Hi everyone.
A friend of mine suggested posting here as she has gotten some really good advice.
BACKSTORY: my dad (61M) cheated on my mom (55F) a year into the marriage. My mom found out relatively quickly due to the AP confronting my mom at work. They proceeded with divorce soon after. Unfortunately, it took her a lot to get back to her feet (emotionally and mentally) as she was pregnant with me when this all happened. My dad got together with the AF (never married, just been dating for all these years) and had a girl. My dad and I have a great relationship.
AITA INFO: My dad recently died. As we live in a different city, the AP family held the wake and burial while my mother shelled out the cost for the entire thing (one last generosity for my father, she says). While attending it all, I came to contact with the AP and her daughter Anne (21F). We didn’t get to talk but we did hear the word “will” and “inheritance” coming from their mouths while mingling. At the time, I didn’t really care as I was pretty sure I wasn’t getting much (my mom is super successful in her own right and my father must’ve taken that to account). Things came to an end and we left.
A week later, I was informed by my dad’s lawyer (dad’s friend and someone I consider an uncle) that I had inherited a ‘good bit’. I was plenty shocked as it was burdensomely hefty, but I went through the process of inheriting it as I was still his daughter (despite everything).
No less than a couple of days later, Anne contacted me through Facebook and asked if we could talk. We arranged a small date in a cafe on the next day and met early in the morning. We reminisced my dad a lot and shared a bit of our lives (haven’t talked to her that much before). We had a good time for the first two hours before Anne opened the topic of the inheritance. I learned of the house and the money my dad left but Anne claimed it was a ‘miniscule’ amount. She shared it was hard to pay for her college tuition and live normally, she also shared some other really hard situations she was going through which I sympathized with. All this sharing was to simply ask me for all of my inheritance. Not a chunk or a percentage, just ALL OF IT.
I didn’t agree, which may be selfish of me, but I did offer financing the remaining years of her undergrad to take off some of the load. I didn’t offer anymore as I didn’t want to create a mess I wouldn’t account for but Anne rejected the financing and demanded for all of the inheritance as I wasn’t a daughter to him like she was (idk what she meant by that). After rejecting her again and again, Anne began to curse me and my mother out. It was getting very scary and aggressive so I had left when she started getting physical and violent. That was yesterday.
I had asked my friends for advice. A good mix of them had told me to finance her education anyways and two of them had told me to just give her the inheritance (monetarily) to save the fuss (more of a joke) but I did consider that. I haven’t told my mother as she doesn’t like the AP and Anne.
AITA????
Edit: clarifications:
** I do not live in the west but in SEA. It might not be a crazy amount for you guys but it is for me in my currency. My dad is European who migrated here for marriage while my is native/local SEA. Hope that makes a bit more sense.**
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The inheritance is yours, it’s obviously what your father wanted. You didn’t influence him you didn’t force him to write or sign this will. You are more than generous and offering to finance your half sisters education, particularly since you don’t have any sort of relationship with her.
You should always do with your own moral compass guide you, but I don’t see how you could possibly be the asshole here
Don’t give her money, and block her.
You need better friends.
Why would you give her anything at all?
She has a mother and whether her inheritance was “miniscule” or not has nothing to do with you.
not the AH you offered help. when u dont have to at all. hopefully she learns shes NOT entitled to other people’s things and she should be grateful for the help she can get🤷🏻♀️
Not. A. Dime.
She got a full time daddy while you got scraps bc of his betrayal. Your inheritance was his apology.
You’re equal in a way. She got the dad. You got compensation.
Before you do anything else, fact check the amount of Anne’s inheritance with your lawyer. I have a gut feeling she’s as immoral as her homewrecker mother.
NTA, your Dad’s will is his amends to you for the wrongs he did.
Keep the money, she acts like a self entitled brat. I wouldn’t finance her college either as she will never pay you back. She probably got more than she’s saying but wants to shame you into giving her everything.
