For context, I’m in my first trimester pregnancy and been feeling very nauseous and we have an 11 month old. I went out to dinner with my mother-in-law and brought my husband home leftovers for dinner. He flipped out when he saw them and said it wasn’t enough for dinner can you guys please tell me if I’m the asshole for leaving him this dinner? There was also a side of yogurt sauce and extra bread. (Raita and naan) the photo below
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Backup of the post’s body: For context, I’m in my first trimester pregnancy and been feeling very nauseous and we have an 11 month old. I went out to dinner with my mother-in-law and brought my husband home leftovers for dinner. He flipped out when he saw them and said it wasn’t enough for dinner can you guys please tell me if I’m the asshole for leaving him this dinner? There was also a side of yogurt sauce and extra bread. (Raita and naan) the photo below
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bro what? that’s an insane reaction to a literal full plate of food. you are definitely not the AH
NTA
That dinner looks fantastic and those leftovers look like they should be enough. If he is still hungry after eating all of that then he is just a fatass and picking a fight.
Is HE the one pregnant? Good god, NTA NTA NTA NTA
you’re doing great mommas 😭❤️
Maybe he can make his own ass some more food then. Like, what? I swear… Clearly he meant to say “Thanks for the food that you didn’t have to bring me darling” /s
He can buy or make his own damn dinner if he’s not ok with that. That’s a full delicious plate
I’d be very grateful for that plate.
NTA but he sure is.
I have left over red thai curry for dinner tonight. I would be very happy with what looks like 2 x curry’s, rice and Nan
He can cook his own dinner if he’s not happy with this
NTA
If he doesn’t like it, then tough shit. Either he makes his own dinner or he goes without food.
Sounds like you have a man-child.
Is your husband a child that hasn’t been raised properly? Or is he a grown man? Based on this post I’d assume the former… good lord
Looks like you’re gonna be the mom of two children soon, one is just a lot older
Aside from the peas (I’m allergic) that looks delicious and I want! Especially because you said Naan and yogurt sauce. YUMMMMMMM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That’s also quite a lot of food.
And a good rule I have is that the rare time I eat out I absolutely will not be cooking when I get home
My husband would be thrilled BUT I do agree that he also would have said it’s not enough. Although, he would have just had a bowl of cereal afterwards. Lol
Nta. He could’ve also gotten himself dinner. He could’ve cooked or ordered or anything. What he should absolutely not do is complain when his pregnant wife brings him a full plate.
Anyway, Congrats on the pregnancy, how does it feel to be the mom of soon three babies?
Hi, I’m a husband with a wife and a toddler and you are NTA by any stretch of the imagination.
Oooh! Scraps from somebody’s dinner. Sure- women like this stuff. TBH- lot of rice, scant veg, hella carbs. He can put up with scraps. He need not think this is a gift.
It’s a cultural thing. Hindus do not eat leftover food. By giving him leftovers it’s a diss.
If there’s meat/shrimp in that, what he’s probably complaining about is there isn’t as much of it in comparison to the sauce / rice and so on. Lotta men have the ‘grh protein’ engrained. Extra bread and yoghurt doesn’t qualify as ‘enough food’ if you take that into account.
But like, duh, you ate what you could, which included the nice bit. And most people far exceed the amount of protein they need. You didn’t have to bring him anything.
The he can get the fuck up and make himself more.
Is this a fucking joke?
Dump the food in the trash and wish him good luck.
I don’t want to get banned for what I want to say.
Sounds like you have two kids already, with a third on the way. He needs a feeding plan for himself when he gets home. His job.
Eggs are great, fast, easy and filling. Omelettes all the way.
I have kids, I’ve long stopped expecting a meal when I get home. As they’ve gotten older I might get 1 or 2 a week . That’s great.
Its taught me to cook.
Edit: He might just suffer from “hanger”. You know him better, of course. NTA
…That is a whole ass plate lol wtf. That looks delicious. Rice and a pita/naan [?] is filling as hell, too. NTA.
People like your husband need to learn how to cook. One of the best damn skills to learn.
Esh
Soooo this is why I hate bringing leftovers from restaurants. If you live with other people, they will wonder why you didn’t get them any. If you offer them left overs they will snub you and be mad you offered them old food. Damned if you do, damned if you don’t.
If he’s a picky eater, he’s probably mad you didn’t get him fresh food or a seperate portion of food for him. I don’t know if its the norm in your family but it might seem rude to give someone second hand food.
