Okay, I need to know if I’m actually the asshole here or not. I (27F) was with my ex (let’s call him Jake) for a few years. He ended up cheating on me and then got together with my friend at the time—Lisa. Yeah. Total mess.
I cut both of them off, obviously. But Jake never fully left me alone. Even after they got together, he would randomly message me—funny stuff, small talk, even borderline flirty sometimes. I mostly ignored it, but I didn’t block him either. Part of me honestly wanted to see if he’d pull the same thing again.
Fast forward to now—he starts getting really flirty. Like obvious cheating vibes. So I played along just enough to get receipts. Then I sent the screenshots to Lisa. We’re not friends anymore, but I still felt like she deserved to know. She didn’t take it well, lol.
Now she’s blowing up at me, saying I ruined their relationship and that I was just trying to get revenge. But like??? He’s the one who tried to cheat?? I just exposed it.
So yeah. Maybe I did want a little bit of karma to hit. But am I really the asshole for showing her what he was doing?
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He played himself, you just hit “forward.” Actions have consequences-he flirted, you exposed, Lisa got mad at the mirror. NTA
NTA. You simply sent her screenshots of him trying to cheat. You did her a favor as he’s probably actually cheating on her with other women. My petty ass would have actually done the deed and left Lisa a note under her pillow. “OP was here” written in lipstick. THAT’S what Lisa actually deserves.
I believe that “once a cheater, always a cheater”. I also believe in karma. She just got served both. Enjoy what you reap.
Actions have consequences, especially for serial cheaters. She’s mad at the wrong person
NTA. Lisa needs to take some responsibility for her own actions and life. Her being mad at you is hilarious!
NTA – no good deed goes unpunished!
NTA. She got a taste of her own medicine and it is easier to blame you than it is to admit that she got played like a fool because she is a shitty human being too.
Block and delete babes. You do not need that energy anymore.
Nta. Also Fuck Lisa, her opinion shouldn’t matter to you
So he cheated on you with her and he tried to cheat on her with you, and now she’s mad at you for it? Good lord. NTA but they deserve each other. If anyone has the right to be mad, it’s you and only you. Just block them both. They both suck.
You did your thing. Let your former friend/ current snake think you took revenge. You did your part, now its not your circus, not your monkeys.
NTA- it’s tough to eat crow… especially when it’s cold and you never imagined you’d be eating it. Lisa is a twat who hasn’t learned anything from this. I’m glad that she gets to know how it feels. Ignore her… she didn’t get her fairytale ending… isn’t it a shame?? 😂
“You mean like you ruined mine? Karma sucks, bitch! Both of you can fuck off.”
NTA
NTA for doing what you did, but YTA for not blocking both of them and preserving your peace and moving on. Lisa deserves what she’s getting and Mike is a cheating pos who thought he was gonna have his cake & eat it too…..remove both of them permanently from your life….let karma deal out the consequences for 2 pieces of shit
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Plus, if someone is willing to cheat with you, they’ll be willing to cheat on you too. The mistress/mister seems to always think they’re different, which is on the rare side. If she wants to turn a blind eye and blame you for “ruining” (which is ironic coming from her) the relationship for HIS attempted cheating, that’s on her shrugs. Sure, it might come off as you being petty but it’ll come to light sooner or later anyway. Take this as your get back and move on
NTA, but you scored a double hit: saved your ex friend from wasting her time on a series cheater, and win first place in the petty contest. Well done:)
I had a bf who cheated on me yrs ago. I dumped him, he grovelled to get back and I stood firm and ignored him. About a yr later bumped into him at a bar, he had a new gf, assumed so as it was obvious. He wouldnt leave me alone, so I walked up to his gf and told her to put her dog on a leash. Needless to say they left shortly afterwards and he finally left me alone. NTA OP, if she wants to learn the hard way, let her, she is an idiot.
All you did was hold up the mirror, and show her what the relationship actually looked like. Bet she thought she could keep him happier than you did. But if a cheater wants to cheat, they gona cheat. You didn’t need to show her proof of the looser BF, she should be thankful she just mad it was YOU who told her when she thought she stole him from you.