The part about friends saying you should give away your inheritance just rings false.
IF this is legit, drop those friends like the warm turds they are.
Talk to the lawyer, see if your dad left them anything. The AP doesn’t sound like a honest narrator.
If they really got nothing, helping with her education would be generous. But see a lawyer first before giving anything.
Maybe have her take loans, and set up a trust to pay them off after she graduates and supplies tuition receipts.
NTA, at all. Screaming at you, insulting you, and acting childish is just not behavior that deserves a reward.
You approached this rationally and calmly and offered to meet her in the middle, and were totally shut down. She continued to come back with unreasonable demands and threw a temper tantrum. At that point you can walk away without taking any action guilt-free.
If your father wanted her to have more, he would have left her more. He didn’t, he left it to you.
Nta. Now that your father is dead, his ap and her daughter can get jobs or someone else to live off. Not you. Your father wanted you to have this. Keep it all.
DO NOT give her anything. Rescind the offer to pay for her schooling.
Your dad left them money and a house, so that was clearly intentional. There’s no reason to assume his gift to you also wasn’t intentional.
She didn’t ask you to share, she asked for ALL of your inheritance?
Erm, nope.
You’ve only got her word to go by that her share was ” miniscule”
Your inheritance is yours. If your father wanted Anne to have it, he’d have willed her the money.
NTA and cut her off. She doesn’t care about you, she’s only after the money.
NTA after that i wouldn’t have given her a dime.
Nta. Id tell anyone trying to grab your money to go get F!
Its not their money, end of story.
You have nothing to feel bad about.
Your dad left it the way HE wanted.
If they have to sell the house, do what. Not your problem. They got a share.
NTA. Your father had years to change or alter his will. He didn’t.
Will bequeaths are gifts not rights.
She has zero rights to any of your inheritance.
Do not share a dime with either of them. Do not pay for any of her education.
Repay your mom for what she spent on his burial & invest the rest.
NTA. Every ‘friend’ who says you should give it all to her….they are envious, jealous that you got this financial windfall and want it to go away. They’d rather no one they know have it. They are jerks. If you want to spend money on someone who got aggressive and scary to you, then get some counseling instead and figure out why you’d allow someone/anyone to treat you that way. Your father left it to you. He thought it out and made HIS choice. Respect that and yourself. Also, mind your mouth. You shouldn’t be talking about your life changing inheritance to everyone, to anyone. This is your business, not the topic at brunches mimosas.
NTA. She got a house. She can use that to pay her tuition. I wouldn’t give her a dime. Block her.
Give nothing. Nothing. She’s not your friend. She doesn’t care a bit about you. She just wants the money. Block her on everything. Her mother ruined you and your mother’s lives. She now thinks she is entitled to do the same. Cut her off cold.
Don’t finance her! What??
They lawyer said you would inherit a good bit, but it doesn’t say your sister received nothing. Talk to Uncle Lawyer and see if she did inherit anything? And that she is harassing you. Don’t give up one penny OP
Nta she got to have a (in her opinion it seems) “good Dad”. You didn’t. Sounds like he knew that was the case as well and wanted to do what he could to make amends.
Your Dad wanted you to have that money. Don’t give her a dime. Don’t help her with her education.
You are not selfish. They are selfish for even asking you. If the roles were reversed do you think they would give you a single penny?
If the roles were reversed and you needed the money for education do REALLY think they wouldn’t tell you to F off?
Tell them your disappointed that they are disrespecting your fathers last wishes. Then never talk to them again. Sorry you’re dealing with this.
Edit to add: it sounds you have no idea how much inheritance she was given – don’t just belive them when they say it’s barely anything. They have every reason to lie to you.
No! Just because she demands it doesn’t mean you have to hand it over. It sounds as if your father didn’t leave them destitute he left his estate the way he wanted to leave it.
Don’t finance anything for her.
Be done with these people, honour your father by following his wishes and I’m so sorry for your loss
Ok first of all the fact that they have no income is their problem not yours. AP can get a job. Your sister can work through school. It’s hard but doable.
