i (21f) got into a disagreement with my sister (27f) for being weary about her bringing her new boyfriend (38m) who she met on fortnite and only once in person, to my house?
some backstory: my sister recently broke up with her now ex boyfriend (42m) about a week ago, whom she was living with, and is staying at mine and my parents house until she can move into a new house (undisclosed amount of time.) she met her “fortnite boo” as she calls him, last week, and i immediately felt uncomfortable. i’m not sure if it was how close apart her meeting him and breaking up with her ex, or the fact that her new boyfriend looks like our father, or what. but anyway, she decided she wanted to bring him here. so she just told me today, she is driving to another state (6 hr drive) to pick him up and house him at our home for a week. she’s going to pick him up in three days i believe, and no one decided it was a good idea to tell me. she said she contacted our mother (49f) and she said it was okay. when i called our mom, she told me “i was going to talk to you about it but i just forgot.” i understand it’s not just my house, but i think if you’re going to bring a man you’ve only met once to a house with children (she has two kids, 12,m and 8,m) it’s a good idea to, yknow, run it by the people who pay to live there instead of freeload off of their parents?
but, reddit, please, AITA??
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i (21f) got into a disagreement with my sister (27f) for being weary about her bringing her new boyfriend (38m) who she met on fortnite and only once in person, to my house?
some backstory: my sister recently broke up with her now ex boyfriend (42m) about a week ago, whom she was living with, and is staying at mine and my parents house until she can move into a new house (undisclosed amount of time.) she met her “fortnite boo” as she calls him, last week, and i immediately felt uncomfortable. i’m not sure if it was how close apart her meeting him and breaking up with her ex, or the fact that her new boyfriend looks like our father, or what. but anyway, she decided she wanted to bring him here. so she just told me today, she is driving to another state (6 hr drive) to pick him up and house him at our home for a week. she’s going to pick him up in three days i believe, and no one decided it was a good idea to tell me. she said she contacted our mother (49f) and she said it was okay. when i called our mom, she told me “i was going to talk to you about it but i just forgot.” i understand it’s not just my house, but i think if you’re going to bring a man you’ve only met once to a house with children (she has two kids, 12,m and 8,m) it’s a good idea to, yknow, run it by the people who pay to live there instead of freeload off of their parents?
but, reddit, please, AITA??
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> i believe i may be the a**hole because i do not make the decisions of the household, my mother does, and i just pay to live here. i feel it’s not my say to what my sister does when she’s here.
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NTA for disagreeing at all. You are allowed to have disagreements, and it seems your thought process is totally valid and understandable. However, you do not own the house, and the owners gave her permission.
27 with a 12 year old and dating men up to 42….your sister sure seems like a ton to unpack. NTA I’d wager, I get being in her situation and being back home all the way. You just don’t hop into crap that fast A) unless you’re totally stable and can bounce out B) really just shouldn’t do it with kids.
Was going to say NTA, but then saw the ages, YTA.
Nta, you’re literally just asking for basic respect and safety. She barely knows this guy, and he’s almost 40 she’s bringing him into a house with kids after know him for like 5 mins?? And the fact that your mom forgot to tell you?? Nahhh, your sister’s being reckless and selfish, not you
YTA
Judgmental… OK, they met on Fortnite, so what? So she was quick to find him after splitting with her ex, how is that any of your business?
If she wanted to leave the children alone with the dude, yeah, that’s not cool, but other adults will be there, that’s not a big deal, I mean, are the children never allowed to meet strangers? And they are her kids? Seriously, none of your business.
You say it’s your house, but your parents live there. Is it their house, and you pay rent? It’s not your house, not your right to say who can and can’t go there. I don’t really understand why you think you have a say in this at all?
Seems there is a lot of resentment and general hostility here rather than any actual problem.
She drove 6 hours to pick him up. Let that sink in. NTA