I (21f) do feel sorry for my mom (49f) because my dad (52m) cheated on her and left her for a much younger woman. My mom got the house, and I live with her. My mom has this boyfriend (27m) who comes over a lot.
One morning, we were having breakfast. The boyfriend was touching her lower back, and mom said stop while laughing. She said she’s on her period. The boyfriend said “just imagine me as a vampire who will appreciate your red river and your fart box.” My mom laughed but I literally gagged. I hated my imagination for picturing it.
My mom called me baby for gagging, while her boyfriend was there. Later, when her boyfriend wasn’t there, she said I have internalized misogyny for being grossed out by the mentions of a woman’s period and farting. She said she’s a sexual being, and she deserves to have fun. She said I’m a grown woman now and I can’t be so immature. I understand that woman have periods and we fart. I’m a woman too after all. I understand that my mom is a sexual being. I just don’t want to hear about it so bluntly. Am I the asshole ?
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Your mum is weird. Who wants to hear their parent dirty talk? that’s fucking vile and normal to not want to hear.
NTA. Regardless of age, you don’t make comments like that in front of someone’s kid, that’s way too much.
What kind of flirting is that bro wtf đđ
I have never seen rizz so immaculate
hell nah bro
Everything about this is disgusting. NTA
The mom and boyfriend are the AH for being so open about it in front of you.
NTA necessarily but ngl id have probs snort-laughed myself into choking and then said something like “ew wtf”.
You have a right to your feelings. Maybe a calm discussion with your mom about boundaries/ what to explicitly say around you is in order? If she sees you as a grown woman, then she should respect your request to keep that talk away from you.
𤎠There’s a lot that’s natural but there’s no need for oversharing. Also I doubt vampires appreciate fart-boxes. And this has nothing to do with misogyny because men have fart-boxes as well. But hey, let’s throw big words around to justify inappropriate behavior. NTA
“No, I was grossed out by listening to ya’ll…”
Wtf is wrong with your Mom?
Sure, Jan.
Lmao, well now we know mom’s bf is a huffer.
She bleeds and farts and he…loves it.
She’s his bloody Lil stink-box. Leave er alooooone
Your mum is trying to regress to the age of her boyfriend to claim a common ground with him but also negate the pain of the breakup with your father , and try to reclaim her youth . Essentially she’s doing the same thing as your dad minus the cheating by dating a younger partner to reject her aging . But instead of her partner maturing she’s regressing to his age and level of maturity . Soon you’ll be parenting her !
No one wants to hear about their parents getting railed in the poop shoot
In going to hell for laughing đ
How is that flirting? That is straight up weird and gross wth
I don’t think anyone can blame you. It’s not only justified, it would be kind of weird if you weren’t a bit triggered by whatever that was.
NTA. No one should be talking dirty with their partner in front of others unless there is mutual understanding and agreement.
Sorry but her and her bf need to grow up there is a time and place for that and itâs not at the breakfast table and not a n front of people
NTA. Tell your mother getting your horn on in front of your kid is actually intensely disturbing. Normal people don’t do that.
Your mom is running out of time when it comes to sex. In a year or two, she’ll encounter pre-menopausal period and it just spiral down into oblivion. Right now, she is taking anything she can despite of their inappropriate actions in front of you. Not fair, but that’s what it is.
Youâre an adult leave already, start your own life. Partially an AH
NTA. At the very LEAST thereâs this thing called tact. Iâm fairly sure that this wouldnât happened in a courtroom, a public restaurant, or anywhere else where there are people who donât want to hear it. You deserve the same courtesy. If your mother cannot afford you the basic courtesy not to talk about âred riversâ of whatever, then sheâs the one who should self reflect.
Youre not human if you DIDNT gagđ NTA.
Thanks for making my skin crawl btwđ
NTA. I’m sure she wouldn’t want to hear your partner talk dirty like that to you in front of her either. It’s not about maturity. You don’t say shit like that within earshot of family members or anybody else because it’s a private conversation. Bleh.
Why would you be an asshole for gagging? That’s not a controllable bodily function.
Thats intolerable. Tell her you cant take it and stay away from them.
Sounds like itâs time for you to move out. Only way to not hear it is to not be around anymore.
You mean gagging like a child?
I’m 31 and I just gagged as well. Who flirts using the phrase “fart box”?
Edit: forgot my judgement. NTA.
Just because your mom is flattered by The Red Baron over there putting his lips up to her stink wrinkle and holding her farts in like they’re bong hits doesn’t mean you or anyone else has to think that’s cute or even relatively normal.
NTA, your mom and her boy toy are fucking weird as hell.
Your mother has no class. And her choice for a man is creepy in many ways.
Start overcharging sexual details with her. They dont even have to be true.. just enough to gross her out
NTA, your mother is being disgusting – dating someone who could be your brother (probably out of revenge because of your dad) and for forcing you to listen to gross sexual advances from her young boyfriend.
Ummm…that’s more than flirting. That’s sex talk. Boundaries. Some things shouldn’t be done in front of others, let alone the partner’s children. Sounds like your mom was hurt and is seeking male validation to the point of ignoring some sense of decorum.
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NTAH
Youâre 21 time to move out. This is literally why you move out. So stop being a child and take care of your own self instead of relying on your parents.
NTA. Her behaviour in front of you is vile. I’d be offended if a couple behaved that way in front of me – more so if it was my mother.
Did you ever think that maybe… just maybeeeeeerr they did it on purpose to elicit that reaction from you
Iâm sorry but no one and I mean absolutely no one wants to hear their motherâs partner talk about her âfart boxâ over breakfast. I donât care how mature or well adjusted you claim to be that is grim. Good for your mum snagging herself a young stallion though.
So vile. I hate age gap relationships as theyâre so creepy and weird. But this is exceptionally creepy and weird. Who talks like that at 27? Yucky. And your mother is wild for calling you misogynistic for gagging. I think Iâd pass away if I heard my parents talking like that with their significant others đ
NTA – Dirty talk is often “too much” in front of people who are not part of the sexual relationship. Doubly so, if it actually involves period sex and an*l
Tell your mom you don’t want to be part of her polycule.
Youâre not alone in thinking that this is wrong, very wrong.
If sheâs found a new kinky behaviour with a toy boy then ask her to keep it in the bedroom.
Maybe tell her sheâs overcompensating for your dad having a younger g/f
Ew, NTA
Yeah. Nta. Dude talking bout eating period blood like the fucking count𤎠while you’re eating breakfast. You should find the video of that girl who sucked her dirty tampon and show it to her while she’s eating, then call her immature when she vomits
You donât need to hear that kind of talk! But Mom is probably so delighted she has a younger boyfriend that she doesnât care what he says!
Your mother is disgusting. She’s the immature one.
Ew
bring a guy over and do the exact same in front of her. See what her reaction is
That isn’t reasonable conversation to have in front of anyone else, let alone with your child in ear shot. I mean, I don’t think 27 is too young to decide who they want to be with and if there isn’t any gross power dynamics at play, more power to them. The issue I hate is how graphics and visual the language forces your brain to be.
If Mom said, we can’t tonight, I’m on my period, and the bf said, “I don’t mind.” I’d say, well, maybe you’re a bit overreacting but that was not what was said, like, at all. Huuuuak. I say this as a 44 year old dude, if that matters.
Cigar caught a cub, more power to her but maybe let your child leave the room before you get to the graphic talk.
Hey man let me know when you wake up from that NIGHTMARE!
YTA you’re 21 years old, if you don’t want to see/hear sexual innuendo between your mom and her boyfriend then leave. Show some respectÂ