Second, I highly suspect your sister’s definition of miniscule and yours are highly different. Get a copy of the will and find out how much she was given before you go handing money out. Your father clearly didn’t forget the AP and child because if he had, they could have contested the will.
And in regards to anyone trying to emotionally manipulate you to give that money, it’s real easy for them to say because it’s not their money. They won’t be affected a dime regardless of whether or not you give any money. If it was their money, they’d likely sing a different tune. Family is not an excuse to just take someone’s money because she wants it, especially when you don’t even have a relationship.
And if you do decide to finance her education, pay it directly to the school. I have a feeling if she’s this manipulative she’s likely to tell you the cost is more than it is or to not even use it for school.
I’m betting your dad had life insurance. You might want to ask the lawyer about that. AP and Anne probably got that as well as the house and some money.
WTF?? Your friends are clueless.
You’re were extraordinarily kind to offer to pay for her college. You have absolutely NO obligation to do so.
Close this chapter given that she got violent when you refused to give her your total inheritance.
You need to consult an attorney because giving someone an inheritance (and probably funding her education) likely has tax implications.
You also may need to file a restraining order against her. Again: see an attorney. The sooner the better.
PS: STOP telling your friends about a large amount of money you inherited. It’s not their business. Now, one of them (or more) might come to you for a loan that likely won’t be repaid.
NTA. Your dad meant for you to have his inheritance.
If you want to give money to Anne, it’s your money.
But it is not selfish of you to accept a gift from your deceased father.
Also, if you want to “save the fuss,” just don’t have any future conversations with Anne or her mother. It does not sound like they were a part of your life prior to your father’s passing.
There is no need to tell your mom and stress her…she didn’t inherit anything so they shouldn’t go to her. If they do, they are incriminating themselves with their own greed and selfishness. 🙁
I just want to say one thing and I believe it is the most important thing you need to hear:
Your father left you the inheritance for a reason and did not want his affair partner or their daughter to have it.
It may be that he knew that AP and kid were gold diggers or he didn’t trust them. Your mom paid for the funeral and that should say a whole hell of a lot.
You offered to fund her education, she refused and asked for all of the inheritance. This tells me it’s not about the bills or finances, it’s about greed.
NTA. Don’t give her a penny! Your Dad had 2 decades to change his will and make any allowances for her education.
NTA. How do you know what she is telling you about her finances and situation is correct. Insulting you when you had a relationship with your father shows exactly who she is. You were his daughter. He made a will leaving you this.
What level of entitlement does she have to demand your inheritance. I wouldn’t pay anything as I don’t believe what she is saying is true.
Your “sister” has shown her true colors. I’m sure what your dad left them is not as “minuscule” as she is making it out to be. He left them a house as well. If times are that hard, they can sell the house and move into an apartment and live off the proceeds. Also, as everyone else said, unless they both have severe medical issues preventing them from working, THEY CAN BOTH GET JOBS AND SUPPORT THEMSELVES. I suspect that they were both spoiled by your dad and this was his way of making things up to you for the years missed. Do not believe a word she says. You made an offer in good faith and that offer was rejected. Block them both and move on with your life. Keep a record of any messages or emails she or her mom sends to you or your mom. You may need to file for a restraining order as well. If her attack if you happened in a public place or restaurant, see if you can get written dated statements from the staff who may have witnessed it. Hopefully it won’t come to that point, but if it does, be prepared. Also maybe you should talk to your mom sooner than later in case she or her mom approach your mom without your knowledge
Respect your dad’s last wishes. The money is yours. I appreciate your thoughts of helping with Anne’s eduction but she doesn’t and therefore, she doesn’t deserve it. Her behavior is appalling.
Why are there so many posts like this? Your father knew full well what he was doing. Also it is not your responsibility to take care of a 21 year old nor her mother who chooses not to work.
Use that cash for your future, pay off any of your bills, and enjoy your life.
