So I (21F) share an appartment with my roomate (also 21F). We have been living together for almost a year and its usually fine, expect for her boyfriend.
he’s over like constantly i swaer i didnt agree to live with a couple. He doesn’t pay rent, never helps with anything, and he literally eats my food. Like i’ll buy snacks or drinks and they’re just gone. I’ve brought it up before, and she said she’d talk to him, but nothing changed/
Anyway the other night i got home late, exhausted, just wanted to shower and crash. I walk in the bathroom and her bf is in there, door wide open, literally shavinh his chest using MY! razor. That i use for my legs and private area. I was like wtf are you doing? and he goes like it’s not like i used your toothbrush and laughs.
I lost it and i told him to get out. he started acting all smug like,, you are becoming a drama queen.. becoming a drama queen??? waow.. soo I told him to get out of the apartment. My roommate came out all confused and halfasleep and started defending him, saying I was overreacting and he didnt mean anything by it.
I said idc. I pay rent, I buy my stuff, and im not living with some grown ass man child who thinks it’s okay to use my personal hygine things like it’s funny. she got pissed and said I embrassed her, and now she’s barely talking to me.
I’ve been sleeping with my door locked since then because honestly I dont trust him anymore. Some of our mutual friends said I was too harsh and should’ve waited till morning. But like How is this normal behavior?
AITA for kicking him out on the spot?
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Honestly, NTA and you should look into your lease terms to see if someone staying as often as he does violates your lease terms and then tell your roommate his visits have to be limited, alternatively, find a new roommate.
NTA move all your things in your room and lock it when you go out. Also talk to the landlord about guest policy and maybe a talk with your roommate even though I don’t think it will be beneficial at all
I’d be signing my name off that lease so fast
NTA tell her you he’s not on the lease and he can’t be staying there on the regular.
NTA, and you might want to check if your lease allows guests overnight because even if he’s not on the lease, having him stay regularly could be a legal issue down the road…
NTA. You were justified.
You don’t owe him or your roommate an apology. If she keeps prioritizing him over your shared space and safety, you may need to have a bigger conversation or start looking for a new living situation if she won’t change.
Your home should feel safe. Right now, it doesn’t and you have every right to change that.
NTA. Grown-ass man using your razor like it’s a shared bathroom amenity? Nope. You didn’t just kick out a guest—you kicked out a freeloading hygiene criminal. Your roommate can take a nap and get over it. You’re not running a charity for clueless boyfriends.
NTA. Make sure you have a GOOD lock on your door now. Then lock all your stuff up. Get a mini fridge for your bedroom. Figure out if the lease even allows a third person to crash there. Start looking for another place and/or telling her it’s time for her and him to get their own place.
NTA, but your roommate and her BF are.
NTA! Your roommate is enabling it by taking his side! I would tell him use your girlfriends shit! Glad you stood your ground. Sometimes freeloader bums are a pos.
Contact management and tell them he lives there but is not on the lease or paying rent. Or move out!
NTA. Go nuclear and talk to the landlord and start looking for other living arrangements. If he was so comfortable using your razor who knows what else of yours he’s borrowed. Your roommate and her BF are AHs.
Using someone else’s razor can spread infections like Hepatitis C and any other blood borne infections. It’s so gross that he was using your razor. Stealing food is really bad. Report his constant presence to your landlord.
He can use her razor… in her bathroom.
(because you know he’s not going to clean up his hair, either)
Naw NTA, if it was me, I’m a dude, I would’ve tossed him physically out. Straight disrespect, if it wasn’t intentional why doesn’t he use his GFS stuff, cuz he knows he shouldn’t
I would have told him to take his hepatitis and get the eff out. Using another person’s razor is disgusting!
NTA