For a bit of context, I’m 21, and recently started working at a restaurant. I became friends with my coworker and we started hanging out. We get along really well. She later introduced me to her roommate, who is very much my type. We have all been hanging out a lot lately. She never really knew i liked girls until her roommate asked me during a conversation if I like girls, and my coworker was kind of surprised. I think we can all tell we’re both pretty into each other, and today when we all hung out by the pool and had a couple drinks, we kissed while my friend was in the bathroom. I don’t know if I should be drawing a line here. Any suggestions on how I should move forward?
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I became friends with my coworker and we started hanging out. We get along really well. She later introduced me to her roommate, who is very much my type. We have all been hanging out a lot lately. She never really knew i liked girls until her roommate asked me during a conversation if I like girls, and my coworker was kind of surprised. I think we can all tell we’re both pretty into each other, and today when we all hung out by the pool and had a couple drinks, we kissed while my friend was in the bathroom. I don’t know if I should be drawing a line here. Any suggestions on how I should move forward?
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> 1. I kissed my coworker’s roommate
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Honestly sets u free?
NTA
NTA this just sounds like a meet cute tbh. How else are you meant to meet people organically? Does she have an issue with you liking girls or you kissing her roommate? I can get feeling left out of a friendship if 2 start dating/show romantic interest, but that is something that should be discussed between you 3 so boundaries can be set.
If one of my new friends fell in love with my roomie Id feel like a genius match maker (same gender or not)
I don’t see why kissing your coworker’s roomate might be a problem, I guess I’m lackimg context.
Will your coworker feel displaced? Will she be jealous somehow? Are you not looking anything serious atm and feel like your coworker might stop being your friend if you ditch her roomate?
Otherwise, for what you wrote, the roomate is also into you and this could be the beginning of something. My advice would be to talk with the roomate, see what you guys want and hope from all this and I would very much not consider the coworker whatsoever.
NTA, but a open a honest conversation with your coworker friend is going to do a lot more for you in this situation than speculating with Reddit strangers. I’m assuming they’re decent friends since you all are hanging out at the pool together, that combined with the fact she point blank asked if you were into girls means this may not even come as a surprise to your coworker friend.
NTA definitely nothing wrong with developing feelings if that’s what they are, for the roommate. I think as long as you and the roommate are communicating with each other, then there is no need to involve your coworker, because now it’s a personal matter.👍🏻Good luck with everything!
society is doomed if people have to ask if its ok if 2 ppl that like each other kiss…
Hook in 🙂
NTA. You’re an adult and free to do whatever you want.
You’re over thinking this. You were introduced to a new person and you and new person are attracted to each other.
Unless the roommate and the friend were actually a couple, than there’s no issue.
So you met someone without a dating app and you’re asking if you’re TA?
I think that’s rare these days and just .. nice 🤷🏻♂️
Congrats and stuff, stop responding to new happinesses with suspicion and guilt 😂 the universe came through for you, enjoy it
NTA.
Awwww
Happy for u:)
NTA
I’m confused. What’s the problem here?
This all sounds really nice.