I (39F) have always been into sewing and making clothes, I frequently make stuff for my daughter (7F) to wear, mainly t-shirts, shorts and summer-dresses
Last month was her birthday and I asked her what she wanted, and she asked if I could make her a Sailor Dress to wear and I agreed, so I got to work and about a week later I was able to finish it, she loved it and I think she looked really cute
I asked her if she’d like me to make her more clothes like that and she said yes
Yesterday I finished another sailor style dress and she loved it, but my friend who was over told me it looked ridiculous and that I’m treating her like a barbie doll, that got me thinking if I was going overboard, my daughter does like the dresses I’ve been making her, Am I The Asshole?
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I (39F) have always been into sewing and making clothes, I frequently make stuff for my daughter (7F) to wear, mainly t-shirts, shorts and summer-dresses
Last month was her birthday and I asked her what she wanted, and she asked if I could make her a Sailor Dress to wear and I agreed, so I got to work and about a week later I was able to finish it, she loved it and I think she looked really cute
I asked her if she’d like me to make her more clothes like that and she said yes
Yesterday I finished another sailor style dress and she loved it, but my friend who was over told me it looked ridiculous and that I’m treating her like a barbie doll, that got me thinking if I was going overboard, my daughter does like the dresses I’ve been making her, Am I The Asshole?
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NTA. Your daughter likes it. Unless you see signs of bullying, continue doing what makes you two happy.
NTA. You’re making these for your daughter, not your overly fashion conscious friend.
As long as your daughter likes them and they don’t cause her any trouble, there’s no reason for either of you to not be happy about this.
Your friend is jealous that she doesn’t have sewing skills to make a dress!
My mom made my clothes when I was a kid. Wish I’d had a sailor dress!!
Your daughter’s clothes should be liked by your daughter, not your friend. Your friend’s opinion doesn’t matter here. NTA.
NTA. Who cares as long as your kid likes it.
NTA. As long as your daughter likes it, you’re good. Your friend is weird.
Nta.
Don’t stop doing this! Your daughter will cherish these dresses forever!
At 7yo, let her wear what she likes. My youngest at 7yo refused to wear dresses and we shopped in the boy section for her clothes because that’s what she wanted. No harm in making your daughter happy at that age.
NTA
Cuz 20-30 years from now she will be telling her friends a cherished childhood memory. All about how she would tell her mom about a type of clothes she wanted and her mom would make it for her. How she would help buy fabric, talk about patterns, watch it come together and then happily run about in her sailor dress. Which is much more than just a sailor dress. It’s an expression of her mom listening and then putting her time into something her daughter talked about wanting.
Maybe she’ll even pull out a box with her favorite outfits from this time. And all her friends will exclaim and say what a sweet memory.
Your friend has her own issues, I doubt her comment was really about your situation but her own memories that aren’t as pleasant.
NTA
Your friend can keep her opinions to herself.
The ONLY person who matters here is your daughter. If she likes it, that’s all you need to worry about.
NTA. There’s nothing wrong with letting your kid dress in fun things l
NTA.
The only thing that matters is that your daughter likes them. What others think doesn’t make one whit of a difference.
Well it’s a good thing you are not making it for her or her children.
You didn’t force your daughter into it. Your daughter asked for something and you were able to fulfill the wish. If she’s happy and you are happy who cares what your friend thinks.
NTA