazy how snotty and judgmental people are.
NTA. Hopefully your sister learned a lesson. It’s extremely strange to me that she felt she could judge others having had experience, but it seems like that’s the shape of the world today.
Fuck around and find out, sis🤷♀️
Sounds like ESH. You tried to use her abortion against her and she tried to use Jesus against you.
She’s religious so you could always hit her with “Let he who has no sin cast the first stone.” That’ll get her to shut up real fast.
This is the ultimate ‘What is done in the dark, Always comes to light’ moment. NTA.
NTA.
Probably burnt that bridge but… glass houses.
NTA. She should have kept her hypocritical mouth shut.