One strategy we’ve started to do in my family is get everyone their own seperate portion of food if it is in the budget. That person then decides what they want to do with their left overs. That way, that person can eat their left overs later if they choose.
My hubby would have been thrilled.
My hubby also doesn’t expect me to cook or provide for his sustenance. He considers it a bonus when I cook.. (that said, I do cook a lot but it’s never expected).
He’s an adult. He can feed himself. JFC
Doesn’t know microwavable meals exist? Maybe he should stop by the supermarket and pick some up
You should tell him to stop being ungrateful and he isn’t the one carrying a child. If he’s still hungry after you were nice enough to bring him food, he can grow up and cook for himself.
Food is food and it’s still fresh
NTA
Why is he being such a cry baby? The way i see it, if it’s not enough to fill you up then consider it a little treat and you can get your self some extra dinner after. What kind of dude complains that his wife brought them leftovers lol? When my wife brings me leftovers i enjoy them instead of complaining about the quantity.
He should be grateful you even thought of him!!
NTA
Ummm no. Definitely NTA.
It’s so hard being the husband of a pregnant woman. Poor baby deserves a full entree to himself and shouldn’t have to ask for it. Why didn’t you read his mind?!?! /s 🙄🙄🙄🙄
I’d be honored and flattered if my pregnant wife brought me a plate like that. Also I’m a big dude. (6’4″ and 280) and that plates looks more than enough. NTA
Are his arms broken? Is he banned from using the stove?
This is the last plate of food this man would get from me
Dude, thats ungrateful and shitty. Can the man not feed himself? NTA
HE is the asshole. I swear men are so useless and have such audacity. He is a grown ass man, he can make his own dinner. He should be happy you brought him food! Also you’re pregnant! He should be taking care of YOU!
You are doing a fantastic job with your two and a half children (your husband included).
NTA. That’s a loaded plate.
What the actual? Is he not an adult capable of getting/ making his own meal? I would be super happy with that.
Man-child alert.
Y’all really choose winners to knock you up.
NTA. I have eaten my husbands leftovers and he has eaten mine. Typically though if we are out we will ask if the other wants something and order it for them.
Need more context here. The food suggests a foreign couple in a foreign country. I would guess a western country but not USA. My guess would be UK and the couple is an Indian-British ethnic disposition.
My boyfriend would be hungry still after eating this. What he wouldn’t do is throw a fit over it. He would thank me for the food, then act like an adult and find something else to eat.
Do you have 1 child and 1 on the way, or two children and one on the way?
Is he physically disabled or cognitively impaired in some what? That he cannot make himself something he would prefer?
I’m not sure what the issue is here
My husband did all the cooking and cleanup for my first trimester. He should be incredibly grateful you thought to bring him anything at all, and with an 11-month-old as well?! What a jerk.
Just a question: why didn’t you just order and bring home a full meal for him? I do that for my SO without hesitation. It’s also my love language so idk.
He is an adult. He can get his own food. He can always make something additional. Why didn’t he stop on the way home ?
NTA You went out for dinner and brought him back a full plate of food. He should be grateful. Jeeze I would have been just happy with even half or less. If he wants more food he can make it himself
NTA, is your husband a child? Can he not prepare additional food to stuff into his face if this amount is insufficient? His response is a bit unhinged for an adult with a wallet and autonomy.
It looks good to me but I’m not a man. I’m guessing he probably would have liked to have his own meal?
Nope. He’s lucky you brought home leftovers at all. I don’t count on my wife bringing home stuff when she eats with friends or family. Tell him to make a pb&j if he’s that helpless
Nta, if he doesnt like it he can Cook somthing for himself he is not a child
NTA
I actually lol’d when I read this
My husband would’ve been geeked af to get a takeout container no matter if it were a fresh meal or leftovers – that he was included/considered would be all that mattered to him. If he needed more food, he would just make himself more food.
TBF I also would’ve probably just ordered my husband something and given him access to both, but he surely wouldn’t have thrown a fit lol I can’t even imagine lolol
NTA
NTA because he could easily eat that and then more if he’s still hungry, right?
You could leave me those leftovers any day!!!
How do you ladies even have enough attraction to these assholes you marry to procreate with them?
Eh it’s not a lot of food but it’s something so whatever
His only reaction should have been “thank you wife for thinking of me and bringing me dinner. Can I rub your feet or put the toddler to bed for you?” Next time don’t bring him leftovers if he’s going to be such a lil brat about it he can make his own dinner he’s a grown ass man.
