My puppy was sick and I went dead broke for her treatment. I was an emotional wreck. I hadn’t slept in two days bc I was constantly monitoring her. I asked my ex (My gf at the time). If she could come over and watch the pup so I could sleep. After returning from the store at 10pm. she had invited friends over without telling me and they were all drinking in my house. Not cooking the food for the dog or watching the dog whatsoever. I was pissed. I told them all, they were selfish and disrespectful. I said they all need to leave. I did show a lot of anger and yell. But i definitely bit my tongue and only said what I felt was important. Told them I didn’t give a fuck where they went. Im honestly having a hard time believing I reacted the right way. If I was just a raging dick?
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My puppy was sick and I went dead broke for her treatment. I was an emotional wreck. I hadn’t slept in two days bc I was constantly monitoring her. I asked my ex (My gf at the time). If she could come over and watch the pup so I could sleep. After returning from the store at 10pm. she had invited friends over without telling me and they were all drinking in my house. Not cooking the food for the dog or watching the dog whatsoever. I was pissed. I told them all, they were selfish and disrespectful. I said they all need to leave. I did show a lot of anger and yell. But i definitely bit my tongue and only said what I felt was important. Told them I didn’t give a fuck where they went. Im honestly having a hard time believing I reacted the right way. If I was just a raging dick?
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you reacted, not thinking in the heat of the moment – but however 1) it wasn’t right she invited friends to your home without clearing it with you first. 2) I ask was your puppy ok in that moment?
NTA
NTA. Ur ex threw a party without you, in your home, when you explicitly asked her to help. I hope your dog gets better and you get some sleep.
NTA! Fuck em. Puppies > people
Bruh. NTA.
She’s an ex for a reason, lol. Wow.
I want to know WTH is wrong with your girlfriend? Does she have a history of no empathy? Maybe her friends were unaware of what was going on so yelling at them may have been harsh, but your GF knew and deserves anything you may have said. Even if she doesn’t like your dog, presumably she likes you and should be supportive of you. Although if she doesn’t like your dog to the extent that she doesn’t care about its suffering, she is an awful person.
I hope your dog gets better soon. Some of my most stressful times have been when one of my dogs have been seriously ill. It is tough.
NTA. Glad she is ex now. Do not second guess yourself, they were wildly out of bounds.
NTA -your GF is though .
NTA, regardless of your sick puppy, your ex shouldn’t have been inviting anyone over to your place without your knowledge. That’s just common courtesy.
NTA. You were probably more polite than I would have been