NTA
Nope. Keep it all for you, there is a reason your dad did what he did. Not your problem to finance her education. Finance your own well being. Life is so expensive and harder than you will imagine as you get older. Be smart with it. And when you get married don’t comingle any of this money with your spouse’s. It’s always separate and get a prenup.
Your dad set you up. Take advantage of that.
Didn’t your father leave your half-sister something? If yes, tell her to stop bothering you about inheritance: she got hers and you got yours. The End.
Wait, why did your mother PAY for his burial? You lost me there.
The will represents your dad’s wishes on this. He left the AP and Anne the house and some money. He also left you an inheritance. It is yours. That is what he wanted. There is zero chance I would hand off a single penny to Anne.
Document the conversation with Anne (including day/time/place), especially her outburst in the event she becomes a problem in the future. I would also let her know that any further contact will be considered harassment. Then go no contact and get on with your life.
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You actually were very generous with your offer. She refused it and escalated to physical confrontation. I believe that in itself voids any other gift.
Horrible people.
NTA.
Don’t offer, or give, anything. If she needs funding she has a house to sell.
I’m guessing she meant you didn’t have a full relationship with your father as she did.
Don’t do anything in the heat of this moment. She had no right to ask this of you. Honestly you don’t really know her situation financially, just what she told you. It’s not your issue anyways. I’m sure you father left your stepsister what he felt was deserving, it was his will!
NTA
Your dad was of sound mind and body writing his will. The AP and her child had him all of this time and did nothing to provide for themselves and were counting on that inheritance. THAT IS THEIR PROBLEM, NOT YOURS. He knew what he was doing, and may even have written the will this way as compensation TO YOU for not being there all of those years.
Mom was VERY GRACIOUS to find the funeral, and it speaks to the person she is and how you were raised. Lawyer up, because THEY WILL come after that money. DO NOT engage any further with them.
Good luck, OP. Sorry for your loss.
You follow your dad’s last wishes. He may have left you more to make up for his absence. If you give her any thing or any amount is can used as legal admittance that you owe her, in some jurisdictions.
She wasn’t left out. She got money & a house. Tell your dad’s lawyer what happened and follow his advice.
NTA but do not give her a penny. I handle estates for a living and all you’d be doing is opening the gates for her to sue you for more money. If you start paying her she could claim in court that you agree she should have gotten more inheritance. You don’t owe her anything. If anything her mother owes you more inheritance for breaking up your family. Use the money instead to pay back your mom for the funeral if you feel you want to share the funds with someone but absolutely not to the affair partner or her daughter. She got the perks of a full time dad while you got a part time one. Your dad probably felt the same and that’s why he gave you the amount he did.
Wow….you have shitty friends. After how she treated you some of them said to give her the whole inheritance? Wow and WTF.
NTA. Do exactly the same as she would do if she got the inheritance. DO NOT GIVE THEM A PENNY. If your dad wanted them to have it, he would have put it in his will.
Don’t finance her for anything.
You are just as much your dad’s daughter as this other girl. Her and her mum are being greedy. And her mum – she broke up your parent’s relationship along with your dad, but she was an equal partner in it. Don’t feed her jealously and greed.
You could argue your dad owes you more because he didn’t spend the time or money on you when he was alive.
NTA- but get with the estate lawyer ASAP. This is NO small amount or Anne would not be getting so pissed off. And no, you don’t need to pay for her college, she probably getting more than enough of her own money in the inheritance and doesn’t want to spend in on her education, she would rather lie to you and make you spend yours.
Wow, I’d give her exactly nothing.
Nope. He left a will. Respect his wishes. Especially after the threats and insults.
NTA. Don’t dishonor your dad’s wishes by giving her a dime. Let her figure out her own education. She threatened you with violence and turned down your very generous offer to pay for college. Enough. Block her, forget her and move on with your life.
