Hello I am a 17 year old male. The incident took place yesterday at a cabin. I was tending to a fire when my younger brother was struck in the head with an axe. As soon I saw him I put out the fire and went to figure out what was going on. When I went inside I found him bleeding from a deep head laceration. Immediately I ran out side and called my parents who where 20 min away. I then examined the wound and realized it was deeper than my grandmother said it was. Then my parents called and after she started yelling at me because I should not have called them. I ran outside and called my other grandmother (who is a retired nurse). In the end my parents took him the ER and he got staples. Am I wrong for what I did?
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Hello I am a 17 year old male. The incident took place yesterday at a cabin. I was tending to a fire when my younger brother was struck in the head with an axe. As soon I saw him I put out the fire and went to figure out what was going on. When I went inside I found him bleeding from a deep head laceration. Immediately I ran out side and called my parents who where 20 min away. I then examined the wound and realized it was deeper than my grandmother said it was. Then my parents called and after she started yelling at me because I should not have called them. I ran outside and called my other grandmother (who is a retired nurse). In the end my parents took him the ER and he got staples. Am I wrong for what I did?
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No. It was an emergency. No way to avoid it at all. Shame on the grandma for even suggesting you don’t call. Like what?
nta, he needed medical attention. it had to have been insanely scary to see that, and act “against wishes”. in no way shape or form did you do anything wrong. hope ur brother is ok🩷
NTA. Your little brother was hurt, and your parents have the right to know so they can decide what to do. It sounds like your grandmother either didn’t realize how hurt he was or was trying to downplay it. Your parents decided it was bad enough to need a doctor asap. Considering your brother ended up with staples, you and your parents all made the correct decisions.
NTA. When lives hang on the line, you do what you need to. You can reconcile, after your brother is safe. Most places even have laws that protect the actions of people trying to help in dangerous situations. You noticed something dangerous your grandmother didn’t. In an emergency, parental/grandparental authority doesn’t matter in the same way it does other times, and your other grandmother with professional experience even admitted that you did the right thing. In situations like this you have to act quickly and decisively because, as I once heard “when seconds count help is only minutes away”.
NTA. What did they want you to do?
NTA at all. You acted responsibly and quickly in an emergency situation involving your younger brother. Head injuries can be very serious, and even if the wound didn’t seem life-threatening at first, it’s always better to err on the side of caution especially when dealing with bleeding and potential concussions or skull damage.
Your grandmother may have underestimated the severity of the injury, but calling your parents (and later your nurse grandmother) was the right thing to do. Your brother needed medical attention, and you made sure he got it. Your parents may have been upset in the moment due to stress, but that doesn’t mean you were wrong.
You prioritized your brother’s safety over avoiding conflict, and that’s commendable. Hopefully, once emotions settle, your family will recognize that you did the right thing.
NTA. You did really well in an emergency. I bet your parents and other grandmother are proud of you.
NTA, your brother got hit in the head, and lacerated with an AXE, you did the right thing letting your parents know.
NTA.
You should have called emergency services first then make sure you stop the bleeding with direct pressure. Only handle the fire first IF the fire could spread without mitigation. Your first duty is prevent loss of life.
Once the EMTs start handling the victim do you handle the fire then inform others.
NTA. That’s worrying that your grandmother and parents are more concerned with you obeying them than your brother’s life. How did he get hit with an axe in the first place? Why didn’t your grandmother call for an ambulance?
You don’t fuck around with head wounds. They can turn bad fast, even if a person seems fine. You did the right thing.
NTA: You did the right thing and you are great big brother. You acted very responsible. Hope your brother is feeling better soon. Big hugs and best wishes.
NTA. I’m guessing the grandma is the one that might have issues with the parents and that’s why she didn’t want them called. Like maybe something happened in the past and they don’t 100% trust her with the kids but are trying to let her be involved with the kids. Getting hit with an axe though. Ouch. Hope your brother is doing ok.
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Please consider professions that require calm management of emergency situations! Paramedic, nurse, doctor – I want you in charge if I have an emergency situation. Get a nursing degree and run the Emergency Department in a hospital. Become a trauma surgeon.
If it’s not obvious, I’m very impressed that someone of your age would have the clear-headedness to handle this so well.
Definitely NTA. For whatever reason your grandmother was minimizing his injury. My only question is, if only the three of you were at the cabin, how did your brother hit himself in the head with an ax? Or was it your grandmother’s doing?
NTA, but who hit him??
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Your brother was badly injured. You should always take that seriously. You did the right thing.
NTA! You might have saved your brother’s life. That’s a serious wound.
If only Grandma him and you there someone needs pshchic evaluation.
Seriously? Grandma #1 is a menace to society. You did the right thing. Grandma can go fuck herself
Need more info… did you hit your brother in the head with an axe?
NTA but how did it happen in the first place??? More context may help us identify why they may have reacted that way….
Your family should cease contact with her
He could have had a brain injury.
Nope!
No! Your brother is lucky to have you!
NTA. Granted, and lot of head injuries bleed quite a bit and CAN look worse than they are, but your brother also could have a concussion or something else wrong from the head injury that required further testing.
Your brother needed an ER visit, not a retired nurse that doesn’t take kids injuries seriously.
NTA. Your grandmother may be a nurse, or a former nurse, but she severely downplayed that. Also, she is not your brother’s parent who calls the shots over you and your brother – your parents call the shots.
You did the right thing, calling your parents. You’re almost a legal adult, and you have a good head on your shoulders. Let your parents know Grandma’s mad at you for doing the right thing and ask them to get her off your back.
And now you know you can love Grandma and have a good time with her, but you will be taking the lead in emergencies without “adultier” adults around.
Is your summer project writing fantasy pieces for Reddit?
Somehow, your brother mysteriously gave himself a deep laceration from an axe…..and grandma said it’ll be fine…yeah, ok.
NTA. Frankly I would have called 911 and then called parents, but you’re young enough that your parents are still your heart’s 911. Otherwise I have no notes. You put out the fire so it couldn’t start a second emergency while you tended the first one, you provided first aid to your brother, and called for help. 10/10.
I gotta ask though, just out of curiosity… how did your brother get hit in the head with an axe?
NTA. Your brother needed medical attention and your grandmother would have been straight up negligent to prevent it.
No. Nta. Your grandma got him in the head with the axe and it’s worried about getting in trouble. Wtf
NTA.
Question. How old are you and your brother, and was your grandma supposed to be watching your younger brother?
NTA, you did good and right.
It doesn’t matter what you Grandma says the fact your little brother needed staples is proof enough that you did everything right.
She is an adult and she was irresponsible with his care.
I repeat you did good! I wish I had a brother like you when I grew up. 💙
Absolutely NTA.