Edit: the title was supposed to say wasting not eating. I didn’t notice the typo.
Most weekend tend to be spent with my girlfriend unless one of us has plans to see a friend. We usually either go for a day out, go into town, got for a meal or drinks etc.
I’ve had a busy few weeks with work recently and through if use this weekend to just relax at home. I planned to spend it reading, playing video games and watching Netflix. I told my gf this and she asked if I meant all weekend.
I told her yeah I did and she said I’m wasting the weekend. I said it’s no wasted if it’s what I want to do, I mentioned that she doesn’t have to stay in and she’s free to go out if she wants but I’d be staying I , she said I should want to spend time with her.
I pointed out most of my free time is spent with her but tvat dosng mean I don’t have time for myself, she said she’s seeing a friend in two weeks so I could always relax then.
I told her I was getting burnt out now so I don’t want to wait two weeks, I said I shouldn’t have to wait until she’s busy to be able to have some time to myself.
She just said I should be open to making some plans instead of wasting the full weekend but I refused.
AITA for “wasting the weekend” by refusing to make other plans?
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Most weekend tend to be spent with my girlfriend unless one of us has plans to see a friend. We usually either go for a day out, go into town, got for a meal or drinks etc.
I’ve had a busy few weeks with work recently and through if use this weekend to just relax at home. I told my gf this and she asked if I meant all weekend.
I told her yeah I did and she said I’m wasting the weekend. I said it’s no wasted if it’s what I want to do, I mentioned that she doesn’t have to stay in and she’s free to go out if she wants but I’d be staying I , she said I should want to spend time with her.
I pointed out most of my free time is spent with her but tvat dosng mean I don’t have time for myself, she said she’s seeing a friend in two weeks so I could always relax then.
I told her I was getting burnt out now so I don’t want to wait two weeks, I said I shouldn’t have to wait until she’s busy to be able to have some time to myself.
She just said I should be open to making some plans instead of wasting the full weekend but I refused.
AITA for “wasting the weekend” by refusing to make other plans?
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> Wouldn’t make plans for this weekend with my partner as I planned to spend it relaxing
She said I should be open to make some plans and should relax in two weeks when she’s seeing friends instead
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NTA. Sometimes you just need a weekend to do absolutely nothing and recharge. It’s not “wasting the weekend” if it’s what you want and need to do to feel better. You spend plenty of time with her already taking a couple of days to yourself doesn’t mean you care about her any less. It’s healthy to set boundaries and prioritize your own mental health. She can go out and do her thing, and you can chill at home guilt-free.
You’re NTA
>She just said I should be open to making some plans instead of wasting the full weekend but I refused.
And she should be more open to letting you manage your own free time.
NTA. Take the time to recharge
NTA. Loafing is an art form that requires lots of practice to perfect.
NTA. You’re not “wasting” the weekend if you’re using it to recharge and do what you actually want to do. Everyone needs some downtime, especially after a busy few weeks. It’s not like you’re refusing to spend time with her forever you’re just asking for a couple of days to chill and decompress. That’s totally reasonable. She can go out and do her thing, and you can catch up on some much-needed alone time. Sounds fair to me.
Absolutely NTA. Spend your time doing what you want and need.
NTA, it’s called ‘self care’ or ‘mental health care’. Some people need more alone time than others. You’re probably more introverted than she is and yes, you can get burnt out if you don’t get the alone time you need, and it can take a surprisingly long time to recover if you burn out too far. Balance is important, but it sounds like you do quite a lot with her so you’re not in danger of turning into a disinterested couch potato.