Nta. Here is the thing. Never ever listen to anyone who says to just go along with something to keep the peace etc. they are either doormats, don’t care about how something is negatively affecting you or they don’t want to hear about your problems and want to get back to talking about yourself.
You were generous to offer to pay for her schooling and she said no I want it all. Now she gets none.
Remember you aren’t obligated to continue to have a relationship because you are related by blood. The correct quote is that blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb. The exact opposite meaning of how people misquote it. The relationships you form and tha family you make is stronger than the family given to you by blood.
Ummm your dad left it to you for a reason. You are also his daughter. Do not fund her education or give her a cent. You owe them absolutely nothing.
Fuck her. The money was your father’s, not hers. You do absolutely what you want with it (although talking to a investment pro might serve you, as well).
Wtf kind of friends do you have? You offered to finance her studies and she rejected it and git aggressive. I wouldn’t give her a dime after that. You need to ditch your shitty friends.
NTA. There has to be a reason your dad chose to leave that to you. It could be guilt over how things ended with your mother or maybe die to something with the AP.
Unfortunately, you will never know. Just honor your father’s wishes.
NTA – Listen, you are going through it with losing your Dad. If this is the first meaningful interaction you’ve had with Anne or her mother, that tells you right there that they are not your family. Anne is blood related to you, but she isn’t your family. She came to you not to bond as sisters (she’s had 21 years to do that and hasn’t felt the need), but because she wants money she feels entitled to. Her comment that you “aren’t really his daughter like she is” is another flashing neon sign that she doesn’t consider you her family. You’re an inconvenient obstacle to money she wants.
Did the AP consider your mom’s situation when your dad left? No.
AP and Anne’s financial problems are THEIR problems and not yours to carry. Even if you were stupid rich you owe them nothing. Do not allow the tender scared wound of your dad’s death to be violated by them demanding what he left you. Your Dad was a grown man who made his choices. It isn’t their right (or anyone else’s) to question it or tell you to give away what he left you. Also – this sounds like the will was a surprise to AP and Anne. There’s a reason your Dad did not reveal how his estate would be handled. Take that into consideration that he knew something you did not. You cannot trust them to be honest with you – they want your money and they will do whatever they think will work.
Block them both and move on with your life as if they do not exist. And tell anyone who is telling you to help them out to kick rocks and that they are more than welcome to donate to the Anne needs to get a job fund.
Do not finance her education! You will end up paying for all of it! She will ruin your credit and you’ll still have to pay for everything. She’ll have access to all of your personal information (social security number!!) if you put yourself on her school loan. Do you really think, with her anger she’s shown towards you, that she won’t try to use that to open who knows how many credit cards in your name?! She will never make payments, I think her attitude and violence at your meeting proves who she really is. Do not contact her anymore until she’s over this. Your father left you what he did for a reason. She’s probably HORRIBLE with money and he knew that. She is an angry, violent person and after what she did at your meeting, if she continues to harass you a restraining order might be a good idea.
NTA.
You need to do a few things. Firstly, speak to your dad’s lawyer, telling him exactly what happened.Seek his opinion on the situation.Find out about the funds and arrange to have everything put securely in your name.
Take a breather. Do not react. Plan carefully without haste.Get control of your own emotions and take advice from professionals, not your friends.You might benefit from a good therapist.
Speak to your mom, maybe with the lawyer present.
Someone who did not ask for a helping of the cake but demanded the whole cake ,fully expecting you to give it to her, sees you as an easy mark.Be forwarned.The lawyer could be a barrier to the abuse which will continue to come at you. Do not be guilted.
I am sorry that you are dealing with this aftermath. Your Dad had a reason for leaving you this inheritance. Your offer to fund educational pursuits was commendable. But put everything on the backburner for now. Do not meet in person or converse with the other family for now.
Stand tall. You can handle this.
NTA.
You offered she denied the offer. Block them.
It’s you inheritance, that your dad left you. It’d what he wanted. You weren’t an actual daughter to him, is a shitty comment. And she probably ment because you didnt live with him.
