AITA for asking my husband to hold his 26 yr son to the same standard that he holds my 21 yr old son and my daughter’s 12 yr old son?
My husband requires advanced notice of my son and grandson being at our house (my husband says it’s for “planning purposes”) but when his son showed up unannounced and I asked him to please speak with his son about letting us know when he’s coming, my husband told me, “Kids should feel like they can visit their parents”, and that “Most parents would be happy their kid came to visit”, then he got angry, absolutely would NOT acknowledge that it’s no different than what he asks of my son and grandson, and has now been giving me the silent treatment for several weeks.
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AITA for asking my husband to hold his 26 yr son to the same standard that he holds my 21 yr old son and my daughter’s 12 yr old son?
My husband requires advanced notice of my son and grandson being at our house (my husband says it’s for “planning purposes”) but when his son showed up unannounced and I asked him to please speak with his son about letting us know when he’s coming, my husband told me, “Kids should feel like they can visit their parents”, and that “Most parents would be happy their kid came to visit”, then he got angry, absolutely would NOT acknowledge that it’s no different than what he asks of my son and grandson, and has now been giving me the silent treatment for several weeks.
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> I think IMBTA because I asked my husband to hold his son to the same standard that he holds my son and my grandson and now my husband won’t speak to me.
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Why are you with this man? Put yourself and your kids first.
Sometimes calling someone an asshole is just not strong enough!
NTA, OP! Not at all.
INFO: is it because of your grandson? It’s a little different to have an adult child pop by for a coffee or a brief visit than an adult with a toddler you have to entertain/clean up for/feed.
Some people struggle being around small children because of the noise/mess and might appreciate a heads up so they can get in the right mindset to deal with it.
NTA but your husband is. No one would children like this. It would be a deal breaker for me.
NTA. And giving you the silent treatment? Wow. He’s trying to punish you for him being wrong. That’s a really bad sign for your marriage, sorry.
He’s been giving you the silent treatment for WEEKS? NTA.