Ungrateful asf, kinda irrelevant but i would have devoured the shit out of that cuz i havent eaten chicken in a long time
I would be delighted if my partner left this out for me. And if I was still hungry afterwards I would simply make myself a snack like a fucking adult.
You’re about to have 2 kids.
I’m going to be honest with you after working 10 to 12 hours a day working coming home and finding an actual meal waiting for me and I’m grateful for that in itself. some people need a reality check. mind you my wife works from home and watchs our little ones.. she does an amazing job
Is he disabled? If he wants more food, what is stopping him from making more food?
You went out to dinner, he should have made his own damn dinner and been grateful for you bringing him anything at all because you didn’t have to.
that’s pretty messed up, you don’t make him tie his own shoes too? the world has gone mad
Is he a horse? C’mon now that looks great. What a man baby.
Damn, I want some Indian food…
If went went out with my mom or bfs mom, he would be happy with whatever I brought home. He is a fantastic human and would be fine even if I didn’t bring home dinner. I definitely would communicate ahead of time that he’s on his own if we had other things we were doing after dinner that were not conducive to bringing home a meal.
NTA. Some leftovers are actually better the next day because the flavors meld together overnight. Pot roast is my favorite the next day.
Did he expect you to come home and make him dinner? He can make his own dinner. Yours was sorted already.
Was he home with the 11 month old. I hope he fed her.
This looks like a full meal. If he wants anything more he can cook for himself or buy his own food.
NTA. That’s a good looking dinner right there.
When my wife goes out to eat with her friends, I never expect her to bring me something home. She often does because she’s amazing and she knows I’ll eat the hell outta some leftovers. But this entitlement is nasty. NTA
not at all. that dinner looks delicious. hell, after the rice, naan and meat/protein settle, with what ever liquid your having with your dinner. i’d say you’d be filled to the brim once the rice expanded/settled. overall, You’re NOT the AITA. you’re hubby is for not appreciating a plate being brought before him, with little to no effort on his part other than sitting and lifting his hand to feed himself.
NTA. If he wanted a full meal, he should have politely asked for one. What’s there is plenty anyway. He could easily have just supplemented with food from home if he wasn’t satiated. But flipping out on you over it is NEVER an option.
Looks good
OK, real answer:
These are your leftovers?
See, I’m going to break from the tradition of most responses with “GRRRL LET THAT ZERO COOK HIS OWN MEALS” and suggest you bring their misery and hostility into your marriage.
It sounds like you’re a SAHM and follow a more traditional role where you cook/clean.
Is this a bad thing? Nah.
But perhaps next time, rather than giving him your leftovers, just order another meal for takeout and bring him that. That way he doesn’t feel like an afterthought.
Barring that, if he’s still being saucy, tell his mother on him 🙂
That looks delicious. I’d be grateful. NTA
Your husband is TA. He can make his own food.
Next time, bring the leftovers to me. 😁😁 Your husband is beyond ungrateful. You are growing a human, and this entitled git is complaining about the large amount of food you brought him?? NTA
So what’s he fixing himself for dinner tonight?
He’s an adult (supposedly). He learned a long time ago how to feed himself.
NTA, that food looks so good. if he’s still hungry afterwards he can be a big boy and make himself some more food. he’s the asshole here, and incredibly immature.
NTA! What is it with men that they could see you keeled over sick, throwing up with a crying baby in a dirty diaper next to you and still say, “So honey, what’s for dinner?” I don’t care how patriarchal one’s culture may be, unless your blood runs cold and black, there is no way you could say that to another human being and not feel ashamed.
Ngl food look nasty unseasoned but that enough food to eat he just being fattie
I wish all women would just get the fuck out when men pull the baby act. Staying just enables selfish behavior, and ensures that men will continue to act like this into infinity while women waste their lives catering to it. Think of the future generations.
Honestly it depends how big he is if he is 6 ft 5 with an appetite like my husband no .. for any normal person yea, he could have eaten it and have so fruit after! Not bitched
You’re carrying this man’s child and he has the audacity to be angry because you didn’t bring him enough food? He’s a brown ass man. He can cook for himself or find something else/additional to eat if he doesn’t like it. It sounds like you’re about to be the single mother of two infants.
Oh no are both his arms broken or something?
When you look back on this moment you’ll know it’s when you should have left.
Then he can make more food himself wtf. If he doesnt wanna cook theres always cereal or instant ramen
Will you marry me?
Then he can eat what he cooked
Call his mom 👏
NTA – I wouldn’t even be able to finish all that in one go. If he’s still hungry after he can grab some fast food or make something for himself
NTA. I’m a man and that looks like plenty for a meal!