Keep your money and forget them.
Good luck.
Nope, your late father knew what kind of person she was & choose to give you the inheritance rather than pay for her college.
Don’t give this person a penny. If your dad wanted her to have something, he would have made appropriate directions to do so. Cut them off now and don’t offer anything to anyone.
Their financial stand is not on you nor your responsibility. Don’t buy into the crap stories they are feeding you.
NTA
I am sorry for your loss
Your father split his assets as he saw fit. Ann is just jealous and greedy. Do not give her a single penny. Otherwise, you’re opening yourself up to not only more manipulation but possibly legally as well.
She had your father’s attention, affection, and physical presence in her life her entire life. You, not so much. Makes me wonder if that’s why he gave you more than her. Either way, she’s not entitled to anything he gave you. So do not feel guilty.
Your father left you what he wanted.
You’re more generous than me. I would’ve kept the whole thing and considered it restitution for blowing up my family with an affair. I might consider giving her something if she had asked for a portion, but wanting the whole thing is way out of line, as is her comment about being more of a daughter than you. WTH? Her financial problems are not your concern. Block her and call the police if she threatens you again.
NTA and you need better friends. Your dad wanted you to have it if he wanted her to have it he would’ve given it to her. Do not finance her education just cut contact and move on.
NTA, may your father Rest in Peace. He fix what he thought was right, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. I’m sorry for your loss and I hope it will be less of a burden seeing all these responses
I wouldn’t even offer to pay for her education. First, could she be any less grateful??? Second, your dad arranged things the way he wanted. Finally, are you sure that the house and “minimal” inheritance is even true? I wouldn’t believe a word Anne or her mother say.
NTA…your father left it to you, plain and simple…she can literally take a long walk off a short pier…
Nope. Restraining order. Before giving her any money, talk to your dad’s lawyer and find out the reality of the situation. I am certain that you are entitled to see the will.
Hell no. Anne is nuts! If you already said you were going to finance her education and she kept insisting you give her all of your inheritance because you weren’t his daughter in the way she was, she can kick rocks. I would block and move on.
If she was the daughter to your father like she says she was, he would’ve left her a substantial amount of change like he did you.
PS. Your mom is a saint. I don’t know if I’d be strong enough to pay for a funeral of someone who purposefully and intentionally hurt me. I’m hoping it was her own form of retribution.
Your dad left it to you. Its yours. If he wanted to leave money to the other daughter, he would have. YOu have no idea what was happening in their relationship. It may not have been good. Take the inheritance and never look back.
Do not give these people any of your money. Your dad left it to you, and they became vile and violent while demanding you give them what is yours. Appeasement does not bring peace.
I think you were very generous in offering to help pay for her school and if you REALLY want to go that route ( not just because of pressure of forced cguilt) I would pay the money directly to the school quarterly along with a small allowance set up at this College’s bookstore to ensure that she has all the text she needs. Other than that, nada.
Definitely NTA.
All of it? Not even to split it evenly? What a scammer! Ignore her. Does her mom know she came to you? She should be embarrassed!
NTA.
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Don’t give her or her mother a dime! They get what they got. Period. They didn’t even love it respect him enough to pay for his funeral. They should be glad they got anything.
She Demanded All Your Inheritance- after getting a house and money. And cursed you and became violent. Don’t give her Anything, as a matter of principle. You are as much your dad’s daughter as she is. And she is a spoiled and entitled bitch.
“I wasn’t a daughter to him like she was” … there you have it. Your father knew he did you wrong – you never had a full-time dad, an in-house dad, if you will. He probably thought about it, probably felt guilty, and that is why he left you the nheritance… DO NOT SHARE! If you feel extremely generous you might fund her education, but how you described Anne and her mother, it might never be appreciated. They seem entitlled. After breaking up with your father your mother had to pick up the pieces. Now it’s their turn.
The inheritance is no one’s business but you and your fathers. Your father left it to you period. Don’t you think there’s a reason he did it this way? Respect his wishes.
