me and my friend Both F16 have been friends for over 4 years, her mom is very strict about her hair, doesn’t let her cut it or even hey face framing bangs. she has a lot of hair and its curly, she always says how hard it is to care and style it.
two days ago, our other friend asked me to trim her bangs, it’s something i do for myself and sometimes my friends if they ask, i can say that i know how to cut or trim hair well.
after i finished trimming our friends bangs, she asks if i could trim her ends as well, her hair reached half of her shoulders, but a lot was dead, so i removed the dead ends which were around four fingers, i made sure with her she can still tie it and all and then i started trimming.
she has a lot of hair so i split Into four sections and, 2 sections in she said that shes absolutely terrified of her parents and she didny expect it’d end up looking too short but she absolutely loved it and told me she’d go shorter if she could (it barely reached her shoulders)
we finished up, we found a hair style that wouldn’t show how short it was around her parents and everything went well.
last night she texted me saying her mom found out and is absolutely flipping on her. she told me she didn’t mean this short but she kept saying that she loves it and doesn’t blame me, yet i still feel like i went wrong.
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me and my friend Both F16 have been friends for over 4 years, her mom is very strict about her hair, doesn’t let her cut it or even hey face framing bangs. she has a lot of hair and its curly, she always says how hard it is to care and style it.
two days ago, our other friend asked me to trim her bangs, it’s something i do for myself and sometimes my friends if they ask, i can say that i know how to cut or trim hair well.
after i finished trimming our friends bangs, she asks if i could trim her ends as well, her hair reached half of her shoulders, but a lot was dead, so i removed the dead ends which were around four fingers, i made sure with her she can still tie it and all and then i started trimming.
she has a lot of hair so i split Into four sections and, 2 sections in she said that shes absolutely terrified of her parents and she didny expect it’d end up looking too short but she absolutely loved it and told me she’d go shorter if she could (it barely reached her shoulders)
we finished up, we found a hair style that wouldn’t show how short it was around her parents and everything went well.
last night she texted me saying her mom found out and is absolutely flipping on her. she told me she didn’t mean this short but she kept saying that she loves it and doesn’t blame me, yet i still feel like i went wrong.
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> the action i did was cutting my friends hair without her mothers permission,
her mother is now upset at her and i believe it could he my fault
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NTA
This is between your friend and her parents. This is a choice she made. You may have been the instrument of her choices, but you did nothing wrong.
Don’t take on other people’s agency when wondering if you are an AH. Your friend consented. You did what she wanted. ’nuff said.
NTA.
NTA. Firstly it’s her hair, her choice. You didn’t force her to be a guinea pig for your hair cutting. Secondly, you clearly know what you’re doing. I think that’s impressive. Thirdly, this whole situation is batshit. Her parents are not reasonable if they don’t even let her cut the dead ends off.