Honey you have TWO toddlers, not one.
Wow thanks for the overwhelming replies. This snowballed into me not being a good wife blah blah but I just wanted to know if his original reason for lashing out was justified and I think the consensus is that it was not. Thanks I will stand my ground that he can make his own food if he’s going to be ungrateful for leftovers. I really wasn’t trying to be like oh here’s a tiny bit I thought it was plenty. Thanks again
So is your husband too incompetent to cook more food for himself instead of flaming his pregnant wife? NTA. Nip this in the bud now
I would definitely not be full from that plate, but that says far more about me than the plate. Regardless, if my husband thought to bring me leftovers then I would be so grateful and absolutely not complain. If I were still hungry then a PB&J is the perfect little dessert. NTA. Not even close.
That looks tasty and yummy and satisfying. I’m 6’2 and 250lb. I’d be struggling to finish it all
Ngl, if someone told me they had dinner for me and it was mostly rice with like 5 small pieces of meat that might be big enough for one bite each, I’d be disappointed. I wouldn’t rage out but I would feel like an afterthought and a little unappreciated. Was there a reason you couldn’t have ordered him his own meal to go and brought it home? Especially if he does manual labor and comes home starving this would not be enough. I would never put up with someone raging or throwing a toddler temper tantrum over it to be clear. I am just saying this is not enough of the main dish (proteins) and I would also be sad and still hungry.
Make him eat dhai and rice next time. He needs to stop acting like baby
Did you check to see if he wanted anything by chance?
Tell his fat ass to eat it or make his own food.
lol the whiny man baby knows how to get more food
NTA
This without any sides is already quite a big meal, I don’t know what his issue is. Besides that, he could have cooked something himself.
NTA. Sounds like he can make his own damn dinner from now on.
Throw that orange(?) and tomato on there and tell him that should do it
Wait wait wait.. you went out to dinner with HIS mother and he still expected you to take care of his dinner? Girl, you’re not even remotely the asshole but your husband sure is 😅
Oh man that looks so good!! I would take the naan and scoop up a bite with everything on it! NTA
If this is not enough for dinner, he can make more. Is he disabled and can’t use his limbs?
Excuse mw,me, your husband under five years old? Why did he not cook his own dinner?
And yeah that is enough food for two people.
NTA and how is that not enough food???
Tell him he’s on his own from now on. NTA.
No cause what is his problem????
That’s an enormous plate of food…
Bottom line, even if it was not enough food it’s not your problem. You are under no obligation to feed this grown ass man-child. If he is incapable of taking care of himself, especially while you are pregnant you will be forever catering to this nonsense.
I am sorry, but your husband does not respect you as a wife or human. Marriages are partnerships, it seems like he just wants servitude.
I’d be shedding the extra weight.
My husband would have possibly not wanted it (he’s not always up for Indian) but… he would have politely declined and then fed himself. I feel horrified for you that you have one on the way and a man sized child at home too. Good grief 😖
I’d be extracting for that plate no matter the circumstances.
Not going to say you are an AH… but, I’m a big guy, and that would not be enough for me even with the yoghurt and extra bread. It just doesn’t look like it would be filling enough for an evening meal, maybe Lunch.
If this is a case where you are SAHM and he goes to work and the deal is part of your job is to make sure there is food, I would be a bit miffed coming home from work if that was all there was. Somewhat of a pass due to being pregnant but with something like that if it was me would have appreciated a text while I was working to let me know what was there and to pick something up on the way home if it wasn’t enough.
As for the flipped out, it is such a nebulous term I have no idea what you mean, was he a bit exacerbated because he might now need to go back out after getting home from work as you didn’t text him? Or was he full on shouting and screaming about you ‘failing your womanly duties’ (in quotes as that is not something I would agree with just giving two extremes)? The details and your perception of how he responded kinda matter there
NTA – hubby is being a whiny little asshole.
NTA- I played a game with my partner called “would you be mad” gave him your scenario and photo. He wouldn’t be mad, and agreed with the rest of us that that’s a perfectly reasonable amount of food. How much does your husband usually eat?
So your husband has no arms and is utterly dependant on you for keeping him alive?
I can’t imagine getting mad at my wife for feeding me. That looks amazing. Tell your husband to grow the fuck up.
Sounds like somebody is feeling petulant that an 11 month old gets more attention than him and that there’s another person who’s going to take that attention. Like he was your only child before or something. He can eat what you provided, thank you and if he’s still hungry, he can grab something else. Go have a banana buddy. Eat an apple.