AITA for laughing when my wife fell and pooped her pants because I thought it was a prank ?

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I (33m) think my wife (31f) is genuinely funny but her love of pranks and toilet humor can be a bit much. One day, I was in the living room. My wife ran in holding her tummy. She slipped and fell. Then she said something like, crap I pooped my pants.

Everything about it, seemed like a prank she would do. From the double meaning phrase, to the toilet humor, to the physical comedy. Despite the fact that I dislike most of her pranks, I found this one funny. But it wasn’t pranking, when I realized, I tried to help her up. She told me not to touch her.

She sarcastically called me husband of the year for laughing at her. I explained but she said I should have known it wasn’t a prank because she did a similar one before and she doesn’t repeat the same pranks. Am I the asshole ?

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    I (33m) think my wife (31f) is genuinely funny but her love of pranks and toilet humor can be a bit much. One day, I was in the living room. My wife ran in holding her tummy. She slipped and fell. Then she said something like, crap I pooped my pants.

    Everything about it, seemed like a prank she would do. From the double meaning phrase, to the toilet humor, to the physical comedy. Despite the fact that I dislike most of her pranks, I found this one funny. But it wasn’t pranking, when I realized, I tried to help her up. She told me not to touch her.

    She sarcastically called me husband of the year for laughing at her. I explained but she said I should have known it wasn’t a prank because she did a similar one before and she doesn’t repeat the same pranks. Am I the asshole ?

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    > The action that should be judged is laughing when my wife fell and pooped her pants because I thought it was a prank.

    I maybe the asshole since my wife said I should have known it wasn’t a prank because she did a similar one before and she doesn’t repeat the same pranks.

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  3. Salt_Tap8892 Avatar

    That is so fucking funny. You are definitely NTA.

  4. Return_of_the_HoWaT Avatar

    NTA – This is what fruit is born of frequent pranks. And as a good partner, you were engaging and supporting her antics. When you realized it was real, you immediately went to help. She’s probably mad at herself because she KNOWS you laughing was essentially her own doing.

  5. ThrowRA4153 Avatar

    NTA- she’s the boy who cried wolf.

  6. Mauinfinity-0805 Avatar

    NTA. Read her the story of the boy who cried wolf. Unfortunately the downside of being the lovable prankster is that people don’t know when you are being serious.

  7. JynxGirl Avatar

    NTA it’s sad for your wife in the moment, and I hope she’ll forgive you for laughing, but that is pretty funny.

    Now go buy her something to make her feel less embarrassed.

  8. Khalman Avatar

    So the story is probably fiction, but I do love the idea that it couldn’t be a prank, not because it was in poor taste or taking things too far, but because it was too close to something she’d pulled before.

    NTA

  9. phoebelacy Avatar

    NAH. You genuinely thought it was one of her pranks, and she genuinely felt embarrassed and hurt. Miscommunication all around.

  10. Slawth_x Avatar

    NAH she was just embarrassed and you weren’t helping but didn’t know better

  11. Objective_Citron4560 Avatar

    BAHAHAHAHAHAH NTA. Your wife is just the girl who cried poop.

  12. MistressLyda Avatar

    NAH

    Shit happens. Don’t overanalyze this and make it a big deal, and it is forgotten tomorrow by both.

  13. the_elephant_stan Avatar

    NTA. She brought this on herself. Also hilarious.

  14. breakConcentration Avatar

    She made her bed, now she has to lie in it. With or without poop in her pants.

  15. simple_champ Avatar

    NTA

    Hasn’t she ever heard the proverb of the boy who cried shit wolf?

  16. hushnecampus Avatar

    You should have known I was telling the truth because I’ve lied before

    OK…..

