My sister-in-law only ever reached out when she needed something—never to build a real relationship. I reposted general things on social media and she took it personally, accused me of attacking her, and started lying—saying I don’t let her see our kids. She told everyone she was “setting a boundary” and cutting us off, so we reinforced that and said she can come back around after having a real conversation with me and apologizing. Now she’s playing victim to my in-laws, saying she misses the kids. My mother- and father-in-law are siding with her and pressuring us to just sweep it all under the rug, even though I, the wife, am the one who was lied on and never even spoken to. They’re mad I won’t blur the lines or let them meddle—but I’m standing on business. Am I the asshole?
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My sister-in-law only ever reached out when she needed something—never to build a real relationship. I reposted general things on social media and she took it personally, accused me of attacking her, and started lying—saying I don’t let her see our kids. She told everyone she was “setting a boundary” and cutting us off, so we reinforced that and said she can come back around after having a real conversation with me and apologizing. Now she’s playing victim to my in-laws, saying she misses the kids. My mother- and father-in-law are siding with her and pressuring us to just sweep it all under the rug, even though I, the wife, am the one who was lied on and never even spoken to. They’re mad I won’t blur the lines or let them meddle—but I’m standing on business. Am I the asshole?
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OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole:
> I didnt do anything wrong but exist! It seems she wants to have a problem with me so she can exclude me from things. We have a problem past— me and the whole family. We recently got back together from the drama. At this point i feel like they want to run with anything so that they dont need to tolerate me around for holidays and such.
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You are allowed to protect your family in anyway you seem fit. Info: what is she asking for? What situation would have your kids and her interact? How are you keeping your kids away?
Info: what did you post on social media?
INFO: there’s a whole lot missing from your story
I don’t have a clear picture of this scenario at all. What did you post on social media and why did she take it personally? Who is she lying to, saying you don’t let her see your kids? You said you were “never even spoken to”, spoken to about what? Your post is really, really, really vagueEdit: in light of added context below, my vote is: NTA, your sister-in-law sounds like a professional victim and it sounds like her goal is to cause drama, self-victimize, and seek and receive other people’s pity for things that didn’t even really happen.