Anne only asked to meet up with you for the money. Not because she actually wants to build a relationship with you. She had no interest in being a sister towards you previously or now. The minute you said no, she started being rude and threatening towards you. You don’t owe her anything.
Your dad had the right to do with his money what he wanted and you are the one he wanted to inherit it. He could’ve changed or made a new will at any point in time and left them as the beneficiaries. In fact, the fact that he did leave them a Home and some amount of money shows that what he left for you was intentional.
Don’t let her bully you into giving up your inheritance. In fact, after she was so rude I don’t think I’d pay for her school either. You don’t know how much of what she is telling you is true and how much she is just trying to tug on your heart strings. I can almost guarantee that if the tables were flipped, she would not be offering you a penny. I wouldn’t take her word about anything, including the struggles she claims they are going through.
Screw those people. Your dad left YOU that money, not them.
Do not I repeat do not finance Anne’s schooling. If your father wanted that he would’ve left money for that. As a matter of fact you do not know what your father left Anne and the AP. You are taking Anne’s word for gospel when she has every reason to lie.
You need to honor your father. Giving any part of your inheritance to Anne and/or the AP is dishonoring your father and his memory. Your dad made the will the made he made it so that both you and Anne were both equally taken care of by him in his death. Anne and her mother just want all of it. You need to stop letting Anne emotionally manipulate and abuse you.
Anne also turned to physical abuse when you wouldn’t do what she wanted. This is not a woman who is being truthful. Yet another reason to honor your father. You need to also stay far away from Anne and her mother. Anne has assaulted you verbally, physically, and emotionally. Do not give her another chance. You owe them nothing. Just like they would owe you nothing.
Don’t give her a damn penny.
If possible affordable then give her about $12000 or 12% of inheritance
But you are NOT REQUIRED to give anyone anything
You need excellent attorney defending YOU
You might need to move etc to keep her from finding/stalking you
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Don’t give them a red cent! Your father willed it to you not them.
Sorry for your loss ❤️
Do not give her a dime.
Set up a trust for Anne and then tell her to duck right off. If she complains, reduce the money amount and do that Every time she opens her mouth. By the time she’s blocked with a restraining order against her, she’ll be without a trust and out of your life. Tell your mother everything especially the assault.
NTA. I’m surprised she had the gall to set a date to catch up (has that ever happened before?) just to ask you for the entirety of your inheritance. I wish you would
Have laughed in her face and walked out. You don’t owe her any portion of your inheritance. Your dad wanted you to have it so do so in good health and with joy!
Call your dad’s lawyer. Tell him that she demanded you give her your full inheritance & seemed a bit unhinged. And you just want to be sure that your dad was fair with his division of his estate. Honestly I wouldn’t be surprised if her portion is about equal to yours, if not more.
Absolutely do not give them that inheritance. Your sister sounds incredibly entitled and just so damn cruel to make that comment about your father. Honestly, your offer to finance her college was more than generous, especially with that foul attitude she has presented to you. I would have walked away and told herto forget we are related after she started insulting my mother.
NTA, but after how she got physical with you you shouldn’t give her anything at all!!!
Your father expressed his wishes in writing. End of story.
Your dad wanted you to have the money – KEEP IT!
NTA. You owe her nothing. Tell her to stop.
I agree with others. You should not share your inheritance in part or in full with someone who clearly was covered in the will (the house and funds). Especially if they believe they are entitled.
Please speak to your Dad’s lawyer or another lawyer. After consulting the lawyer, you can simply say your lawyer has advised you not to deviate from your Father’s will.
NTA tell Anne, that if your father wanted her to have the money, that she would. This is your father’s way of trying to make up for what he did.
I’d rescind any offer for monetary help, after her demand.
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If your dad wanted her to have your inheritance it would have been left to her not you, including paying for her education. Don’t disrespect his memory by overriding his last wishes 👌🏻 NTA.