    NTA

  17. cobaltaureus Avatar

    This is exactly the kind of low stakes drama I live for in this Reddit. I’m on your side, though I would apologize for your wife that this happened to her in the first place. It is objectively funny when written out. NTA

  18. No_Struggle_6465 Avatar

    NAH – Even without a history of pranks and toilet humor that is hilarious. Without the history I would say maybe a little AH just for not making sure she’s ok first. But a full grown adult falling while running to the bathroom and shitting themselves is a funny moment. The one liner of “crap i pooped my pants” is hysterical and she should be proud of it. Albeit probably one of her more embarrassing moments so I get he being a bit upset about it.

  19. Life_Bit_4298 Avatar

    Tell her this story about my grandpa. My grandpa was very funny and he really liked to make jokes and pranks. He entertained himself and the whole family. My mom was used to these jokes whole childhood. Once my grandfather was climbing a tree to pick apples, he missed the ladder and fell. He was in the garden just with my mom, a little girl. My mom thought it was another joke, so she just stood there and laughed. Grandpa was out of breath and couldn’t breathe. He tried to navigate her to call for help, but she thought it was another joke and just laughed. He finally got it together, got up, and it worked out well. If your wife likes to make jokes, she has to expect that others will laugh.

  20. PavlovaToes Avatar

    You’ll laugh about this in a few years. NAH, though I can understand why she’s upset, it’s just a misunderstanding lol

  21. Bhuffman85 Avatar

    I would’ve laughed as well prank or not but probably been trying to help her up as I was laughing. Poop jokes are just funny to guys we can’t help it, I got sick camping shit myself going to bathhouse thought it was funny and gross at same time lol.

  22. sisterfunkhaus Avatar

    NTA. It’s not weird that you would think it’s a prank since she pranks you so often. It was an innocent mistake.

  23. leelee90210 Avatar

    She needs to calm down

  24. BallsoMeatBait Avatar

    Never cry shitwolf. This is exactly why.  NTA.

  25. CoarseSalted Avatar

    NTA but she was probably just super embarrassed in the moment and got upset, no harm on either of y’all!

  26. cheekmo_52 Avatar

    NTA. She brought it on herself. You couldn’t tell she was being serious because most of the time she isn’t.

    You might have her peruse “The Boy Who Cried Wolf” for reference as to what happens when you take things to the point when people can’t tell if you’re serious.

  27. MorganFreemanCoPilot Avatar

    NTA. Can’t be surprised by laughter when you regularly behave like a fool. Maybe she should grow up and stop pranks altogether? I’m sure she can find a better use of her energies at her age.

  28. 3picks1game Avatar

    I’d never stop laughing

  29. EbbWilling7785 Avatar

    Bahaha your only clue she says, is that she’s already done a prank EXACTLY like this before and wouldn’t repeat it. I think you’re off the hook. NTA

  30. i-like-turtles-4eva Avatar

    Poop is funny. Just like Frank Reynolds says. NTA.

  31. Just-Gas-8626 Avatar

    This is so dumb and fake. Do better

  32. adinade Avatar

    Nta especially considering she said she’s done similar in the past as a prank

  33. kurokomainu Avatar

    NTA If she continues to believe you were mockingly laughing at her, I would tell her that while it may have felt that way to her in the moment, you weren’t laughing thinking she’d actually crapped her pants. You were laughing because it fit her pranks and toilet humor, so that’s what you thought it was.

    You were laughing at what you thought was her joke. You’re not going to go along with a false image she has of the situation, because that would be harmful to your relationship. What she’s upset about didn’t actually happen. Apologizing or acting as if her mistaken view is justified would not be fair and wouldn’t go anywhere positive.

    It’s not quite the same as crying wolf, but it’s the same pattern. She pranks a lot and makes toilet humor jokes. That’s fine, but she can’t stay seriously annoyed at you just because for once it was real and you didn’t realize.

  34. TheNewNumberThirteen Avatar

    NAH

    You reacted in a reasonable way based on her past, and then tried to help.

    She was feeling vulnerable and got laughed at, so she is understandably upset.

  35. cynefin- Avatar

    NTA. I laughed when I read this.

  36. FormerlyDK Avatar

    NTA. And the little boy cried “wolf!”…