My roomate (21F) keeps taking out my groceries from my fridge without asking. i asked her multiple times to stop, but she just laughs it off.
So I bought a seperate mini fridge with a lock. She got furious saying “I don’t trust her” and taht it’s rude to treat roomates like strangers.”
Now she’s barely talking to me, saying I ruined everything between them.
Aita for protecting my own food?
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My roomate (21F) keeps taking out my groceries from my fridge without asking. i asked her multiple times to stop, but she just laughs it off.
So I bought a seperate mini fridge with a lock. She got furious saying “I don’t trust her” and taht it’s rude to treat roomates like strangers.”
Now she’s barely talking to me, saying I ruined everything between them.
Aita for protecting my own food?
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Nta
“You don’t trust me” – “You’ve proven to be untrustworthy”
“You’re not treating me like a roommate” – “Even roommates ask before taking things that don’t belong to them”
Your food. Your money that purchased it. Your decision.
She’s just mad her free grocery store is closed.
…you’re not treating her like a stranger. you’re treating her like you know her. because she is a thief. you trust her to steal from you, because she has done so repeatedly and refuses to stop.
nta, no point reasoning with this one i’m afraid.
NTA. She’s right: you don’t trust her; nor should you. She already violated that trust many times.
NTA. Did you tell her “You will take my food. You’ve proven it. So, of course I don’t?”
You aren’t treating her like a stranger. You’re treating her like the thief she is. Keep your stuff locked up since boundaries aren’t being respected.
NTA.
NTA. Trust is earned. And if she isn’t stealing your food, why would it matter where it is? Her sulking is just emotional manipulation.
She made this uncomfortable first by taking your food, it’s not like it was some utopia before you bought the fridge. You bought it because she was being an AH.
No, she’s mad because you cut off her access to free food. Tell her, “Yes, you’re absolutely correct. You refused to stop taking food I PAID FOR, so you forced me to take action.”
NTA
NTA. She’s a thief and you’re right not to trust her.
NTA “You’re right. I don’t trust you. I asked you stop taking my groceries and you laughed in my face. I’m not treating you like a stranger, I’m treating you like someone who will steal my food given the opportunity. If you wanted a situation where we respectfully share the fridge you needed to do your part. You refused to. This is my response.”
NTA, she’s proven herself a thief and proven unwilling to stop when confronted. Simple as that. I’d get a camera for my room though. No telling what else she might help herself to.
NTA. Why are you even asking?
NTA. She’s just pissed she can’t mooch anymore.
If she wasn’t stealing your food, she wouldn’t even notice that you had the extra fridge.
NTA
NTA, she just mad she can’t steal from you anymore
She got furious saying “I don’t trust her” …and with GOOD REASON, I say! The answer to that is, “No I don’t trust you because you have repeatedly stolen my food. I’m not sure why you’re surprised.“
It’s about time this thief realises her selfish and antisocial activities have consequences. Easy NTA.
NTA.
You asked her to stop, she ignored you, so you set a boundary. Protecting your food isn’t rude, it’s fair.
NTA