AITA for giving my husband an ultimatum because he wouldn’t stop bringing up the past.

Hi everyone,
I honestly didn’t expect my original post to blow up the way it did, but I want to thank all of you who took the time to comment. Reading through the replies made me realize just how much I had been tolerating, and that I didn’t deserve to live the rest of my life walking on eggshells over something I can’t change.

After leaving to stay with my sister, I decided I wasn’t going back. I contacted a lawyer and started the divorce process immediately. When I told my husband, he told me it was him who deserved to be upset not me… but he is willing to overlook the past and work on our marriage. Anyways that told me everything I needed to know and he is never going to be able to move past his resentment.

It hurts, but honestly, I feel free. For years I’ve been carrying the weight of his insecurity and cruelty, and the second I stepped away, it felt like I could finally breathe again. I’m not ashamed of my past, and I refuse to let anyone weaponize it against me anymore.

My sister has been an absolute rock, I’m excited to start focusing on myself and building a future where I’m loved and respected for who I am and not have my past used against me.

Just a little information for you all. We do not have kids together, we weren’t very religious so that cannot be used as a reason. Thank you again to everyone who gave me that wake-up call. And no I did not use Reddit as a sole decision making tool. It was bound to happen sooner or later, an outside perspective was just crucial for my self esteem and realization.

P.S I also learnt the importance of paragraphs and white spacing haha!