After my dad passed away, I inherited this antique, solid wood California king bedroom set (bed frame, mirror, dresser, one nightstand, mattress + box spring). It’s high quality and antique originally cost $8,000, and currently lists online for around $2,900 on sale.
I listed it for $950, but my niece (just 6 years younger than me) reached out asking to buy it. I offered it to her for $750 as a family discount. I’m converting the room into a playroom for my baby. This is the furniture in my room growing up so I feel like the price was fair.
She asked if it had two nightstands and if I had any pictures from my dad’s old house I didn’t want. I told her there was only one, and I’d include a picture because I barely have anything left. I’ve given so much to her dad and brother already. Ask them for something, you know? She didn’t want anything when I was offering things for free.
She responded:
“Ok that’s fine, I think we probably will still get it.”
Then she reached out again a few days later after scrolling eBay (I know because her husband mentioned to mine he was looking for a second nightstand there):
“Can you take $500 for the furniture? We only have that much to spend.”
I told her no it was already a good deal. She replied:
“Oh did you pay for it?”
I asked why that mattered, and she said:
“That’s honestly selfish.”
I calmly explained that I’ve already given other family items away, and I’m trying to be practical while also honoring my dad. Then she hit me with:
“I guess we were just raised different.” “We’re your family.” “You just missed out on a buyer.”
And then the comment that crushed me:
“My dad would not even charge his niece for something his dead dad once bought.”
That hit hard. For a man to work hard for his family his whole to be called that. Also, for what it’s worth, my dad wouldn’t have sold it to her OR ME for $750. He valued things, and didn’t care about giving discounts.
She added:
“You didn’t give me anything. Just because I don’t carry the last name doesn’t mean I didn’t love him.”
I told her I don’t even have my father’s last name anymore and I wasn’t trying to profit just being practical. She kept saying I didn’t pay for it, and I replied:
“I paid for it by losing my father and him missing out on my life.”
Then she accused me of making a TikTok about her, not tagging her, and called me childish( I didn’t I haven’t made a tt about anyone) and added:
“Everyone lost him, not just you.”
She called me selfish and money hungry when I had given her a steep discount, offered additional for free, and never even asked her to buy it! She reached out to me!
She had even initially agreed to the $750, then came back asking for $500 and acted entitled.
I’m starting my own family, too. I’ve tried to stay respectful, keep the peace, and she’s acting like a spoiled brat.
Everyone is trying to just make it! Am I the asshole for not giving her the discount?
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After my dad passed away, I inherited this antique, solid wood California king bedroom set (bed frame, mirror, dresser, one nightstand, mattress + box spring). It’s high quality and antique originally cost $8,000, and currently lists online for around $2,900 on sale.
I listed it for $950, but my niece (just 6 years younger than me) reached out asking to buy it. I offered it to her for $750 as a family discount. I’m converting the room into a playroom for my baby. This is the furniture in my room growing up so I feel like the price was fair.
She asked if it had two nightstands and if I had any pictures from my dad’s old house I didn’t want. I told her there was only one, and I’d include a picture because I barely have anything left. I’ve given so much to her dad and brother already. Ask them for something, you know? She didn’t want anything when I was offering things for free.
She responded:
“Ok that’s fine, I think we probably will still get it.”
Then she reached out again a few days later after scrolling eBay (I know because her husband mentioned to mine he was looking for a second nightstand there):
“Can you take $500 for the furniture? We only have that much to spend.”
I told her no it was already a good deal. She replied:
“Oh did you pay for it?”
I asked why that mattered, and she said:
“That’s honestly selfish.”
I calmly explained that I’ve already given other family items away, and I’m trying to be practical while also honoring my dad. Then she hit me with:
“I guess we were just raised different.” “We’re your family.” “You just missed out on a buyer.”
And then the comment that crushed me:
“My dad would not even charge his niece for something his dead dad once bought.”
That hit hard. For a man to work hard for his family his whole to be called that. Also, for what it’s worth, my dad wouldn’t have sold it to her OR ME for $750. He valued things, and didn’t care about giving discounts.
She added:
“You didn’t give me anything. Just because I don’t carry the last name doesn’t mean I didn’t love him.”
I told her I don’t even have my father’s last name anymore and I wasn’t trying to profit just being practical. She kept saying I didn’t pay for it, and I replied:
“I paid for it by losing my father and him missing out on my life.”
Then she accused me of making a TikTok about her, not tagging her, and called me childish( I didn’t I haven’t made a tt about anyone) and added:
“Everyone lost him, not just you.”
She called me selfish and money hungry when I had given her a steep discount, offered additional for free, and never even asked her to buy it! She reached out to me!
She had even initially agreed to the $750, then came back asking for $500 and acted entitled.
I’m starting my own family, too. I’ve tried to stay respectful, keep the peace, and she’s acting like a spoiled brat.
Everyone is trying to just make it! Am I the asshole for not giving her the discount?
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NTA. Don’t sell it to her. Not even for the discound. She tried to guilt trip you in your time of grieve.
NTA. And she is acting entitled. I wouldn’t even sell it to her now out of principle. She’s being a AH and doesn’t deserve the initial discount you offered her.
She’s trying to emotionally manipulate you using your father’s death and that is so low AH just doesn’t sound bad enough.
Condolences to you and your family.
NTA. No is a complete sentence. You said no to her offer that’s the end of conversation.
NTA.
You’re the direct heir, the bedroom set belongs to you. And as a belonging of yours, you’re entitled to sell it for the price you deem fit. If she can pay for it, it’s hers. If not, it is not.
Nothing else to it, I think.
NTA. Tell her you’ve changed your mind and you’re not selling to anyone. She sounds like she’s selfish and entitled. You owe her nothing. I have to admit to being suspicious that she wants items cheap from you so she can sell on and make a profit.
NTA
I will NEVER understand the logic of someone who’s practically demanding to get something, for free or cheaper, and when being denied, accuse the other person of being money hungry and selfish. And you did offer her to come and get things for free, but she didn’t take that offer at that time and seems to think that it was a timeless offer.
I’m so tired of people using “we’re family, family helps each other” logic and the don’t realise that the same thing applies on them too. Don’t take what she’s saying to heart, she should be ashamed of her self.
So her saying the vilest things to bully you into giving up part of your inheritance makes you wonder you are right to not cave to her wants?
I would had added fees for each disgraceful, disgusting and disrespectful comment she made. Even if that meant asking her over the full amount you could get from a stranger.
If the situation was reversed she probably would go ballistic if you dared to act as she does.
NTA
I am trying to imagine any kind of scenario in which I could possibly bring myself to speak to an aunt, or even any older relative, like that. Even one I disliked. She is appalling. NTA.
NTA I’d tell her you don’t know what her game is, but attacking you, going for low blows, has resulted in you not selling (let alone giving) it to her on principle alone.
She’s the one making vicious personal attacks in an attempt to save money. Don’t feel any guilt. Explain the situation to others in compact terms if you have to, saying that you don’t see how her trying to ruin your reputation is justified. She had already agreed to the price after being given a substantial family discount and is now playing dirty because you wouldn’t again lower the price drastically when it came time for her to pay what she had agreed to. You don’t appreciate her suddenly jumping to low blows and arm-twisting, so you you won’t be involved with her and money ever again. You don’t need or deserve this in your life.
NTA. Tell her to take a flying fuck at a rolling donut
NTA. Don’t mix money with family and friends
NTA. She is trying to guilt you into giving it to her. She is acting entitled.
NTA, she’s been horrible to you.