I(F19) got into medical school last year (here we go into med school directly, there is no pre-med)
A few days ago I went to a party where my extended family were invited. My cousin(F19, Vivi) got married this year and is a SAHW now.
We were talking and she said something like “It can’t be that hard to get into med school if you could do it. Bet I can do it too”
She always had a habit of making fun of my accomplishment and I’m so freaking tired of it so I told her “based on your skills and accomplishment, the best you can do is clean my office one day. I’ll pay you well”
She called me an asshole(among other things) and now our families are fighting and want an apology.
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I(F19) got into medical school last year (here we go into med school directly, there is no pre-med)
A few days ago I went to a party where my extended family were invited. My cousin(F19, Vivi) got married this year and is a SAHW now.
We were talking and she said something like “It can’t be that hard to get into med school if you could do it. Bet I can do it too”
She always had a habit of making fun of my accomplishment and I’m so freaking tired of it so I told her “based on your skills and accomplishment, the best you can do is clean my office one day. I’ll pay you well”
She called me an asshole(among other things) and now our families are fighting and want an apology.
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YTA, clearly
Edit: rethinking this, its ESH.
NTA. She started it. You finished it :^)
Let them fight. People usually put people down or start drama because theyre insecure or upset. Just stay calm and stand your ground. All you did was help remove a good portion of drama and stress from your life.
I don’t see an issue here. She can’t be the only one able to dish out shit like that and expect the other person on the other end not to return the favor. In this case NTA. Good line and great work on getting in!
YTA You obviously think that you are so much above here that maybe you should act like it. You could have chosen to ignore it.
NTA. She started talking shit, so she shouldn’t be surprised when she gets shit talked back.
NTA she insulted you, you insulted her back. It could be over with if everyone dropped it.
I was leaning towards E S H, but she started it by insulting you. I’d have done the same thing if I were you.. NTA.
YTA
ESH. She was out of line, but you didn’t have to respond like that.
NTA for giving her back what she served, but kind of an AH for looking down on people who clean for a living. Just because something doesn’t require university-level skills doesn’t mean it’s not an important, necessary job. Especially in the medical field, cleaners are incredibly important.
NTA. She started that–you just responded. If she doesn’t like it, maybe she shouldn’t dish it out.
ESH. She insulted you, but the noble thing to do is either ignore, or tell her “well, call me when you get into medical school – I will be willing to pay for a nice gift if you do, and you do not even have to enroll… just get in.” It’s a nicer way to say “you are all talk, no proof”.
RELATED NOTE: if you are going into med school, start working on empathy at every single human interaction. Including annoying and arrogant people, including family members. Do not be the arrogant doctor, these never get long term results. Robots will start doing precise surgeries soon, but empathy will take them a long time.
Idk what people are talking about NTA, dont dish what you can’t serve
NTA. I don’t know how you have some YTA comments. Medical school is extremely hard to get into and shows you busted your behind to get in. So your cousin is out of line suggesting anyone can get in.
NTA. I don’t blame you for getting irritated, dealing with that kind of behavior gets to be too much. Bullies put people and their accomplishments down to make themselves feel good, your response was fantastic. Congrats on medical school.
NTA
On one hand, yes that was mean. But on the other hand, she tried to dismiss your accomplishments and hard work.
While I have great respect for SAHMs, I don’t like people who try to make others smaller. She can’t take what she dished out, so she should have kept her mouth shut.