I was put into a group assignment with 3 other members in week 3 of term which is quite early considering the assessment was due in week 10 but it was to prepare to make a group chat and group document to make a presentations. I decided to make the effort to contact all members and make a group doc and even started the presentation, I messaged the group many times of what to do e.g it’s colour coded so choose the question you’d like to do. No response. I finished my work by week 5 so I could focus on other work and 3 days before due date, many people messaged the group asking what do I need to do? After clearly seeing the assessment brief, my colour coded questions and the presentation layout. It is a group mark so we will get the same grade (however, my average for this class is 97% and I was willing to allow a lower mark as it would not make me fault this class even if I scored below 50% as I did not want to do all the work considering I created all works and even had to teach them how to record). Much more happened that annoyed among the group members e.g not to my standard or rubric standard, correct referencing. There was a single peer review evaluation that all members had to submit, although only one person needed to submit the presentation on behalf of the group, every person had to submit an evaluation and it was very easy, just a score out of 5 for each member… I decided to be kind and text a reminder to the chat to submit the evaluation and 2 members replied saying what’s that, I don’t get it? And it bothered me as it was in the assessment brief, the page of submission, my Google doc and the presentation that I created about the evaluation. So I responded saying never mind, don’t worry I read the wrong thing. And I know they did not submit it and therefore would have failed their part but it bothered me that all members decided 3 days before to do the assessment, did not read any of the work or briefs of the assessment. We haven’t received our marks back yet but I worry she will message me soon being upset so I plan to delete the messages soon so it will show I was not involved in her submission.
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I was put into a group assignment with 3 other members in week 3 of term which is quite early considering the assessment was due in week 10 but it was to prepare to make a group chat and group document to make a presentations. I decided to make the effort to contact all members and make a group doc and even started the presentation, I messaged the group many times of what to do e.g it’s colour coded so choose the question you’d like to do. No response. I finished my work by week 5 so I could focus on other work and 3 days before due date, many people messaged the group asking what do I need to do? After clearly seeing the assessment brief, my colour coded questions and the presentation layout. It is a group mark so we will get the same grade (however, my average for this class is 97% and I was willing to allow a lower mark as it would not make me fault this class even if I scored below 50% as I did not want to do all the work considering I created all works and even had to teach them how to record). Much more happened that annoyed among the group members e.g not to my standard or rubric standard, correct referencing. There was a single peer review evaluation that all members had to submit, although only one person needed to submit the presentation on behalf of the group, every person had to submit an evaluation and it was very easy, just a score out of 5 for each member… I decided to be kind and text a reminder to the chat to submit the evaluation and 2 members replied saying what’s that, I don’t get it? And it bothered me as it was in the assessment brief, the page of submission, my Google doc and the presentation that I created about the evaluation. So I responded saying never mind, don’t worry I read the wrong thing. And I know they did not submit it and therefore would have failed their part but it bothered me that all members decided 3 days before to do the assessment, did not read any of the work or briefs of the assessment. We haven’t received our marks back yet but I worry she will message me soon being upset so I plan to delete the messages soon so it will show I was not involved in her submission.
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NTA. You already made it easy for them. If they had actually put in the least bit of effort, they wouldn’t be in this position in the first place.
It’s a group effort, but if a lot of the group seems not to care, it’s not your job to carry them all to the finish line.
These people are supposedly adults in college(?) Yeah, the world (and you) don’t owe them.
NTA, you gave them so many chances. You already did all the work for them, the least they could do would be to finish their own part
Did you have a conversation about the best way to approach or did you just decide that you were going to make all the decision? Because they way it sounded you automatically decided
NTA You can take a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink.
Yta the whole point of going to university rather than self based remote study at home is the fact that group study is proven to benefit most students. The better students benefit from explaining something as much as the worse students benefit from learning from them.
You are good at reading instructions and being a self starter. That’s amazing. It’s also not the only thing that will benefit your career.
Additionally, people can be intelligent and amazingly creative and not be good at the organized information gathering that you excel at.
Let’s say in the future you create your own business. You will need to skills to get the most out of your creatives as well as instruction followers. The diversity of thinking skills will benefit your future business enterprise and now is the time to learn to work with all sorts.
>2 members replied saying what’s that, I don’t get it? And it bothered me as it was in the assessment brief, the page of submission, my Google doc and the presentation that I created about the evaluation
Some people cannot be saved from themselves.
Nta.
You are a much better person than I am. After doing all the work, you are worried about someone that couldn’t bother to do the bare minimum!
I would keep all the communication with group members and share with the instructor. You did your part and don’t deserve a lower grade based on their crap performance. Even if it does nothing to mitigate your grade, the instructor needs to know that this group work assignment sucks.
For this specific thing? No.
Group stuff in Highschool or university annoys me so much. I know it usually gets spun as “you need to learn to work with people you don’t know etc” what that line of thought is missing is that in most cases if you don’t do your part, you can lose your job.
For most people getting a bad grade, especially as a group lacks those personal consequences. You have the power to screw over someone else, and if you don’t care that you get a bad grade, then there are no consequences for you.
NTA
ESH-yes they should have done more work. But honestly you did way too much at the start without talking to your group. They may have been confused because they didn’t understand your system that you arbitrarily imposed on them.
You also know you were not completely in the right or you wouldn’t say you were going to delete the communication.
NTA but please try to use paragraphs next time 😭🙏🏻