I absolutely hate baby voice. Probably a personal ick that has developed because it’s usually used for mockery and/or belittling someone. I can’t stand being talked to in that tone of voice and I’ve made it clear to my partners that I won’t talk to them if they use baby voice.
My gf [23] knows this and when she uses baby voice I will usually just ignore it. Of course she takes this as egging her on sometimes and I just tell her I really don’t like it.
Here’s where I might be TA. We were talking on the phone and she started using baby voice. I asked her to stop and she mocked me, so I simply hung up. She called back immediately and said I was immature because I can’t take a joke.
If she starts talking to me in baby voice I simply want to stop talking to her. Am I being too uptight and an AH for not allowing her to make jokes in baby voice? Is it unreasonable to expect her not to speak to me like that?
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I absolutely hate baby voice. Probably a personal ick that has developed because it’s usually used for mockery and/or belittling someone. I can’t stand being talked to in that tone of voice and I’ve made it clear to my partners that I won’t talk to them if they use baby voice.
My gf [23] knows this and when she uses baby voice I will usually just ignore it. Of course she takes this as egging her on sometimes and I just tell her I really don’t like it.
Here’s where I might be TA. We were talking on the phone and she started using baby voice. I asked her to stop and she mocked me, so I simply hung up. She called back immediately and said I was immature because I can’t take a joke.
If she starts talking to me in baby voice I simply want to stop talking to her. Am I being too uptight and an AH for not allowing her to make jokes in baby voice? Is it unreasonable to expect her not to speak to me like that?
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NTA. There’s a line between joking around and outwardly trying to annoy/upset someone. She’s actually BEING a baby by acting this way. Start dating adults instead.
NTA.
You told her more than once that you don’t like it, and she continues to use it. After multiple warnings and asking her to stop, I don’t think hanging up it taking it too far. If she won’t listen, what else can you do but separate yourself from the problem?
You two aren’t compatible because she has the maturity level of an 8 year old.
NTA. Ironic to be called immature by someone who insists on talking like a baby.
I’m with you on this, baby voice is fucking cancer.
you need a new GF. NTA
NTA, I had an ex who would constantly use the phrase “Its just a joke, cant you take a joke??” after belittling and insulting me, and I hated it. It always made me feel like maybe I was the problem when in reality he was just an asshole using a “joke” to insult me. A few of my friends in the past agreed that jokes are suppose to be funny. Not a scapegoat for mockery and disrespect.
So genuinely, I would’ve hung up too if I told my partner to stop and they just continued to do so. At this point shes trying to make you feel guilty for not “accepting the joke” when there is no joke to laugh about. You set boundaries and shes breaking them.
you’re not compatible
I love how OP is “immature” when the gf is the one not mature enough to respect a pretty simple boundary. Ugh.
NTA
NTA…You’ve made it clear that this a boundary for you, but your girlfriend somehow sees this as a joke, or even a challenge. It’s up to you how long you can put up with her immaturity.
NTA
She knows how much it bothers you, and did it anyway. When called out, she double downed, and deliberately did something that bothers you for no other reason than to bother you. I would have hung up, too. You aren’t the immature one here. I would be rethinking this relationship over her then trying to shame you for enforcing a very reasonable boundary.
NTA. girlfriend is immature and the people who think it’s fun to annoy people are really weird, never understood how people like being annoying.
I have never had a BF talk to me in a baby voice, why would she? So odd to even do it once, let alone do it after you have asked her not to. Does she disrespect you in other ways? Is she kind? I would hang up also if she did something I asked her not to. You’re NTA, but think if you want to be with someone who can’t stop doing something you have said you dislike. Also, if you hang up and she calls back, don’t pick up!
NTA. I wouldn’t have answered the phone when she called back. I would have text her and said call me when you decided to talk like an adult and went to bed
She’s literally talking like a baby but youre the immature one? Lol, NTA.
This is what enforcing a boundary looks like. You dont like a behavior so you remove yourself from the situation.
NOR, you have repeatedly expressed a boundary and she is repeatedly violating it and then guilt tripping you about not being able to take a joke. Shows a lack of respect.
If she can’t respect one simple boundary of not using baby voice, imagine what other boundaries she’ll overstep. You should reevaluate the relationship. NTA
You using baby voice is a hard boundary for me in this relationship. You either commit to stop doing it, or we both go our separate ways. The choice is yours.
NTA
Ew this would drive me insane. It’s not cute at all. I like how she claims YOURE the immature one but she won’t stop?? She’s purposely getting on your nerves. What a great partner. Hell no. NTA.
NTA. You have a girlfriend problem. She probably won’t stop doing this. Leave her YESTERDAY.
Unless it’s in a kinky way I’m not tryna hear baby voice
NTA
Baby voice can be grating. And kind of off putting if it’s a person you have a sexual interest in.
You clearly told her you don’t like it. Rather than respect that, she’s trying to force you to tolerate or “enjoy” it anyway. Ending the interaction was exactly the healthy boundary maintainance move.
Maybe she feels powerful using her relationship to coerce you into tolerating something she knows you don’t like. If so, that’s controlling and a bit objectifying. As if your role as bf makes you her resource that she can use as she wishes. Whether you like it or not.